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An Explanation For My Non-Response Approach


Hindsight makes so many things clear. One of the best things about hindsight is that it clearly spells out what you ‘should’ have done differently. And one of the worst things about hindsight is that it clearly spells out what you ‘should’ have done differently. This fact is especially painful when you are still suffering the consequences of what you did and didn’t do in the past.  

painting teal.jpgWhen I chose this path for my life, things were very simple. I wanted to help people with what I see and what I know. I wanted to use my ‘medicine’ (as the indigenous people would say) to make this world a better place for all life forms to live in. This is still what I want. But things are much less simple now. When this is the original intention that you have, you imagine that everyone is going to see your value and want what you have to offer. You don’t imagine the things you have not experienced yet. And so, to be completely honest, it came as a shock when the first personal conflict I had with someone in my life after getting famous, led to them turning against me and trying to turn the media and public against me too. This has become a repetitive pattern (as it so often does in the lives of people who are famous). But it was even more of a shock, when they actually found success with it. I came into this life path ready to debate and find alignment with others regarding the actual concepts that I teach and actual content that I put out there. I did not come into this life path ready to debate about my ‘goodness’ or ‘badness’ as a person. And I did not come into this life path ready to debate false accusations.  

cofus.jpgFor years, I have been trying to figure out the exact right approach to this. Which is exceedingly difficult when everyone you consult on the matter seems to hold a different and opposing opinion. This person says “you must address these claims and immediately give your side of the story to the public”. That person says “don’t engage at their level, you only draw attention to them. Just keep doing you.” The other person says, “don’t drag the public into this drama and instead hire a lawyer to deal with it.”  

For years, people in the public have been urging me to come out of my non-response mode regarding my critics and haters and directly, point by point, refute or confirm each thing they say. Or at the very least, present my side of the story. And with the exception of clarifying my stance on my teachings, I have not done this. Nor has anyone on my team. Recently however, I have had to accept that the result of this is that all people have in front of them to see is 1. The content that I, myself produce and 2. The anti-Teal content splashed everywhere by individuals who are vehemently opposed to me as a person and who dedicate all their time and energy to spreading their misinformation and personal opinions about me. For the most part, people don’t have two sides of the argument to look at so that they can clearly see all the information on both sides and make up their own minds.

I have also had to accept that silence on my side, has not been interpreted as social maturity. It has been interpreted as an assumed confirmation that what they say about me is true. I have not shared with you all the horror stories about what has happened to me and to my loved ones and even to many of my fans as a result of it. I have tried not to involve you. I can see that this approach did not work the way that I hoped it would. I can see that some of you were hurt as a result of this lack of response. And I can clearly see that I owe you an explanation (my side of the story) regarding why I have been largely non-responsive so far regarding what my critics and haters say about me. Let me offer that explanation to you today. 

1. I did not come here to this life to spend my time embroiled in a publicly displayed, Maury show style conflict over my ‘goodness’ or ‘badness’ as a person. In fact, this is no kind of life to live. Unless your personal joy is the fight itself, it sucks joy and purpose out of the life you are living. I came here to share the information that I have with you. Spending all of my time fighting for my reputation and disputing claims means that I no longer have that time to dedicate to what I actually came here to do. My actual purpose. Every hour I have to spend fighting my critics and haters over what kind of person I am, is an hour I can’t spend with someone who is hurting and who genuinely wants my help. Every hour I spend fighting them is an hour I can’t spend creating more content. And this conflict takes all of the attention off of my content, which is where people’s attention should be. It becomes all about that instead of about what my career is really about. In the same way that if a professional basketball player enters into a public conflict, all the attention is on that conflict and not on their basketball game anymore. It is a sad statement about humanity that so many people would rather watch a public conflict spectacle for the sake of personal entertainment, as opposed to focusing on things that offer real value regarding making their actual life richer and improved.     

2. I have spent the last several years doing everything in my power behind the scenes to leave the public out of this fight. And everything in my power to instead try to deal with these conflicts directly with the individuals creating the conflict so that everyone doesn’t get pulled into the fight. When this has not been successful, dealing with them directly has involved, legal action taken. Our goal so far has been to get the false information taken down from the internet so that no one has to be sucked into the conflict. In fact, on December 15th 2021, a judge approved a settlement in a court case Against the Daily Mail in the UK for defamation and they had to agree to take down the article they printed about me. However, because this information has been spread so widely, and is so difficult to take down in the information age, where the internet is a legal grey zone, the damage regarding how the public sees me has already been done. And so, even if it is false information and even if because of that, we are able to make it disappear, it is still in people’s minds. And it is still polluting their opinion of me as well as anyone associated with me.    

3. When my critics and haters have the power to take my attention off of my work, so that it is entirely dedicated to them, it feeds their need for significance as well as the incredibly manipulative and damaging way that they are going about getting that significance (by being against someone who is significant to the public). Consider whether any one of my critics or haters would have any views or traction on their videos or articles if my name wasn’t attached to it. When their strategy for getting this need met in this way works, they have no reason to stop. Instead, they will continue it

4. If I directly refute the claims made by specific critics and haters, I will only increase the attention on them. People who have not become aware of them yet, will then become aware of them once I speak about them directly. This also makes it so that they are in a sense ‘immortalized’. Because any attempt to solve the conflict directly with them, so that their false claims have to be taken down and thus disappear from public view as if they never existed, is then impossible.      

5. In the beginning of my career, I (as well as my team) agreed to take the ‘turn the other cheek’ and ‘don’t sink down to that level’ approach. We thought the more "mature" and “be the better person” approach was to not engage in it. We thought it best to ignore what was being said and simply pour all of our focus, time, energy and action into what we really wanted to create. We approached this with the thinking that the strength and purity of focusing on what we wanted to create (instead of on fighting against what we did not want) would pay off in the end and the fight against me would eventually fizzle out. We were wrong. Instead, it made people confuse non response with confirmation. Instead of nipping it in the bud early, this approach allowed the opposition to grow into a formidable bramble of a problem that is now extremely overwhelming to sort out, sort of like cleaning up a mess that has been accumulating for ten years.  

6. In the beginning, when people say terrible things about you in the public, you imagine that to be able to continue instead of to lose confidence and quit, you need to learn to stop fixating on what other people say about you and stop taking things so personally. How many times have you heard people say: Stop caring what other people think about you? So, you try to accept that having people say terrible things about you is just part of the game that you have to get used to and let roll off your back. After all, it’s just your ego that is wounded. The problem is, people who say this are wrong. They are missing a crucial truth. When people see you a certain way and hold a specific opinion about you, they will not just speak badly about you. They will take direct action against you. If you don’t believe me, ask all the people who were burnt or drowned as witches in the 1400s to 1700s. The things they said about me had very serious tangible consequences, which is what they wanted. Had all of us been in reality about what these actual, tangible consequences would be, we would definitely not have turned the other cheek thinking that all it would amount to was gossip and verbal slander.     

7. I struggle with this entire public debate over false information and freedom of speech. Anyone who does not comprehend the complexity of this issue, is not looking into it deep enough. There is no easy answer. On the one hand, who is to decide what is false info vs. real info? If the entire Covid pandemic experience has showed us the danger of anything, it should have showed us the danger of this. A person who has the power over a public discourse forum might have a personal motive for saying that something is ‘false information’ when it isn’t, and then be able to completely control the narrative regardless of whether it is true of not. And then we will find ourselves in a truly totalitarian world. There is VERY good reason for freedom of speech. I would fight for it myself even for my critics and haters. On the other hand, false information can be very dangerous. It has serious consequences and it can ruin lives. As people, aside from trying to create better, less corrupt, methods for proving information to be true or false, while at the same time creating public discourse arenas where people can see both sides of an argument and side by side, we have no perfect answer for this philosophical and social conundrum. And I recognize it as a conundrum. It keeps me up at night.   

8. People expect two opposing things from me. I am in fact in a damned if I do, damned if I don’t situation. If I don’t publicly respond, people assume that what is said about me must be true, especially if the same lies are repeated by several individuals (and picked up by the mainstream media) and it becomes a consensus statement. Many people are hurt by this, not just myself. But as a spiritual leader, if I do respond, people will discredit me. People expect a spiritual teacher to remain non-reactive and ‘above it all’. If I engage with my haters and critics, I will be told I am succumbing to my human ego and be accused of getting drawn into an ego game. I will lose credit in my position. I will be accused of being ‘in resistance’. And many people will think I have been derailed off of the things that really matter. People are very firm in their pre-conceived ideas of what a spiritual leader should and shouldn’t do. And the reality is that defending yourself and participating in a publicized conflict or scandal is not one of those things that is seen as acceptable for a spiritual leader to do.             

9. My decision to not publicly directly engage with specific individuals who have publicly made it known that they are against me was not only done to stay in alignment with my conscience by being the better person. It was also done because I mean what I teach. If I directly call them out by name and reveal my facts and also my side of the story regarding them to the public, there will be severe consequences for them. And I have wanted to keep them from these consequences because no one knows what those consequences are better than me. And I would not wish these consequences on anyone. The reality is that I understand people. Several of the people who have come out publicly against me are not well mentally or emotionally. If they were, they would be taking a different approach than the one they are taking. They are highly traumatized people. They are flailing around trying to find a way to feel better by doing what they are doing (even if it is against me). That is not to say that they should simply be allowed to do it. They shouldn’t. But I know what it is to be highly traumatized too. I know what heals this trauma and I know what compounds it. I have no desire to compound their trauma. I genuinely believe that they cannot handle a “dose of their own medicine” so to speak. I want to be careful to set the record straight without making the very problems I came here to this world to solve worse in certain people.


I don’t have a perfect answer yet about what truly is the right way to respond to it yet. But I want you to know that I have not been ignoring it and doing nothing. In fact, it has absolutely consumed the last few years of my life and has prevented a great deal of movement forward. I have hesitated to admit that publicly, because it is exactly what my haters want and they will be celebrating to see it written here. I am ever in the process of making conscious and rational decisions about exactly what to do about each element of it. Rest assured that I have involved some heavy weight professionals that are sorting out the situation. But I am also always interested in your perspectives or unique ideas that I may not have thought about regarding the situation. Today, I offer you an apology for not giving you an explanation for my public non-response until now. And I ask for your forgiveness for any pain this lack of explanation may have caused you. 

 

 



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Yo Teal!

Totally understand why this shit would keep you up at night, but you hid it well. I didn't know it was as big a situation as it is. 

I follow you and watch every video. I see how far ahead of the game you are, and see how much you can teach us. Nothing anybody says about you will ever change my opinion of you. All anybody has to do is watch any one of your videos to see how pure of intent and positive you are. Those that are intimidated by you will throw shade to make them feel better. Plus people, I'm sure, have their own agenda against someone as powerful as you. I respect that you don't want to go after them to "give them a taste of their own medicine" but call them out if it will make you feel better. Maybe by calling the haters out, it will be the trigger for them to start their own healing. Even though it's a huge decision on which action to take, I'd try not to make it a life or death situation. Just go with your gut.

Say nothing or go at them, either way I (and no doubt many others) still got your back.

 

Much love and appreciation for you!

 

 

Cody

 

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Youtube recommended your content several times to me until I was ready to 'click'...I have been gone/going through hell back and forth inside for years...

