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An Explanation For My Non-Response Approach


Hindsight makes so many things clear. One of the best things about hindsight is that it clearly spells out what you ‘should’ have done differently. And one of the worst things about hindsight is that it clearly spells out what you ‘should’ have done differently. This fact is especially painful when you are still suffering the consequences of what you did and didn’t do in the past.  

painting teal.jpgWhen I chose this path for my life, things were very simple. I wanted to help people with what I see and what I know. I wanted to use my ‘medicine’ (as the indigenous people would say) to make this world a better place for all life forms to live in. This is still what I want. But things are much less simple now. When this is the original intention that you have, you imagine that everyone is going to see your value and want what you have to offer. You don’t imagine the things you have not experienced yet. And so, to be completely honest, it came as a shock when the first personal conflict I had with someone in my life after getting famous, led to them turning against me and trying to turn the media and public against me too. This has become a repetitive pattern (as it so often does in the lives of people who are famous). But it was even more of a shock, when they actually found success with it. I came into this life path ready to debate and find alignment with others regarding the actual concepts that I teach and actual content that I put out there. I did not come into this life path ready to debate about my ‘goodness’ or ‘badness’ as a person. And I did not come into this life path ready to debate false accusations.  

cofus.jpgFor years, I have been trying to figure out the exact right approach to this. Which is exceedingly difficult when everyone you consult on the matter seems to hold a different and opposing opinion. This person says “you must address these claims and immediately give your side of the story to the public”. That person says “don’t engage at their level, you only draw attention to them. Just keep doing you.” The other person says, “don’t drag the public into this drama and instead hire a lawyer to deal with it.”  

For years, people in the public have been urging me to come out of my non-response mode regarding my critics and haters and directly, point by point, refute or confirm each thing they say. Or at the very least, present my side of the story. And with the exception of clarifying my stance on my teachings, I have not done this. Nor has anyone on my team. Recently however, I have had to accept that the result of this is that all people have in front of them to see is 1. The content that I, myself produce and 2. The anti-Teal content splashed everywhere by individuals who are vehemently opposed to me as a person and who dedicate all their time and energy to spreading their misinformation and personal opinions about me. For the most part, people don’t have two sides of the argument to look at so that they can clearly see all the information on both sides and make up their own minds.

I have also had to accept that silence on my side, has not been interpreted as social maturity. It has been interpreted as an assumed confirmation that what they say about me is true. I have not shared with you all the horror stories about what has happened to me and to my loved ones and even to many of my fans as a result of it. I have tried not to involve you. I can see that this approach did not work the way that I hoped it would. I can see that some of you were hurt as a result of this lack of response. And I can clearly see that I owe you an explanation (my side of the story) regarding why I have been largely non-responsive so far regarding what my critics and haters say about me. Let me offer that explanation to you today. 

1. I did not come here to this life to spend my time embroiled in a publicly displayed, Maury show style conflict over my ‘goodness’ or ‘badness’ as a person. In fact, this is no kind of life to live. Unless your personal joy is the fight itself, it sucks joy and purpose out of the life you are living. I came here to share the information that I have with you. Spending all of my time fighting for my reputation and disputing claims means that I no longer have that time to dedicate to what I actually came here to do. My actual purpose. Every hour I have to spend fighting my critics and haters over what kind of person I am, is an hour I can’t spend with someone who is hurting and who genuinely wants my help. Every hour I spend fighting them is an hour I can’t spend creating more content. And this conflict takes all of the attention off of my content, which is where people’s attention should be. It becomes all about that instead of about what my career is really about. In the same way that if a professional basketball player enters into a public conflict, all the attention is on that conflict and not on their basketball game anymore. It is a sad statement about humanity that so many people would rather watch a public conflict spectacle for the sake of personal entertainment, as opposed to focusing on things that offer real value regarding making their actual life richer and improved.     

2. I have spent the last several years doing everything in my power behind the scenes to leave the public out of this fight. And everything in my power to instead try to deal with these conflicts directly with the individuals creating the conflict so that everyone doesn’t get pulled into the fight. When this has not been successful, dealing with them directly has involved, legal action taken. Our goal so far has been to get the false information taken down from the internet so that no one has to be sucked into the conflict. In fact, on December 15th 2021, a judge approved a settlement in a court case Against the Daily Mail in the UK for defamation and they had to agree to take down the article they printed about me. However, because this information has been spread so widely, and is so difficult to take down in the information age, where the internet is a legal grey zone, the damage regarding how the public sees me has already been done. And so, even if it is false information and even if because of that, we are able to make it disappear, it is still in people’s minds. And it is still polluting their opinion of me as well as anyone associated with me.    

