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Teal Swan's Stance On Suicide

Tealon1.jpgThere has been a lot of confusion and misconception about my stance on suicide.  Specifically what my stance is and why...

To be crystal clear — I am against suicide. My ultimate goal is to help people who feel suicidal to get back in touch with the desire to live and the belief that their lives can feel good instead.  Hence why I did a video specifically to help people who are struggling with suicidal feelings and thoughts. It is a topic that touches me on a very personal level; therefore I cannot express my level of caring towards people who are suicidal and my level of desire for them to enjoy life instead.     

The standard, mainstream approach in the psychology field to suicidality and mental illness does not work as well as it needs to and even they know it.  I’m not the only person saying this. If it worked, people wouldn’t be looking for alternatives. This is the reason that psychologists and psychiatrists flock to my trainings to learn new methods for approaching mental illness.  Just this week, the head of the University of Pennsylvania mental health services committed suicide. It is an epidemic that we all need to solve together and we need to get really creative to do that. Having attempted suicide myself and spent years suicidal and having worked with people who are suicidal for years and having access to the ‘extrasensory’ information about the way that people’s thoughts and emotions really work, I can tell you that the standard approach doesn’t work. 

Suicide-How-To-Talk-about-It.jpgThe perspective of someone who is suicidal is unfathomable to most people.  And actually understanding their perspective is critical if you want to change it in any way.  Suicidal people are in so much torture in life that death feels like relief to them. They don’t see death like most people do.  They see it as a “cry for mercy escape hatch that stops all the pain”. Mainstream mental health professionals would say we need to encourage suicidal people to put that feeling and perspective out of their minds and focus on the goodness of life.  But this approach actually makes suicidal people feel worse. People who are genuinely suicidal are constantly rehearsing suicide, whether you are aware of it or not. If they are sitting in a room, they are thinking about the multiple ways they could do it and running through it in their heads.  This, on top of choosing the way they would choose to do it if it were planned, is an unconscious rehearsal process much like day-dreaming. It brings them relief to think about. Telling them not to think about suicide doesn’t work anymore than telling someone not to worry about what they are worried about.  Telling them not to do it because if they do, they will ruin other people’s lives doesn’t work to make them feel better. It makes them feel worse because now, on top of being in so much pain that they want to die, they are made to feel worse by the pressure of guilt and the responsibility for how other people feel.  What if there was another way that worked better? An approach that seemed counterintuitive to people who are on the outside looking in? What if we said to them, “sitting here in this safe space, let me humor you for a moment.” -- And we consciously play out the tragedy of it all and what happens afterward regarding their family and friends and we play out the “what then” after the initial relief they think they are going to get through death.  What if this kind of counterintuitive approach allows suicidal people to understand that suicide isn’t the answer they are looking for. What if they also clearly see that they don’t really want death; they just want life to feel better, which they feel totally powerless to making happen. What if this counterintuitive approach is what will help them clearly see that the best choice is to commit to life?  

Psychiatrist-Near-Me-2.jpgThere is a push right now for it to only be legal for licensed professionals who are trained by way of mainstream education to be speaking about and treating the mind and emotions. I’ve always been clear — and I’ll say it again now — I’m not a trained doctor or psychologist. I’m a personal development revolutionary and a spiritual leader. While I can appreciate the risk of people who really don’t know what they are doing, doing more damage, this scares me.  This scares me because there is a huge conflict between professionals who think the brain gives rise to consciousness and professionals who think consciousness exists beyond the brain and in fact gives rise to the brain itself. Because of this argument, problems with thoughts and feelings can’t be classified as purely a medical concern related to the brain. It also scares me because of how backwards the mental health field is at this time. Let’s not forget that all medical students at one time (and for a long period of time) were taught that bloodletting was the way to heal someone from illness.  This as we know, killed them. It just never occurs to us that psychology and psychiatry students are learning things that are equally as de-railed today. This scares me because it closes the door to many fields of thought, many of which have better answers. This scares me because it means that spiritual teachers and people who have found amazing cures themselves who want to share what worked for them with the world and self help experts would now be prevented from their purpose and unable to do what they do. Imagine telling the Dalai Lama or Socrates or Eckhart Tolle or Anthony Robbins “it’s not ok for you to talk about depression, in fact we can fine you for practicing therapy without a license if you try to help someone with it because you’re not a psychologist”.  On top of this, it is a scary world we are coming to if someone has overcome suicidality and no one is interested in hearing their perspective on how they did that because they are not a psychologist themselves. The way the world is headed today, if an extraterrestrial being landed on earth with the answers for mankind, he would be asked for credentials and then turned against.          

