It is no secret that people who we experience being loved by the very most sometimes become our most ardent haters. It just so happens that if we are only capable of practicing conditional love, The more intense our level of positive appreciation for (and therefore oneness relative to something is), the more intense pain we will feel as a result of losing that feeling of oneness and losing that positive feeling we had towards them. The more intense that pain is, the more hurt we perceive ourselves. The more hurt we perceive ourselves, the more deeply we will see ourselves as the victim and them as the threat. The more we see them as the threat and ourselves as the victim, the more we will hate them. This is why the people who loved us the most, our most avid fans, often become our greatest enemies.

Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel