Morality is about principles, fundamental truths or propositions that serve as the foundation for a system of belief, behavior or chain of reasoning. Morals are principals concerning the rightness and wrongness or goodness and badness of behavior. What is the problem with this? To start with Source or God never wrote a code of ethics and morals in the sky. You may believe a book contains these God given ethics and morals, but you cannot prove that God wrote them. You can only believe God wrote them. Or believe that whoever wrote them wrote them on behalf of God correctly. Or God forbid believe someone translated the original texts correctly. And the thing is, you can guarantee that even if you believe that a text on morality is the word of God, another group of people definitely does not. In fact they believe they have the word of God. This wouldn’t be a problem if both parties agree on what God said about morality. But guess what? They do not… what then? As much uncertainty as it creates to admit to it, the reality is that people do not agree on what is right or what is wrong. And God or Source does not have an opinion on the matter because what we call God or Source is a consciousness that exists in a state of non-judgment. But you can’t even prove that I am right about that can you… you can only believe that I am.
The concept of right and wrong is entirely subjective and it just so happens that sometimes multiple people agree. When they agree, they often collect into little groups and validate each other’s subjective viewpoint and become more convinced everyone else is wrong until suddenly they are at war and convinced it is perfectly morally right to be at war. Right versus wrong as it applies to morality is a very slippery slope. For example, many Christians believe it is wrong to kill. It is a tenant in their bible. And yet as we speak soldiers who call themselves Christian kill people in the Middle East and believe it to be morally right to do so. And so do we. We drive around with bumper stickers displaying our support of their efforts overseas. We also believe it is moral to support them. So which is it? Is it moral or immoral to kill? Is it moral or immoral to support those who kill? If so, when is it moral to kill and why? Just ask this question to a group of enough people and watch the fight over morality ensue. Why does this fight ensue? Because the minute we decide a code of conduct is moral, we believe it should be universal. We believe it should be a code of conduct that applies to everyone. In fact, we often assume it is the same for everyone and we’re shocked when we find this isn’t the case. This is one of the most shocking thing about traveling the world. The modern concept of morality is dependent upon geographical location. And guess what? Morals change over time. Just look at a brief overview of history. In Europe it was once considered to be immoral for men and women to have physical contact on the dance floor. They were expected to dance together from opposite sides of the room. In India, marriage between people of different Castes was seen as immoral. In America, it was immoral to say Blast or Wretch or even Gosh. So was educating women. At one point in history it was considered moral to burn widows with their deceased husbands. It was considered moral to stone people to death and to own slaves and the list goes on. Just take a look at history to see how much has changed about our view of morality. You can bet some of what we see as immoral today, will be seen as moral tomorrow and some of what we see as moral today will be seen as immoral tomorrow. Morals (which are completely subjective whether they are subjective to a person or subjective to a group of people) are based off of things like personally acquired values, cultural upbringing and religious affiliation. Some of these morals you may have consciously chosen to adhere to. But let me tell you, most of the morals you live by are not yours. Like scaffolding, they are the structure that you built your life upon within the society you live in and many of them do not serve you or society at all. These imprints are inherited. They are imposed on you. They need to be questioned. But questioning our morals makes us very uncomfortable. To do so, we must emotionally confront the consequences we fear we will face if we are wrong or bad.
Morals keep us from being condemned. Condemnation being of course the experience of being completely disapproved of, especially publicly. It is the ultimate form of shame. And it exists to help us avoid the consequences, especially punishments that may be accessory to that disapproval. Growing up in a moral household is an intensely painful experience, seeing as a child must go through the experience of condemnation at the hands of people who see condemnation as a way of loving their child. In this scenario, shame and love become synonymous and self-regulation becomes self-abuse. To understand more about this, watch my video on YouTube titled: How To Overcome Shame. We, who are negatively judged, grow up to negatively judge unless we intervene in that unconscious process within ourselves. Morals are dysfunctional because they close the mind and the heart down. If we hold too hard to an idea of right versus wrong or good versus bad, we shut our minds to seeing any alternative truth. We shut people with alternative truths out of our lives. Principals are rigid. They do not allow for the flexible flow one must develop in order to move through this life without creating suffering. Morals also destroy relationships as is evident in war. But even on a smaller scale, morality prevents us from really seeing our friends and partners and from understanding one another by standing in their shoes. As it applies to romantic relationships, nowhere is this morality issue more evident than in the argument over fidelity. To understand how this works, watch my video on YouTube titled: Fidelity and Infidelity in relationships. Conscience is an inner feeling or voice which is subjectively viewed as acting as a guide to the rightness or wrongness of one's own behavior. Yes. That’s right. Conscience is subjective too. But it is concerned with the self instead of others. In other words, it is more concerned with right or wrong for you specifically versus right or wrong in general. There is an intuitive feel to conscience where as Morality is guided by reason. Think of conscience like a guiding light. That light is obscured and bent by morals. Morals are like a filter that the conscience is fed through. By questioning your morals and learning to hold the ones you do have loosely; you remove the filter that is obscuring the light of your conscience. You can feel your own inner truth as well as objective truth surfacing. You become a highly guided person who acts according to your internal sense of yes or no but who does not impose that internal yes or no on others.
There is a reason that ethics (moral philosophy) is an entire branch of philosophy. There is no solid truth relative to right or wrong and so, it is wide open for investigation. And let me tell you, if you ever want to wander way out on a limb mentally and emotionally, and open your mind way up relative to right and wrong, just start snooping around for information made available from this branch of philosophy.
What do you think is right? What do you think is wrong? What do you think is good? What do you think is bad? Open your mind up to alternative views if you haven’t. Remain curious of alternative views and stay open to your own views relative to conscience changing as a result of that curiosity. You can continue to share your way and share how you feel relative to specific subjects without making other people ‘wrong’ and condemning them.
A person who has high morals does not just make others wrong, they run the risk of making themselves wrong and living a life riddled with shame and guilt because of it. Any time you live your life according to how you think things should be, and life brings you a scenario where your inner compass says yes, but your morals say no, you will be in a world of torment as a result of self-condemnation. If you are one of these people who knows that you have made yourself wrong according to your own moral standards, watch my video on YouTube titled: How To Let Go of Guilt.
I suggest that you lay down your moral judgments and instead make a practice of curiosity and conscience. It is the perfect antidote to the Ego’s morality trap. Any time you are confronted with a view or argument that triggers your morality buttons, consciously pretend you are an extraterrestrial with no prior ideas of right or wrong, good or bad. Try to take on their perspective entirely. Let it enter you as if genuinely considering it from their perspective with their background surrounded by their influences. Rigidity is a painful experience within the body. By doing this, you will feel yourself softening. Many times your own view will not change, but your condemnation of the other will. And morality will give way to conscience. You may just be able to find a meeting of minds.
Play this game with yourself as well, any time your internal compass says yes when your moral compass says no. Take on the perspective of the one who says no within you and then the one who says yes within you as if you are an extraterrestrial with no prior ideas of right and wrong and explore those two distinct perspectives and the values and needs and desires associated with each of them. Feel your self-condemnation melt away.
Question your morals and perhaps your conscience can shine through as a reflection of your true self because the correct way, the true way and the only way… does not exist.