demon tea.jpgI am in a very difficult position teaching about suicide as a spiritual leader because my theories often differ from the mainstream psychological community. This focus that people in the media have put on me in relation to suicide has painted the opposite picture of me than is the reality.  They never speak about the psychologists and psychiatrists who specifically seek me out because they agree with me and see what I’m doing as a step forward for the mental health field. They don’t interview the abundance of people who say their lives were saved by my material. What they do not get is that when I talk about suicide, everything I say demonstrates that I get people who are suicidal better than anyone else does.  Therefore, more and more suicidal people come to my events and social media platform every day. I would welcome this except now I find myself in slippery territory. I now have a disproportionate amount of suicidal people being driven to me in droves and am being told that if any of them commit suicide, I may be held responsible. The reality is that overcoming suicidality is about changing a person’s life circumstances so their life feels good instead of bad.  As much as I want to, it is impossible for me to personally make sure that each of the millions of people that watch my videos or are part of my social media platforms are doing that. Therefore, it is impossible to guarantee that no matter how much I may want to or try to help, someone who begins to follow my material might commit suicide. And I grieve every single one, because suicide is a tragedy. Its painful ripple effects are astronomical. All this being said, it is my opinion that our attitude towards suicide and our unwillingness to explore the right way to approach suicidality is reflective of our own fear of death. That fear might just be preventing us from exploring the perspective that suicidal people hold deeply enough to figure out what does really work for them, which in my experience is distinctly different from what we think will or should work for them.     

I am getting the message that it is better to not take any risk by not talking about suicide at all.  What does this say about our society today? This ‘taboo’ we have painted around suicide, paints suicidal people themselves as taboo, which is something I am unwilling to do.  I do not want to fight the mainstream mental health system. I want healing to be integrative and that includes those from a clinical background. But I am compelled to represent these individuals and what I think they truly need, which is not something that society is currently recognizing.  People don’t want to die. They just want to stop hurting. Unfortunately, they feel so powerless to create a life that feels good instead of hurts that they think dying is the only way they can stop hurting. And we need to stop approaching them with methods that are intended to help them feel better, but that instead hurt them worse.

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You have R Mars and R Saturn in Scorpio so you are someone who dives fearlessly into the taboo and uncomfortable darkness with focus and maturity. I've experienced a lot of suicidal ideation and it is really unpleasant, I feel like I can provide some insight on a true solution... I have had a NDE where I crossed over and honestly I feel like death is pretty beautiful as a result of what I experienced, so I don't blame people for wanting to escape the madness and pain of life. Humanity is totally disconnected in this old paradigm from the truth of who, what, when, where, how and why they are. This disconnection causes the misery and suffering, so you are hunnit percent correct in saying we need to reconnect.

On the surface level, I can say that in treating my condition a product called colloidal gold really helped me, and I always recommend this for people going through depression. In addition, I believe that wireless frequencies and gut flora/probiotics play a huge factor in mental health, so I raise awareness about that as well. In healing our emotional body, we must consider the positive impact of conscious eating to help balance unstable thoughts and emotions, and re-calibrate the spirit.  A supportive community is important, where you can be authentic and intimate and heart-centered and grow together without judgement. Nature is therapeutic, hugging trees and grounding, fresh air, sunshine, pure water, creation. Entheogenic substances used respectfully in safe environments can also really help bring the unconscious to the surface and connect new neural pathways to open up new possibilities previously not thought of.

But what truthfully kept me going was much deeper than all that.

The only reason I am still here is because of my Dharmic soul purpose and sense of self. I know who I am. I know what I'm supposed to do in this world. I know how necessary I am. That's what saved me.

Astrology has given me even more insight and confirmation into this, but it is this deep sense of self and sense of my place in this universe that was the key for me and that has given me a sense of.... unconditional self love? pride? duty? obligation? reason? purpose? courage? I found a reason, something to believe in. 