3. When my critics and haters have the power to take my attention off of my work, so that it is entirely dedicated to them, it feeds their need for significance as well as the incredibly manipulative and damaging way that they are going about getting that significance (by being against someone who is significant to the public). Consider whether any one of my critics or haters would have any views or traction on their videos or articles if my name wasn’t attached to it. When their strategy for getting this need met in this way works, they have no reason to stop. Instead, they will continue it

4. If I directly refute the claims made by specific critics and haters, I will only increase the attention on them. People who have not become aware of them yet, will then become aware of them once I speak about them directly. This also makes it so that they are in a sense ‘immortalized’. Because any attempt to solve the conflict directly with them, so that their false claims have to be taken down and thus disappear from public view as if they never existed, is then impossible.      

5. In the beginning of my career, I (as well as my team) agreed to take the ‘turn the other cheek’ and ‘don’t sink down to that level’ approach. We thought the more "mature" and “be the better person” approach was to not engage in it. We thought it best to ignore what was being said and simply pour all of our focus, time, energy and action into what we really wanted to create. We approached this with the thinking that the strength and purity of focusing on what we wanted to create (instead of on fighting against what we did not want) would pay off in the end and the fight against me would eventually fizzle out. We were wrong. Instead, it made people confuse non response with confirmation. Instead of nipping it in the bud early, this approach allowed the opposition to grow into a formidable bramble of a problem that is now extremely overwhelming to sort out, sort of like cleaning up a mess that has been accumulating for ten years.  

6. In the beginning, when people say terrible things about you in the public, you imagine that to be able to continue instead of to lose confidence and quit, you need to learn to stop fixating on what other people say about you and stop taking things so personally. How many times have you heard people say: Stop caring what other people think about you? So, you try to accept that having people say terrible things about you is just part of the game that you have to get used to and let roll off your back. After all, it’s just your ego that is wounded. The problem is, people who say this are wrong. They are missing a crucial truth. When people see you a certain way and hold a specific opinion about you, they will not just speak badly about you. They will take direct action against you. If you don’t believe me, ask all the people who were burnt or drowned as witches in the 1400s to 1700s. The things they said about me had very serious tangible consequences, which is what they wanted. Had all of us been in reality about what these actual, tangible consequences would be, we would definitely not have turned the other cheek thinking that all it would amount to was gossip and verbal slander.     

7. I struggle with this entire public debate over false information and freedom of speech. Anyone who does not comprehend the complexity of this issue, is not looking into it deep enough. There is no easy answer. On the one hand, who is to decide what is false info vs. real info? If the entire Covid pandemic experience has showed us the danger of anything, it should have showed us the danger of this. A person who has the power over a public discourse forum might have a personal motive for saying that something is ‘false information’ when it isn’t, and then be able to completely control the narrative regardless of whether it is true of not. And then we will find ourselves in a truly totalitarian world. There is VERY good reason for freedom of speech. I would fight for it myself even for my critics and haters. On the other hand, false information can be very dangerous. It has serious consequences and it can ruin lives. As people, aside from trying to create better, less corrupt, methods for proving information to be true or false, while at the same time creating public discourse arenas where people can see both sides of an argument and side by side, we have no perfect answer for this philosophical and social conundrum. And I recognize it as a conundrum. It keeps me up at night.   

8. People expect two opposing things from me. I am in fact in a damned if I do, damned if I don’t situation. If I don’t publicly respond, people assume that what is said about me must be true, especially if the same lies are repeated by several individuals (and picked up by the mainstream media) and it becomes a consensus statement. Many people are hurt by this, not just myself. But as a spiritual leader, if I do respond, people will discredit me. People expect a spiritual teacher to remain non-reactive and ‘above it all’. If I engage with my haters and critics, I will be told I am succumbing to my human ego and be accused of getting drawn into an ego game. I will lose credit in my position. I will be accused of being ‘in resistance’. And many people will think I have been derailed off of the things that really matter. People are very firm in their pre-conceived ideas of what a spiritual leader should and shouldn’t do. And the reality is that defending yourself and participating in a publicized conflict or scandal is not one of those things that is seen as acceptable for a spiritual leader to do.             

