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Stories arise this morning of another mass shooting, this time in California.  In short, a young man gunned down six people in an attempt to exact his revenge on the human race, most especially the girls that had denied him.  What sets this particular incident apart is that he had made a series of YouTube videos explaining his motivation in detail.  I have been asked today several times to give my opinion about this event.  I have decided to oblige these requests.

hands-1926414_640.jpg.0f6ab66dfea3a245a7d8f073c2580128.jpgI want to begin by saying that there are victims on both sides of the gun.  This is always the story without exception.  We must cultivate understanding for the internal hell that causes such a person to behave in such a way.  Without this understanding, we cannot alter the causation of such events; we will simply go on tinkering with effects.  Without proper understanding of causation, we will increase our gun laws and monitor YouTube so we can crack down on threats.  This will change nothing.  The real change must happen at a much deeper level.  The way we raise our children must change and the world we are bringing them into must change.

This particular event is an absolute breakthrough for sociologists because this man is not only the absolute poster child for events like this, he also left a perfect trail of clues to piece together the causation of people like himself.  These mass shooters often have specific elements in common.  They are intellectual outcasts.  They are involved in violent media (like movies or cartoons or video games) as a way to both escape and express the suppressed rage that is covering their deeply suppressed grief at being rejected.  The question is, rejected by whom?

shutterstock_445511722.jpg.e24e8390b65cac650c57fdbad6d818d2.jpgThese shooters will often explain who they want to kill and why.  But they are doing so from a place within them that is unconscious of who they really want to kill and why.  The target of their rage (in this case girls who wont give him affection) is in fact only a reflection of a deeper wound within them.  Their relationship with their primary caregivers.  Our relationship with “people” and with “the world” is nothing more than a reflection of our relationship with our primary caregivers.  All of us are un-integrated children.  These mass shooters are in fact reacting against the pain of the rejection they felt from one or more of their primary caregivers.  They did not get the affection or attention they needed.  Because of this, they lack two of the most primary human needs, loving connection and significance.  This painful emotion within them was invalidated and they could do nothing about it and so it was covered over with rage and it was suppressed.  They spent the rest of their lives (especially from the onset of external orientation at puberty) trying to gain approval from other people.  The mind does this to try to gain closure and resolution for the old wound.

shutterstock_551944534.jpg.7a2d959652b828acb37ee2de1db3a0a3.jpgThe subconscious motivation was this: “If I can get a girl to love me then mom loves me.  If I can be significant to a girl, I am significant to mom”, “If I can get a girl to pay attention to me, then mom pays attention to me etc.”  But the buried emotional pain is what needs healing.  That pain needs to be allowed and fully felt, like it wasn’t when he was a child.  And so, the universe continues to match the vibration of the pain in hopes that he will one day integrate it.  In his reality, this takes shape of continuing to be cast out by the popular crowd and ignored by girls.  He copes the same way he coped as a child.  He indulges in the “cover emotion” of rage and revenge.  He becomes preoccupied with violent video games and movies and fantasies because we all know it feels a lot better than the time stopping grief of rejection.  Each time he engages in this cycle of suppressing the pain and grief, the pain and grief gets bigger and louder and he gets rejected a little bit more until he finds himself at a crossroads of no return.  He has only one option… to reject what rejected him. 

The “void” look you see in their eyes is the look of realization that they will never get the loving connection they need.  Their connection with love is severed.  Their connection with the human race is therefore severed.  Because love is the closest vibration to source energy itself (otherwise known as the soul), when they reach that point where they give up the search for affection and submit to their disconnection with love, they now hold a vibration that is so vibrationally different than source itself, they appear soul-less.  Instead of the presence of source consciousness that we are used to seeing in the eyes, we see void.  Because one cannot remain disconnected like this from their own soul and remain alive, they now become a match to death themselves.  But they still need significance.  And it occurs to them that the way to get this significance (if they can’t get it through being loved) is through being feared.  The best way to become significant to someone if you can’t become the object of their affection is to take their life.  The best way to become significant to the world is to make the world fear you.  The ego (identity) which is being threatened becomes preoccupied with the feeling of superiority that occurs when you are capable of controlling a person and the world to such a degree.  The ego (identity) is sick and tired of how insignificant and inferior it feels because of the painful relationship (or lack thereof) with it’s primary caregiver(s).  Because the ego (identity) sees the world vertically, it sees only inferior and superior.  It seeks to escape inferiority by becoming superior and having power over others.  The rage that is the result of this suppressed pain mixed with the loss of hope for love mixed with the drive for significance (to be noticed) mixed with the relief that is felt when one seeks revenge, mixed with that relief being indulged through violent media, leads to a definitive decision… To kill the reflection of that suppressed pain.  In this case, popular girls and anyone who got to have what he didn’t get to have.  By doing so, he is in fact killing his primary caregiver and anyone else in his family that got the attention that he did not get.  And in fact, some mass shooters do kill the parent that they felt rejected by as a part of their killing spree, though many are not consciously aware of why.