My Dharma is to establish Anark-Eden (true freedom in paradise) on planet Earth, to inspire and initiate a Conscious Human Uprising 2018-2025. I feel like this concept I have been envisioning and manifesting can provide everyone with a light at the end of the tunnel, where currently people see hopelessness and no way out! This is what it provided me. Anarkeden is astrologically aligned, divinely inspired, spiritually encouraged, and most importantly, it helps people discover their self, creates a beautiful, good and COMFORTABLE life that no one would want to escape from, and it would really connect people with the truth of this universe exponentially. 

Anark-Eden is a decentralized, wild system harmonized with Natural Law; a symbiotic, mutually-beneficial, ecologically-stimulating, spiritually-liberating, automatic-abundance economy, never before tried – except in Atlantis! By rising above the old paradigm and channeling our energy towards mutually-beneficial initiatives, we will create a thriving state of Anarkeden!

The Uprising involves a lot of emotional and personal work, as well as collaboration to co-create a symbiotic life, the solution strategy is available on my website for free. I feel this is vitally important because depression is a symptom of a much larger causal issue which is society is broken and people are unconscious and disconnected from the Love vibration.

It is those whom refuse to acknowledge suicide or any of the darkness in human society that are causing more, through their ignorance and denial and lack of personal responsibility to own up to their own contribution to this condition and their own ability to make a difference.

By working from this causal plane of reality - the why before manifestation - we can provide true and permanent shamanistic healing to this planet and prevent and mitigate these symptoms from manifesting in the first place.

This is the true solution to every single problem humanity faces and I know you are already aware of this. I just feel the word Anark-Eden is a very beautiful vibration and can be used as a mechanism to initiate a RISE in consciousness and LOVE and inspiration in order to reclaim our Right to Freedom in the Garden of Eden. I can't do it alone but I believe this idea has so much potential.

Problem:

Disconnection
Malnutrition
Poor Health
Artificial Scarcity
Violent System
Unhealed Trauma
Unconscious Parenting
Unnatural Environment

 

Solution:

Love
Nutrition
Shamanism
Permaculture
Anarkeden
Self-Awareness
Conscious Parenting
Natural Environment

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PS: "Never knowing for sure if someone is a friend of yours or just someone pretending to be, so as to catapult their own self-esteem or career manipulatively with your fame as the springboard."

I genuinely think your work is really awesome and want u to know my only motivation is to free humanity, heal the environment, and end suffering on planet earth. I don't want to make a career of it, not looking for fame, of course I'd love some money but I am providing my content for free as a philanthropist. I just want to share the idea with as many people as I can because I am so enlivened and impassioned by it and excited for what it can achieve in reality once enough people see it.

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Mercury Retrograde

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Such an incredibly difficult situation.. you have such a vital life purpose, yet the shadow side of it looks virtually unbearable. You must be exhausted on every level. Personally I would contact Eckhart Tolle.. go visit him.. ask him about this and hear his perspective/advice. He’s so insightful, like yourself. I’d love to hear what he says. Like you he’s so wise, but different too. Not better. Different.

Thank you Teal for the truth you allow to come through you, I find your YouTube videos and your teachings totally invaluable to my journey. There are good people out here who appreciate you and what you do, so very much. Thank you for your sacrifice and I’m so sorry that you are suffering so much under its burden. Love to you, from an ordinary person who blames you for nothing. I hope you’re ok and can find a path through. 

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Hi Teal and team

I would like very much to think you would actually read this. First I appreciate you. I love you. Whole team. I love what you do. I am a little insignificant human living on the tip of Africa a place you will never visit. Without that fame thing I would never have found you. I would never have had the opportunity to be exposed to your teachings. As I said I'm insignificant so I have not encountered any of these fame problems. But it feels like you are living in the problems of fame instead of embracing the positives. (I imagine you know this but in your blog there is no balance you only refer the negative and problems without looking at some of the positives) Main stream media love controversy. People thrive on negativity they thrive on people failing especially famous people because it makes them human. You used Angelina and Brad. Imagine an average unawake person looking at their lives. They perceive them to have everything. Money partnership children career success they are beautiful to look at. They aren't fat lonely or poor. I imagine there is an emotion of God I want that life, and realistically I cant have that life so I am going to do everything to destroy that life. And when shit goes wrong everyone rejoices. The media the public they become like vultures on a kill. You have to accept that fame has its negatives and that is it's big positive. So someone who hasn't heard of Teal sees an article on how you encouraged suicide and they think wow what a terrible person. Another person will think ha what's this about and listen to your video. That could save that one person. Instead of resenting the measures you have to put in place because of the fame embrace them because without them your message would not be as strong or as loud. Your haters make your message louder. Protect yourself as best you can. Protect your team as best you can. Most especially protect your little angel. Put measure in place so you feel safe. Allow the haters to hate. Allow the media to say what it will. Allow those to dishonor you. Dont resent it. Do the chores willingly. Embrace the fact that you have reached so many people. 