9. My decision to not publicly directly engage with specific individuals who have publicly made it known that they are against me was not only done to stay in alignment with my conscience by being the better person. It was also done because I mean what I teach. If I directly call them out by name and reveal my facts and also my side of the story regarding them to the public, there will be severe consequences for them. And I have wanted to keep them from these consequences because no one knows what those consequences are better than me. And I would not wish these consequences on anyone. The reality is that I understand people. Several of the people who have come out publicly against me are not well mentally or emotionally. If they were, they would be taking a different approach than the one they are taking. They are highly traumatized people. They are flailing around trying to find a way to feel better by doing what they are doing (even if it is against me). That is not to say that they should simply be allowed to do it. They shouldn’t. But I know what it is to be highly traumatized too. I know what heals this trauma and I know what compounds it. I have no desire to compound their trauma. I genuinely believe that they cannot handle a “dose of their own medicine” so to speak. I want to be careful to set the record straight without making the very problems I came here to this world to solve worse in certain people.


I don’t have a perfect answer yet about what truly is the right way to respond to it yet. But I want you to know that I have not been ignoring it and doing nothing. In fact, it has absolutely consumed the last few years of my life and has prevented a great deal of movement forward. I have hesitated to admit that publicly, because it is exactly what my haters want and they will be celebrating to see it written here. I am ever in the process of making conscious and rational decisions about exactly what to do about each element of it. Rest assured that I have involved some heavy weight professionals that are sorting out the situation. But I am also always interested in your perspectives or unique ideas that I may not have thought about regarding the situation. Today, I offer you an apology for not giving you an explanation for my public non-response until now. And I ask for your forgiveness for any pain this lack of explanation may have caused you. 

 

 



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p.s. Your documentary/movie ‘Open Shadow’ is a gamechanger, maybe that one should be on Amazon prime or Netflix or something? You could reach more people there. But just like a lot of comments said: we want to see your vulnerable human side and maybe the haters should too ❤️

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Hello there Teal, Team and fans.

I'm sure you are allways doing your best, and I'm sure every single person alive is doing it's best to try to get ahead, the reason that so many people still hurt others, in many, many ways remains pain as we all know, adn the only way that I made a sense of my entire life and actions was by following your Youtube Channel, doing the Completion Process, the meditations and courses that you so wonderfully have created, I'm one of the most gratefull beings in the planet for the clear and loving messagge that you share and I also understand you're way of doing things. You may have a percentage of people that come to you to hurt you, your immage and your mission, but as you say they are traumatized, and use manipulations as a way to get what they need so those people in fact are the ones needing you the most. We are all here with you in this, please continue to do the things you do. You've inspired me to become not only a better person, but a better mom, a better sister, a better daughter, a better co-worker, a better everything. So thank you for that, sending love and hugs, and I'm on my mission to bring you in Italy as soon as possible.

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This is also teaching and in a much more powerful way than what you usually do, at least for me. Thank you for being honest. Thank you for sharing with us your struggle to protect both yourself and your loved ones, as well as the people who are hurting you. In entirely different circumstances, this is exactly what I feel like I'm struggling with at the moment and THIS is just what I needed to hear right now. It's hard to balance the urge to protect oneself, which is undoubtedly a very healthy response resulting from years of trying to cultivate self-love, with the undeniable care and concern for the other, which is impossible to ignore once you see their pain. It's hard to figure out how to be respectful and caring while at the same time not becoming a doormat and a poor example to those who are watching and learning from you. And how do you set the right boundaries? What is the right way to help those who are fixating on and demonising you in a desperate attempt to avoid facing their own demons? And the horrible feeling of being a bad person, which, I'm sure, remains pervasive even in high states of awareness. What do you do with it? Do you listen to what it has to say? Or do you brush it off as egocentric? Damned if you do, damned if you don't, indeed! Thank you for being vulnerable with us, Teal, and for allowing us to see that you are not perfect and you don't have it all figured out. It helps more than you know.

