I have been inundated with e-mails this week from people who are struggling financially. Most of these emails are coming from people who want to make money, but either don’t believe they can (given their humble beginnings) or don’t believe they should (given their spiritual orientation). It has inspired me enough that I’ve decided to dedicate an entire blog to the topic.
The idea that spirituality and money can’t co-exist and that there is something ethically wrong with turning spirituality into a business is a sacred idea to many of us. We take it as so much of a truth; we are unwilling to question that fully. In actuality, assigning value to your offering on a spiritual level is no different than assigning a value to an item that is totally unrelated to spirituality because the item is no less spiritual than your spiritual work is. Physical, material things are not separate from source energy. They are not separate from spirit. They are extensions of spirit. What does this mean? Money too, is an extension of spirit; so it is a misunderstanding to say that money and spirituality is a contradiction.
Most of us who are dedicated to spirituality pour our own mind, heart soul, money and time into spiritual practice. We dedicate our lives to it in the same way that any other professional pours their existence into their trade. And so the question to ask yourself is: Do you value your dedication and your skills? Do you think highly enough of yourself or what you have to offer (your expertise) that it is conceivable that what you know could benefit and therefore be valuable to someone else?
In today’s current society, would you ask a surgeon or a psychologist to do what they do for free? Is it feasible that they could donate enough time to being a surgeon if they were expected to work a full time shift at another job where it was ethical to make money? The answer is no. They would not have the time or energy to donate themselves to their work if this was the case. But this is what many of us are expecting of ourselves when we are in the spiritual field! That or that they be independently wealthy. The truth is: We’re making money an enemy again. We’d do much better to fall in love with it. Falling in love with money is the opposite of greed. Treat it like air. You do not doubt that air is there, so you breathe in and out without worry that it will always be there for you. It comes as it goes. It goes as it comes. It flows.
Don’t worry about becoming a heartless, greed driven monster, it is never going to feel good to you to reject someone who genuinely values and desires what you have to offer but can not financially afford it currently. And if it is within your wherewithal to enable them to see you in some way without feeling as if you are sacrificing yourself, then enable them to see you. If it feels good to do, we can create a solution that enables the person to see us while at the same time not sacrificing ourselves. Get creative with this. In the past, some people have created payment plans, some have accepted trade, some accept donations from people who are philanthropic and whom want to pay for someone else who can’t afford it themselves. The most important thing is that we must stay in alignment with out own sense of integrity; and we are the only ones capable of defining the parameters of our own personal integrity. We cannot draw absolutes about what is or isn’t right, what is or isn’t in alignment because right and wrong are human concepts that do not exist from source’s perspective. Our alignment is always based on our perspectives and where we currently are vibrationally, and that is always different from person to person. This is why the most important thing to do, is to decide what is and what isn’t in line with your integrity and your integrity alone. The second most important thing to do is to really question and decide why something is or isn’t in line with your integrity. Your own sense of integrity should be your compass. Your own sense of integrity should be the basis of your every decision. And you shouldn’t try to force your own sense of integrity on someone else by expecting your standards and perspective to be their standards and perspective.
We need to be willing to really do the work to figure out WHY it bothers us to assign a monetary value to spiritual work. This will help you to sort out the limiting beliefs and illusions from what your real, beneficial truth is relative to money and spirituality. I want to remind you that choosing a value is not the same as deciding what your work is actually worth. Worth is relative. If people don’t think what you’re offering is worth the monetary value you decide to place on something, they do not have to buy it. That is not your problem. It is not your job to make them happy. That is ultimately what they want you to do when they ask you to adjust your decisions to suit them. They feel powerless towards their own happiness and powerless towards money. They feel that their happiness is dependent on you making them happy. Mentally, they have money wrapped up with corruption and evil and the lack of money wrapped up in righteousness and virtue. It isn’t true; but it is the reality they’ve bought into. You validate those things for them if you sacrifice yourself to accommodate them. You may gain their approval, but is approval really worth sacrificing yourself for?
The fact of the matter is, most of us have such a negative mindset about money that the extrinsic motivation of money diminishes our intrinsic motivation to do what we love to do. Do you want to dedicate your life to spiritual practice and to providing others with the fruits of that dedication? Or do you want to work at a job that you do not feel passion for, just because you have been told and you have been telling yourself that it is more ethical? Is it really more ethical to make money doing something you don’t actually want to do like working and MacDonald’s than it is to involve money in your spiritual practice?
And you don’t need to worry, if you find that your love for money wins out over your love of spirituality (and you find that it is undermining your spiritual and ethical values) there’s nothing wrong with that. There’s nothing wrong with that any more than there is something wrong with loving vanilla ice cream more than spirituality. That is simply your indication that it is time to quit the spiritual business and make the pursuit of money itself your joy and your goal. There’s nothing wrong with this, it’s called becoming an investor. And there truly are people whose number one passion is currency, that are fabulous people. They just aren’t the ones that make it into the news.
It’s not wrong for you to desire a world that is not based on money where everyone has everything they need all the time no questions asked. But my guess is that unless you are off the grid completely, you live in a financially driven world. You can either resist that and make yourself miserable or find and embrace aspects that you do love about a world that runs on the basis of finance and continue to be in a state of joy and therefore alignment with your higher self.
You can still be a free loving, kind, compassionate and generous person and set a price on whatever it is that you are offering. You aren’t expecting everyone to pay that price. You’re simply expecting that there will be people on this planet who value what you’re offering enough to get that price. The ball called free will is still in their court. They can always choose whether that price is worth what they re going to get out of it or not. And if it feels like a risk to spend that money, they can choose whether the risk is worth it or not. You aren’t controlling them in any way.
Most people are actually glad to contribute to your success and wellbeing, which is what money can allow us to do (it allows us to participate in other people’s thriving). If they aren’t glad, it is because they feel powerless to money and feel taken advantage of by other people when asked to do what they don’t feel capable of doing (such as spending money). If this is the case, it is because they do not actually see value in what you do. Again that is not your problem. That is up to them whether they see or don’t see value. You are supporting the well being of the world by flowing money in the direction of what brings you joy.
The bottom line is: You should be doing the job that you would be doing both
- If you never got paid a cent for it and
- If you were so wealthy you didn’t need to get paid for it.
But there is nothing wrong with earning an income to support your day-to-day life and the lives of those who depend on you while doing that thing that you love the most.
Receiving money for what you love to do is just a bonus. A bonus that in today’s society is not just beneficial, it is necessary.
Money does not begin “out there” in the world; it begins in the mind. If you focus at the world with an attitude of abundance, abundance must come to you. This is universal law. We cannot focus on things that cause us to feel as if we lack money and make money at the same time. We cannot focus at things that cause us to believe that it is hard to make money and make money easily at the same time. We cannot need/want money and hate/reject money at the same time without getting stuck in a holding pattern where no money flows into our experience.
The real reason that people, who come from wealth, create more wealth is less about the luck of their financial resources, as it is that their parents taught them to think rich instead of think poor. In a world where money begins in the mind, the person who thinks rich is rich. The person who thinks poor is poor.
I have decided to include a fun link (below) in order to help you dispel with the idea that only the rich get rich. Enjoy!