There must be universe reasons for what is happening, enriching your teaching is one of them that I can think of. I have read all the comments as well, no matter what, trust is the only word that I can say here, because your content helped/saved me everyday while i'm living, that's the only thing counts, i don't care what other people saying about you including the people mostly closed to you, my compass is my own experience and feeling by listening to your teaching, thank your team to make things happen, people need you! The things happening might also be one of the reasons that you're here, people learn much more deeper and see things more clearly with the contrast. 

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Hi Teal! I've been thinking about this topic a few months ago because is definitely not an easy position the one you are in.

Now, after reading this article I've been trying to write this the most organised way possible xD so... Here I go...

There is a conception about how a spiritual leader should act, and that alone gives you a lot of pressure, decisions are hard when everyone is looking and just waiting. 

  Of course, there’s all the spiritual stuff about mirroing, energies, and obstacles that come so you can become what you in the first place decided to be, I know that it’s easy to say, but I think it is about aligment, the thing is that you are definitley not a simple person, so of course your are not going to choose simple challenges. 

For what I undestand, you wanted to apply universal stuff to aproach this situation, but right know I think the best is understand and combine the universe with how people/humans work. I cannot say exactly what is the nature of humans, but it is important to understand that our actions are not always aligned with the universe, unless this is all it’s doing….but that’s not the point right know.

You have to anticipate, there are people desperate for your attention, but even if they are in  big pain, truly traumatized and can’t take ‘’their own medicine’’ that doesn’t give them any right or excuse to hurt the people around you on purpose, just so they can get you.

Being spiritual doesn’t mean being passive, one thing is when people target you directly, but it is a whole diferent story when they target your love ones and the people who wants to help you, in situations like that I think it’s better to face them, for those that with all love are there for you…even if that takes your time to create content or help someone who needs it, you also need help Teal, and there are things that need to be resolved, what’s the point if in a few years you are not able to continue for all the stress and anxiety that you have been taking constantly?… This situation won't change the fact that you are a spiritual leader, or a revolutionary woman, it won't change your purpose, create your own way of being a spiritual lider Teal, not people's way, if people really knew how a spiritual leader should be, wouldn’t they be one then?

And probably you already know what to do, at the end we all know what to do, but we pretend we don’t. It is not an easy situation, but I know you can do it, we both know that Teal.

And remember something, probably those groups of haters have grown a lot, but also the groups of people like me have grown, the people of this comments that are grateful because of your work. I won't deny that I was pissed when I heard you in a workshop saying that the people who say ‘’omg, I love this, I’m so related’’ don’t bark the loudest…girl…that hurt xD. 

Anyway,  I can’t talk for the others, but I’m totally fine if you take a break, or if you stop your content to resolve things or even rest… to me, it’s more important your wellbeing than the things ‘’I can get ‘’ from you Teal, you matter, and you are still human darling. 

You are not alone Teal, you are very loved, by God, by me, by many others, do what it’s in your control, and the rest just ask for help from your spiritual guides.

I love you Teal, I hope this word get to you and can help a little.

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I found you as I faced a major crisis in 2012. Your content led me through it with tools I use to this day. I am so grateful that you did not allow others’ opinions of you to thwart your work and your willingness to do it out in the open. That takes courage; offering rebuttals to those who do not positively impact the experience of other beings does not.  I have always admired your taking the high road. You have given me much over the years. You don’t owe me anything additional. I support your choice to move through this experience as you prefer. Thank you for your incomparable contribution.

 

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Thank you for sharing this painful struggle. And thank you for your teachings, I am so blessed to have you as part of my journey. 

As a reminder, May is Mental Health awareness month.

Have you thought about doing a video on the mentally ill that can’t truly see their own issues? 
 

As you know, the gray rock method doesn’t work on mentally disturbed individuals looking to use you and your brand to supply their own self identity by hating you. It’s sad, as you know all about this behavior. A simple BLOCK won’t make them go away, but we can all PRAY for them.