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Thank you Teal for being who you are. 🙏💕 you've helped me grow, understand, expand and love the vulnerable parts of myself. I know you've helped and still helping many people too ! Thank you so so much for being on Earth and have the courage to teach integration in this world of division. 🌱💜

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Like you said those people have their own issues and hidden motivations for doing what they're doing. My opinion is that you could, in some way, directly call them out on these motivations. It doesn't have to be in public if you don't want to hurt them or for people to turn against them (? Why would that even happen, don't people have better things to do?), but from my experience, telling people the truth about themselves is neutralising because even if they want to keep lying to you about it, becoming self-conscious of something is too disturbing for the person to keep acting on autopilot. So just by virtue of being called out these people might be more neutralised and this might get some people off your back.

The truth is many people just can't handle you because you're just that good. Instead of taking the back road to your life you go about it head on, and frankly, in our world it's incredibly hard to be direct about what we want. We're all more or less trapped in a cage inside our own minds and it's rare to see someone so in touch with themselves. Of course you were going to trigger people, and just like at the beginning of your career some people refused to believe in the idea of cults because it was too disturbing a reality to accept, a lot of people today are struggling to accept what you provoke in them. They just need to complete this process, so don't give up and continue to be yourself, you're actually, accidentally doing them a favour by doing this because you're indirectly working towards making them realize what those personal motivations for slandering you are about. Let them keep searching in confusion for a while, at some point the truth will resurface in them. Basically what I'm getting at I realize, is that if you want to get rid of those people for good, you just need to help them, directly or indirectly, understand what drives their actions against you. Answering their allegations directly frankly would be more for your own public than for them because people with subconscious emotional motivations use logic to defend their irrational behaviours, so they'd find a way to use that against you. So when you answer those allegations, maybe you can make it clear that it's for your own public, and then address these people directly, and call them out.

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I’m good with the non response because you’re not feeding into the negativity vortex. It’s sad that people are so easily influenced by the press or media or one person with a platforms opinion. If they just looked at Teals work for themselves instead of going into it with tainted glasses, they’d see that this is an extremely important and sharp person trying and succeeding in helping alleviate suffering and pain in people. There’s nothing to hate in my book. 
 

One thing I will say however is, I worry sometimes that Teal’s getting too big and if she’s going to try and fly too high and close to the sun like Icarus. The bigger and wider her influence gets, the bigger and wider her detractors will get. I don’t wanna see late night hosts making jokes at her expense at 11:35pm. It’s probably safer if she’s not getting too much mainstream media press because the mainstream media’s goal is to attract attention and nothing attracts attention like something new to be fearful about. They’ll spin anything they want into something that’ll boost viewership and clicks
 

I’m watching this new documentary The Deep End but it’s a little concerning that we’re already getting a Hulu documentary hit piece on her and articles in Vulture and other popular websites. Sports Illustrated has even covered it lol

I just don’t want more bad things to happen or for her to be slandered to such a degree that it may permanently ruin things so I’m okay with not trying to expand this movement to wrap the globe for lack of a better expression 

best wishes to all ✌🏼

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In honesty, I agree that complete non-response may not have been exactly the best way to go. Mostly because it looked to many that you weren't defending yourself, and that made us nervous and wanting to fight FOR you. Personally, the first time I felt a collective wave of pain was when TT OG FB was taken down. But I knew that wouldn't be the end but a rebirth, as most painful experiences can become.

I understand the dilemma, and most of us whom love you, though a bit frustrated with the decision, understand. However, the optics, the optics are a nightmare. It looked like you were accepting powerlessness and just living there. This was not the case, but optics. We were/are already unable to help outwardly, especially if we are following your lead and teachings, which brought many of us to be feeling powerless as well. 

I feel like there is a healthy middle ground where we should see that you, your team are working to counteract, defend against untruth and misrepresentation of you, your teachings and methods. Just a hint here or there is enough. The degree of defense will always be your choice but I don't think passivity works very well in the world today. I think negative must be met head on in a tangible way. You once said on stage, "I can't make war wrong"  when speaking about a country defending itself. The same is true for the individual. We are human, and defence against attack is natural and I don't think it's healthy not to defend oneself in most cases. 

So, I'm glad you've told us that a lawsuit was won. I hope there was monetary compensation. That gives us a bit of satisfaction and perhaps will be a deterrent. 