I remember reading or listening to the story of the woman who killed herself. At the time I was irritated with the crap people were spewing. When a person dies like that everyone looks for something or someone to blame. You will be in that firing line. When someone thinks that they have support in their blame game they feel vindicated and fueled to make more noise. But that's what it is .. noise. Imagine being a person who has lost someone to suicide. Perhaps those people need more help. They were not enough to keep the person alive. The person killed themselves even though I'm here and love them. They abandoned me. Why did I not see the terrible space they were in. Why did they not speak about it. Why was I not enough to help them. What an invalidation. Imagine being able to find someone to blame how empowering. 

Sorry I'm preaching. And you know all that I am saying. Sometimes reminding helps. I hope it does. We could talk for hours on the dynamics of everything. (In fact I would love that). 

Embrace your fame. Dont resent the time spent doing stuff to undo the damage of the haters. Thank them. Their noise makes your message louder.

You will need to harden when dealing with people. Keep your circle close. Fame doesn't only bring fake people being human does. Being a person who acts from a space of love brings haters. That is not fame dependant.  I have nothing to offer on this without another preachy essay. Which you dont need or want.

I have to go to work or I could do this all day. Rambling on. I feel we will meet one day in person. I think that is destined.

Embrace your fame. The message is louder than the haters noise. Protect yourself and family to feel safe.  

Your fame saved me. Your message re suicide is clear. Wait you can always do that. It is always there as a back up plan. I thought it was inspired and I still do. Keep doing what you are lead to do.

Little South African who was helped by Teal.

 

 

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Hi Teal and Blake and Gabi and Lynn and Winter and everyone on the Team, I just want to share that you each are part of my reason for recommitting to Life over and over again. On days I am ready to exit I think about what hope remains in the world. Something worth fighting for,  something worth living for. I remember the movement that you helped facilitate,  by helping me find other people who have dreams like mine. Dreams of creating authentic connection. On days I am crawling I remind myself there is a "Teal Swan" warrior in the world. And it gives me strength,  reminds me of my own courage, and that I won't leave her fighting alone. 

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 I wrote this a while back during a thankfulness exercise of things I feel genuine positive for. You were on that list. The movement is so much bigger than just you but you symbolize it to me. But the movement IS bigger than just you, Teal Love, It will go on because it is our hunger and desire. So that's my voting to take some pressure off you ?

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Great blog Teal. So needed that people learn that spiritual teachers don’t live in vacuum they are part and parcel of the context they live.
By the way, I am working on the issue of Suicide since few months. In Northern areas of Pakistan, suicide is quite rampant, and the way mental heal community deals with the issue is like fixing a problem. They make it as a technical issue since and not as a social and existential emotional issue. The underlying assumption is that this is something to be prevented because subconsciously it hurts and reflects our own shadows. I and my colleague recently tested out a more humanistic approach to Suicide prevention which I would love to share with you if got an opportunity . It pretty simple and effective. , I have learned a lot from you about the topic and strongly feel that it can be taken to the common people in the communities even the illiterate in our societies. I am trained in social sciences especially in participatory action research and community engagement approaches. Since you mentioned in your article about how to do that. In my opinion, to spread your message quicker and faster, we need to develop groups of catalysts in every community in the globe, so that communities are able to own the issue of suicide themselves and generate local responses. I am testing out one in Pakistan in the northern areas.
I am writing an op ed triggered by this blog which I will be happy to share and seek your feedback on if possible . So happy to know you .....??