A little tough love back to you; the situation needs to be dealt with, and it doesn’t have to be you directly. Hiring an International PR firm and proper attorneys who handle people like this can be helpful for a person of your magnitude. I am sure you are on it. 

I have faith you will absolutely find the blessings you need to resolve and move past this huge ripple.

Your TRIBE is HERE for you and your team! No one can change my view of you. I get to decide that for myself. 

It is time to handle this situation because you and others do not deserve this treatment.

Note: These haters aren’t too successful, I haven’t heard one peep of negativity about you…ever. And I am not going to go looking for it! 

You got this Teal Swan!!!

Sending LOVE and LIGHT your way!!!!! 

~ Anne Meredith

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I’ve been following you since ~2015 and I’ve kept tabs on what the “haters” have been saying ever since then. Although I’m sure some of their claims have a kernel of truth to them (you are only human after all and humans have good and bad days - you’re not a robot!), I’ve always seen how their stories and actions come from a hurtful place whereas your content and actions genuinely help others. (The BBC video was the most egregious of these since it was soooo biased.) I’m glad to see you speaking your piece — and also know that there are those of us that see you, believe in what you’re doing, and give you grace to be a person. ❤️

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To Teal several points back:
1. Think of this as helping your public who already loves you grow blossom and deepen. I likely others have been hurt by spiritual practitioners in the past. Gurus, enlightened ones you name it. So when it came to choosing a particular teacher I was VERY selective. And I had a good reason to be. The rest from there was testing out incompatibility issues. Then I found you. I had stumbled across your videos maybe a couple years ago now, and I remember feeling very drawn to you as the resonating frequency that vibrated out from you was truth. And I really value that above all else. The second thing I saw was your "haters" videos. I was worried. What would I find? I paid my due diligence and flowed a few videos of people who created those learned their background watched their first videos

Being deeply traumatized as I was not everyone pays as much due diligence as I do. And I worry for those who don't. Because rightfully so traumatized people might be turned away. They fear for their own safety entrusting themselves to someone (a teacher) have likely been hurt in the past and don't want that to happen again. Now they may be misinformed they may not have put in all the effort to determine that, but very traumatized people as you know may not have the energy to put forth to do their due diligence. Now this is their loss and their responsibility, but still, I don't blame them. So by clearing the air and displaying your facts as they happened to you helps them to see one this person has responses for this and they seem perfectly reasonable and two this is accessible information that you committed to to when you committed to laying your life out openly. Not just as one does when they become famously, but consciously when you chose the value of openness to live by. To choose the value of openness, and not share your facts, your truths and your details openly will by the very act of your own commitment make you unhappy. You either have to consciously change your values or you have to honor them to be happy And successful.

2. Trust. Trust your audience. You have taught them so much and you have to trust them.  If I were to imagine a friend, a good friend, getting into legal trouble, for example, I would want them to tell me what happened and their side of the story so that I could use my own free will to decide what to do next and how to best support them. If they were in the wrong (that is I perceive them to be in the wrong), then I would support them and love them by telling them that I think they did the wrong thing. Either way, I choose to love them and either I support them. It may not always be the way they wanted, but it was chosen by my own free will and that choice wasn't taken away from me when they decided not to reveal all the details for the sake of "keeping me out of it". So that is, lovingly, a call-out as I don't think thats very straightforward relationship and more or a codependent style. So trust your audience. We feel good when you reveal to us your troubles. It means your vulnerable with us and you feel safe to do so. We want to help. And we want that same trust in return. It just takes a little love and courage to do the brave thing and reach out and share. You can do it. I believe in you. And even when you doubt us, have faith in yourself. Because after all, we were taught by the best 😉

I love you.

Alex

If you could let me know that you got this message that would also be greatly appreciated. Energetic messages also work. Im pretty sure. Love you. 💘

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13 hours ago, puncia said:

I have wondered, due to the severe trauma Teal experienced, that the haters are a mirror of pain not yet integrated in her? 