So far, by the way, the new documentary, that Tribers have been so angst ridden over, is brilliant.

I have the utmost faith in the choices you make Teal, we can not disregard the fact that you are also on a personal journey that deserves respect and understanding and we are right beside you.

 

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I love you Teal.the day I saw you first on Facebook you changed my life with in a month.I Saw the light you hold and the light in me recognised it staring away.just by looking in your eyes on my phone screen got me crying and healed me at same time.suddenly I had more awareness in following days,the parts that were hidden for years came to surface to heal.I have watched your videos  in YouTube .I have your drawings downloaded in my phone screen as wallpaper,that itself healed aspected of me.(ex the responsibility little grid)…

I know you don’t belong here❤️❤️🤍🤍🤍

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I don't normally chime in, but another voice among many, in support of you will only bolster your confidence in this battle. Spiritual Teachers, Truth Tellers and Truth seekers will always be "crucified" by the general public, until humans can truly unify. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. I only started following you about a year ago, but your teachings, along with many other spiritual teachers and practices have helped me to completely change my life in such an incredible way. I will continue to stand by your teachings. You are a clear, strong presence for so many people.  Truth stands above all, but not all can recognize the truth. 

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I have never needed an explanation from you. Your authenticity, your vibe speak for you. I never even really needed to know your qualifications, I feel what you have to offer is powerful and deeply healing. Those who your work speaks to will follow you for that. The rest are in my opinion not your concern. 

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HOW CAN WE HELP??!? That’s what I want to know. This is so heartbreaking. I’ve been with Teal for over 8 years, and I’ve been around for a lot of this. Teal’s work and wisdom continues to strengthen me and my life, and in turn has rippled out to everyone in my life. How and What can we do to help as public supporters?? ✨💕✨💕

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We support you, Teal. I am sorry for the difficulties this has caused you. I was never looking for an answer to this, although I always felt bad when I looked up YouTube videos of random people who make a living out of talking about cults, etc. Some wholeheartedly hated on you, but many others just casually included you in that category, not considering an alternative perspective or truly realizing the extent of damage this causes. Most people seemed to have taken a “guilty before proven innocent” approach to you instead of the other way around. I do appreciate your explanation because it makes sense to me. Please let us know if there is a suitable way for your followers to help with this situation. I would say, we could try engaging with the people who make those videos, and their commenters, but since they are usually righteous about their opinions we would need a solid approach to them. I feel in these scenarios a neutral script would be helpful so as to encourage thoughtfulness instead of arguing back and forth in comments which may backfire. I would love to help. Please let us know. ❤️ 

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As within so without. What part of YOURSELF and your own beliefs about yourself do these detractors represent Teal? Your life is your mirror, and they are simply MIRRORING back to you the hidden, unconscious aspects of your own SELF. They are the outer representations of your INNER self hatred - - things you may secretly BELIEVE (unconsciously if not consciously) about yourself that you have not had time to address yet. (Because you’ve been so busy helping us!). The purpose of the enemy is to EXPOSE the inner enemy within. Because without an enemy within THERE CAN BE NO ENEMY WITHOUT.  They are messengers - messengers of your inner pain. And so I commend you for not shooting them (don’t shoot the messenger!). Instead ADRESS the inner wound - and the outer will resolve itself. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽  

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Dearest darling Teal. I have followed you since day 1 ,when you put out your first video. I was drawn to you straight away. I have listened to all your videos, your workshops, several, many times, bought all your books and cards. I follow you daily. One of the highlights and desires came true, when you came to us in Stockholm and I was able to meet you in person. I love your work and I have learned so much about  myself and the understanding of  human suffering . I can see why the haters are there, why they are trying to destroy your work. I am so sorry you have to go through this , for me there is no reson to apologize. I have even seen this coming. It is just as you say , it is a witch hunt. And it is also because you are a  beautiful ,intelligent  ,wise woman .We are many who want to stand by your side, be there for you and your team . I love you and if there is anything I can do ,or any of us can do please let us know and help you. I will follow you as long as I am alive, you are the greatest  awakener  for me. Thank you for THE HOLY GRAAL . The best ever written. Please feel that I / we  see you, listen to you, feel you and understand you. Thank you beloved TEAl. Blessings and love. Susan xx 

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