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Perhaps another book?  Training CP practitioners/making your own hotline for suicide prevention?  Idk if you could do a commercial for that, but since it is taboo, it would get a lot of attention.  

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That does sound like immense pressure, don't think I could deal with it as well as you have, it sucks to be given that kinda responsibility by others and to not feel like you can trust anyone

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Also, there's a Korean music group called BTS whose popularity is pretty much based around their social consciousness, and not just in Korea, worldwide to.  They're gaining a lot of attention, and since you like rap it could possibly be your cup of tea.  

 

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We just need to start centers in various places. Period. I am hoping to be part of one and help create it. Then people feeling suicidal or just having emotional distress in general can come in. There would be psychologists who are familiar with your work and maybe trained in CP plus CP practitioners, energy workers/healers, etc. I am desperate to create this...

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Hi Teal,
You say Cameron Clark was in your community when Leslie committed suicide, but Leslie committed suicide on May 20, 2012. Cameron Clark came to your community in 2013 when Fallon was your partner. I remember seeing those shadow house episodes w
ith both of them. In the website you made with testimonials (thetruthaboutteal.com) it is also clear that Cameron joined your community in 2013. I also checked your blog and your relationship with Fallon happened in 2013, not 2012 (https://tealswan.com/teals-blog/lido-key/). 

What is going on here? Can you please explain?

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Teal,

I loved this blog. I notice in the comments that the level of empathy is almost zero, but that's the trouble with low consciousness. It simply can't see outside the box. Your very intellectual way of conveying insights does not reach the bulk of them I think...

I would not have told the 'unbalanced associate'-story naming names. I sense that you may have poured more oil on a fire. For sure you didn't make more friends. In my view, this is gossiping and there are a few other metaphors I can come up with for this subconscious behaviour. And that is a pattern I've pointed out to Ale as well, in response to one of his FB posts about his ex-wife. It's Authenticity vs shaming. You're shaming people.

This blog allowed me to punch two Blind Spots today ; traits of a Bipolar disorder and the antagonism in me. Well, I see more clearly now how twisted the world really is. But we are making progress within the bigger picture.... Bipolar. Mirror mirror. haha.

 

Self reflection is wisdom. Enjoy your evening.

X

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The world must love mediocrity, because it created so many of us common folk.  A bad mashup, on my part, of thoughts/quotes from “Amedeus” and Abraham Lincoln.  I hope you get what I mean.  Take courage dear.

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Hi, 

I am a crisis worker and may have an interesting perspective on this subject. Not only do I work in this specific line of work (suicide prevention) but I also have spent my entire life in a state of passive suicidal ideation. I have recently obtained my therapist license. I spent my first year out of school working on a suicide/crisis hotline. And now, I currently work as a crisis worker on a mobile crisis team. We go out and engage with people who are suicidal, homicidal or experiencing psychosis or some other sort of mental health crisis. We meet with people all over the place: jails, schools, hospitals, homes, and in strange places like parking lots and grocery stores. I work with people who see trauma and crisis all day. We collaborate with law enforcement, hospital staff and other community resources to help people. All of this sounds great on paper: we try to provide support, resources and help to people who are at their most vulnerable. But the reality is that I am aware how useless and ineffective my job is. The mental health field right now does nothing to resolve people's pain, and I go to work everyday knowing that. We put people in psychiatric hospitals or send them to clinics where they get no help to resolve the actual trauma that initiated the crisis in the first place. I started following your work about 3 years ago, and I knew that one day your method for trauma resolution is going to be the way that things start to change. I just feel very conflicted because most people in this field would not see "shadow work" as an effective or safe way to treat crisis. Your work is going to be very controversial, but I honestly know that it is going to be the norm one day. I just don't know how to integrate your methods into my job at this time. I work for the county, and you have to do things a certain way to keep your job. So i have to use the tired and ineffective methods that I don't find helpful in order to stay in line. Don't get me wrong, I still think that there are some parts of crisis work that are helpful, like being able to listen and be present for people in crisis, but i'm ready for things to start changing in a big way so that we can enact long-lasting change in this field. 

 

I really love my job. Its very fun and interesting. And I get to be there for people when they feel more alone than ever. But as someone who is chronically "over" being alive, I want to see treatment that actually works for people like me. And I would love to be apart of the wave of change that your work will bring.  

-LJ

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