Dreams are a direct reflection of what is going on with you vibrationally. The things you’ve been thinking and the feelings you’ve been feeling in your waking life and what manifests in your reality are always a match. Your dreams are always a vibrational match to what you’ve been thinking and feeling as well. Anything you focus on or pay attention to could manifest as a dream. Because you have no resistance in your sleep, you are not tensing yourself against the conditions of your life or condemning yourself or pretending things are different than they are and so you are able to see the reflection of your vibration exactly as it is. Your subconscious mind (things you don’t know that you don’t know) can be revealed to you. What does this mean for those of us who have nightmares? It means that in our waking life, we are under stress. We are chronically experiencing states of emotional duress and most likely emotional duress that we are either unaware of or don’t know how to resolve. Sleepers dream about what they encounter in real life, especially about emotional concerns. However, in your dreams these vibrations play out as exact reflections. This means that your mind will choose structure for these dreams that is the closest match to the vibration itself. The expectations and therefore beliefs in dreamscape are different than they are in waking state, which is why they can manifest in this way. In waking life, we may hold a belief ghosts do not exist. In dream state, we do not. So, in dream state, a ghost can show up.
Another example of how the mind will choose structure for these dreams that is the closest match to the vibration itself, is that in your waking life you may feel as if your boss at work is mean and elicits fear from you every time he enters the office. In dreaming life, the closest match to the actual feeling you feel may be trying to avoid getting eaten by an alligator. So, you will dream about an alligator, having no idea that the alligator symbolically represents your boss. In waking life, you may not be willing to own up to just how afraid you are of your boss. You may be tensing against the awareness of that fear by thinking that it is normal to feel bad about authority or by avoiding him.
To understand dreams in general, I want you to watch my video on YouTube titled: What Are Dreams and How To Understand Them. In this video on Dreams, I explained that life is essentially a learning hologram that facilitates universal expansion. This is the function of the perception of linear time and space. By seeing your vibration playing out in a dream, you can make amends to it. Dreaming helps therefore to incorporate memory, solve problems and process emotions. Nightmares are one of the best facilitators of resolution. They are simulated rehearsals of threat so that we will be prepared to survive if we continue to encounter a similar threat in our waking life. But what should we do with those nightmares? What should we do if our nightmares are causing us problems?
1. After you have a nightmare, just as you wake up from it, deliberately go back over the nightmare in as much detail as you can remember as if you are replaying it. But this time, consciously imagine aspects of the dream changing so that if feels good. Alter the events, circumstances, characters and outcomes so the emotional tone of the dream changes. I promise you this technique, though it sounds simple, is absolutely incredible. For example, if I had a bad dream about being attacked by a dog, I may re-play the dream and shrink the dog and have the dog disappear at the snap of my fingers. You have full artistic license here to alter the dream in literally any way that causes you to feel good. You could face and conquer a threat or alter the entire story line. Don’t consider what is possible or impossible or real or unreal. But the more believable the resolution is to you, the better the result will be in waking life. I’ve seen people who suffer from chronic nightmares stop having nightmares completely as a result of using this technique. You are essentially providing resolution for yourself by doing this, which is the entire reason the nightmare exists in the first place.
2. In my video titled “Dreams and How to Understand Them”, I put forth my favorite technique for unraveling dreams. In this process, you write down your dream as if it were happening in present tense and then you go into the perspective of (or become) every significant aspect of the dream and then explore and express your perspective from that stand point as if it were taking place in present tense. I gave an example of how to do this process in that video on YouTube. I also made myself a guinnea pig and wrote a blog where I applied this process to one of my own recurrent nightmares. If you are interested, you can look up these blogs titled “Three Handprints” and “Handprints The Follow Up”. Apply this process to your own dream.
3. As you are falling asleep, deliberately think about positive things. You may want to imagine a scene or story line that feels good to you. Or employ the technique that I like best, which is to imagine things that cause you to feel positive emotion in as much detail as possible. Think of this like flash cards of mental images that cause you to feel at ease or to feel positive emotion. For example, I may imagine a unicorn. I may imagine the way it smells and the way it feels and sounds. Then I may imagine sitting in the sunlight on the beach. Then I might imagine a plate full of chocolate chip cookies. Then I might imagine a place I love to visit. Yet again, the sky is the limit with this one. Anything and everything that feels good to think about is game.
Alternatively, like mental flashcards, try to remember every positive thing that you encountered throughout the day. For example, re-play a hug or kiss you got, replay the feeling of eating a meal you particularly liked, or what it felt like to read a positive e-mail you received or what warm shower water felt like against your skin. Those of us who have nightmares tend to ruminate. We tend to unconsciously replay flashcards of things that went bad throughout our day. We obsess over the negative way we feel and negative experiences we had. This bleeds over into dream life. So consciously doing the opposite is a powerful tool for us. 4. Develop a unique soothing ritual for your whole body before going to bed and really stay present as if it is a relaxing routine. For example, you may wish to take a warm bath or shower, paint, listen to music or guided meditations or simply the sound of someone’s reassuring voice and breathe deeply to fully oxygenate your body. you may wish to lay in bed and starting with your toes, place your focus on and tense the muscles in every individual part of your body, holding the tension for about 11 seconds and letting go completely so as to deliberately create full body relaxation. If you create a ritual, you will train your brain to associate relaxation with going to sleep and it is much less likely that you will have nightmares. Choose whatever ritual works best for you and don’t be afraid to experiment to find what works best for you.
5. Don’t cause arousal in your body before going to sleep and cut down on things that cause arousal during the day. For example, don’t stare at computer screens, TV screens or exercise or eat right before going to bed. Cut caffeine and sugar out of your diet and don’t watch scary or suspenseful movies. Doing things like this trigger the body into arousal instead of relaxation. They can tell the mind and body that it’s time to wake up or to face a threat. This stimulation can predispose you towards nightmares. If you are one of those people who feels they simply must spend time on the computer up until bed time, download an app that alters the light coming through your screen so that your circadian rhythm is not negatively affected. My current favorite app for this purpose is called Flux.
6. Let someone in on your nightmare, even if it is just the pages of a journal. Get it out from inside you and put it on the shelf. Preferably though, expose it to someone else. Social support is a beautiful tonic for nightmares. It reduces stress to have someone witness the things we are subconsciously or internally struggling with.
A nightmares is a symptom of a deeper emotional issue that needs to be made known to the conscious mind. Dreams are a doorway to your subconscious. If you struggle with nightmares, it is essential that in waking life you start to be proactive about reducing stress in your life. This may mean cutting back on work load, getting extra help here and there, seeing a therapist for help with problems that are causing you stress or anything else that may help reduce your stress levels. You may benefit by watching my videos on YouTube titled: “How To Get Rid Of Anxiety, A Natural Cure for Anxiety”, “How To Stop Worrying.” And “How To Stop Expecting the Worst (Catastrophizing)”.
Use your nightmares as a tool for enhancing your level of awareness. This is the best way to approach nightmares, rather than to set the goal of getting rid of them. It is best to treat each one as an opportunity for expansion and an internal cry for resolution. Know that your mind is not against you. There is nothing wrong with you if you have nightmares. And each one holds important information about you and for you, which will improve your waking life. Nightmares may cause you to feel fear, but you do not need to fear them.