Victtoria

This made my day! what a 💝 gift today! thank you!

I finally came back to do this exercise. I’ve suppressed my inner hippie. Lmao. Makes sense though

I really feel this one. Growing up negative emotions weren’t ok. No one new how to treat them so they’re ignored or treated as bad. In my family, If I’m not happy I have to pretend to be or I get no connection. And actually today (that’s what led me to this video) I showed I was sad to my mom, like really crushing sadness and needing to talk to her. I got stone-walled by her. she didn’t say anything. Picked her phone up and ignored me. I’m not afraid to say I cried at that rejection. She had no clue I had any tears sitting 2 seats from her or had no clue how rejected she made me feel. I felt like I didn’t exist. Then for the rest of the day she was talking to me but it felt like she wasn’t really talking to me (It felt like she was talking to herself or to someone else) because she wasn’t connecting to me. She was happy while at the same time I was holding back tears (also made me feel like I was going crazy.) It feels awful. It also feel quite scary. (She has always coped with positive focus. When I think about it) I usually meet her (and others) where she is at but couldn’t today and this crushed me. Sadly, I’m more aware of why I isolate and why the world has always felt unsafe to me.

I related to every single person so much. The second to last women, asked my exact same question I had about barrier to connection -aka- social anxiety. very cool workshop! It was my first experience with a live workshop and I loved it. It was Intense. I’m really looking forward to more! ❤️

Good question! I was trying to work this one out myself. I believe she is saying we need to see why we are unsafe to them and take it in as valid. I believe that makes us safer to them which in turn makes us feel safer. Instead of fighting against or resisting them and making us and them feel more unsafe. 💙💜💙💜