It is interesting to ask, since she is teaching about mirroring.

anybody thought this?

 

On the other hand, the haters have, if nothing else, made Teal stronger and stronger.

 

I have sometimes thought that the level of hate is in proportion to the level of truth Teal brings! Meaning, the hate is in reality fear of the truth.

I hope Teal remembers often, that the teacher appears when the student is ready. She is very brave to keep on in these circumstances.

 

She definitely changed my life very deeply, and continiues to inspire me.

She mentioned in a video that the hate she's currently recieving reflects how she was ostracized by her town when she was a child. 

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Perhaps it might be less disturbing to have a debate with 1 or more people at a table where you and they discuss some of the more upsetting and false attacks.  One could accuse you and you could respond and they could reply until the truth becomes obvious to any listener.  This needs to be done in a way that you don't attack the person but dig down to why they are attacking you.   What disinformation and/or trauma are they displaying when they attack.    Perhaps there is a healing opportunity there.  You won't win them all.  Even Jesus failed that one.  But perhaps it will help you to concentrate more on your process.   If you record the debate you can just link the attackers to the recorded debate and go about your business of saving the world.   Happy trails.

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You've saved my life so many times with your content, do you know how grateful I am for you being you? Also, you have nothing to apologize for. I wish I could you a hug right now, since this must be so tough on you, and I know you long love hugs haha. I love you!

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Dear Teal, thank you so much for this article.

It's not easy to talk or read/listen about the things you are teaching about. I think it takes a kind of predispositions, meaning in general be the person who is brave enough and willing enough to look at hers/his own shadows and conditionings so as to be open for the truth.

When it comes to your content, although you are my number one author/speaker I often hesiteted of sharing your content on my social media. I feel guilty because of it and sometimes felt like I'm disapointing you in some way but it is because I was scared that people who are not willing or not able to "go deeper" but are nevertheless significant to me will judge me or discard other things I publish or I discuss.
And that is definitely because of the content against you that is so present. It takes energy and time to judge what is right and wrong and we are living in the society which is on the local and global level characterized by the instant culture due to the prevailing consumerism.


You helped me so much and I'll always be gratefull for your efforts and the free content you are sharing with us. Especially beacuse mental health is a kind of luxury in the society where the profit is above the people.


Send you my love and support 😘

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Dear Teal, I have not read anything bad about you still. So for me its a surprise. I wouldnt read it even if I saw it but I didnt also see it. I thinkin you are doing an amazing job and whoever tries to dishonour you should be ashamed of themselves and really look in the mirror. But we know they wont. So I am just writing to tell you that I support you from Romania. ❤️

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Teal - I found a meditation of yours in 2014 on YouTube. I loved it. I was raised in a Christian household so witches and psychics were "bad". I was a psychic/medium kid who had to "shove it down". After I meditated with your videos and listened to some of your episodes, I researched you, because I liked you. I found the hater's comments and all these bad things being said about you. I heard the voice of my preachers and teachers... "she is a witch don't watch or listen... " and I stopped for a time, out of fear. But, something about you called me back to your teachings. I was raised in a kind loving home, which is rare these days. My parents are still married after 50 years - and really do love each other. One thing they taught me is - it really is all about love (especially for the self). What you teach, is what I teach with my coaching practice. When I came back to your teachings (as a member), I did so with absolute trust in you and what you came here to do - and I completely aligned with it -and still do, more so now than ever.  I understand how horrible it must be to go through what you are going through and I am so sorry for your pain. Please understand though, that your message is loud and clear and people are afraid of your strength and power. And that power is speaking your truth. My point in saying all of this is that, if a girl who was raised "religiously" found you and was able to separate haters from your truth, then I know the support you have is tremendous. The closer you get to helping people find their power within and discovering who they really are and the power they hold within, the more you will come up against as a teacher.  Keep on doing what you do. Big love to you (and your amazing team). Heather Driscoll

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