You have been taught that your thoughts come in response to what you are observing. This is the first grand illusion that we have collectively stepped into and accepted as a species. The real truth is that what you are observing has come in response to your thoughts. It comes by virtue of what you have been paying attention to.
You have more power than you could possibly imagine. More than you probably want at times. Nothing ever happens out of the blue. We think it does because most of us do not have a good handle on what we are thinking. We don't recognize negative thoughts until after they manifest and even then, some of us do not make the connection. And when you focus on what does not feel good to focus on, when you focusi on the problem, when you focus on what you do not want, no matter how good of a person you are, you are inviting and creating the essence and then manifestation of those very things.
The universe (that which you know as source or God) is not vindictive, and free will is an absolute, but what free will do you have? The free will of thought, the free will of focus and what you give your attention to, and that is what creates the reality you live in. The energy making up the waves and particles of your physical reality rearrange themselves to match your dominant thoughts.
Children are creators as well even before they exit the womb. They are attracting their entire experience, including the experience of their own birth. And so when we see a child who is experiencing something painful or who comes into an abusive environment, we cannot accept the idea that they had anything to do with the experience. We see that as the greatest form of victimhood.
But this is from a poor understanding that we come to this judgment. We miss the fact that they too are eternal creators who also attract manifestations into their reality by virtue of their attention. No one and nothing is exempt from the cycle of creation. Help will come if you ask for it and believe that it will come, but no one can think for you. No one can interject him or herself into your experience and create for you, nor would they if they really cared about you and your highest good. To rescue someone from their own lives and their own thoughts is not to serve their highest good. It is to reinforce that they can't do it. It is to dis-empower them.
The choice to turn your attention towards something that causes you to feel good (and this will manifest as something that pleases you) is a moment-by-moment choice. No matter how negative your focus has been, you can change it right here and now. By putting your attention on anything that feels good to pay attention to.
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