If you watch the video this man made and every time he says “girls”, you to replace that word with “mom” or “dad”, you will understand exactly the condition that gives rise to this kind of act against humanity.  And where do you think he learned punishment from?  The answer is from his parents and from society.  As long as we still raise our children in an atmosphere of punishment and reward, we will create people who seek to “punish” those who hurt them.

This event is not isolated.  This event is not even surprising.  In a society like the one we have today, our ignorance and suppression will result in outbursts.  Consider these incidents eruptions at the weakest point.  And until we understand human emotion fully, we will still be telling the lie that some people are just born this way.

The question we should all be asking is… How do we structure our society so that all children have access to their primary emotional needs, especially Love/Connection and Significance regardless of what their parents do or don’t do?

 

 



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I was actually planning to ask you your opinions on Elliott Rodger, incels, neckbeards, etc. They tend to focus at lot on physical appearance and attractiveness. Looks, money, status. I want to ask you about prebirth intentions and why people choose to be ugly vs beautiful. It seems this changes dynamics of significance drastically. Especially since everyone wants to be beautiful and admired genuinely. And even if those who are beautiful aren't really being seen for who they are because people only want them for their beauty, not the truth of them, at least they can have the halo effect and still get away with things average and certainly ugly people can't get away with. It always seemed curious to me how beautiful sought after women like Marilyn Monroe can commit suicide because the only way for her to succeed in Hollywood and get what she wanted was to play a role in everyone's overlay, to her demise. And people like Elliott Rodger couldn't connect because nobody cared for his pain and he couldn't connect with people. Taking that angry out on beautiful women who reject him despite his best efforts.  One end you have beautiful blonde women who are highly sought after and "can manipulate men to get what they want from them" and ugly men who have no chance in hell to get the beautiful women they desire because the women have much better options in their eyes. They can't met eachothers needs and completely incompatible. And yet, the gap for connection that way grows. And both of their hatred for men with Looks, money, and status grows because they are powerless to that "Chad". The men who wins no matter what because they have all the chips, and its convenient for them. And then the women who are unattractive are also longing for a man with Looks, money, and status because its safe and luxurious. I can tell I'm missing a part of the story and I'm unconscious to something, specifically the perspective of men who are disconnected and have all the power. I wonder how they need to get that control. I know its best for someone fully competent to have the choosen role and responsibility of Leader, therefore creating containment and perfect care of those in his care. But what is the shadow of this, what causes it, and who can the human race change this dreadful dynamic?

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On 12/23/2020 at 10:45 AM, littlemonkey246 said:

I was actually planning to ask you your opinions on Elliott Rodger, incels, neckbeards, etc. They tend to focus at lot on physical appearance and attractiveness. Looks, money, status. I want to ask you about prebirth intentions and why people choose to be ugly vs beautiful. It seems this changes dynamics of significance drastically. Especially since everyone wants to be beautiful and admired genuinely. And even if those who are beautiful aren't really being seen for who they are because people only want them for their beauty, not the truth of them, at least they can have the halo effect and still get away with things average and certainly ugly people can't get away with. It always seemed curious to me how beautiful sought after women like Marilyn Monroe can commit suicide because the only way for her to succeed in Hollywood and get what she wanted was to play a role in everyone's overlay, to her demise. And people like Elliott Rodger couldn't connect because nobody cared for his pain and he couldn't connect with people. Taking that angry out on beautiful women who reject him despite his best efforts.  One end you have beautiful blonde women who are highly sought after and "can manipulate men to get what they want from them" and ugly men who have no chance in hell to get the beautiful women they desire because the women have much better options in their eyes. They can't met eachothers needs and completely incompatible. And yet, the gap for connection that way grows. And both of their hatred for men with Looks, money, and status grows because they are powerless to that "Chad". The men who wins no matter what because they have all the chips, and its convenient for them. And then the women who are unattractive are also longing for a man with Looks, money, and status because its safe and luxurious. I can tell I'm missing a part of the story and I'm unconscious to something, specifically the perspective of men who are disconnected and have all the power. I wonder how they need to get that control. I know its best for someone fully competent to have the choosen role and responsibility of Leader, therefore creating containment and perfect care of those in his care. But what is the shadow of this, what causes it, and who can the human race change this dreadful dynamic?

It shows all humans are too obsessed with how they look. Incels, male and female are severly vain. They do not want to be with one another because of this vanity and they are a projection of humanity vanity. Most incels of both genders do not realize how severly vain they are when they could be f**king each other like rabbits. If looks were the only problem. Elliot Rogers was not ugly, he did not have to be an incel. He had a huge ego and when he did not get the women he wanted he snapped. He could have been with many women if he treated them like humans and not objects probably. 

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