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An Explanation For My Non-Response Approach


Hindsight makes so many things clear. One of the best things about hindsight is that it clearly spells out what you ‘should’ have done differently. And one of the worst things about hindsight is that it clearly spells out what you ‘should’ have done differently. This fact is especially painful when you are still suffering the consequences of what you did and didn’t do in the past.  

painting teal.jpgWhen I chose this path for my life, things were very simple. I wanted to help people with what I see and what I know. I wanted to use my ‘medicine’ (as the indigenous people would say) to make this world a better place for all life forms to live in. This is still what I want. But things are much less simple now. When this is the original intention that you have, you imagine that everyone is going to see your value and want what you have to offer. You don’t imagine the things you have not experienced yet. And so, to be completely honest, it came as a shock when the first personal conflict I had with someone in my life after getting famous, led to them turning against me and trying to turn the media and public against me too. This has become a repetitive pattern (as it so often does in the lives of people who are famous). But it was even more of a shock, when they actually found success with it. I came into this life path ready to debate and find alignment with others regarding the actual concepts that I teach and actual content that I put out there. I did not come into this life path ready to debate about my ‘goodness’ or ‘badness’ as a person. And I did not come into this life path ready to debate false accusations.  

cofus.jpgFor years, I have been trying to figure out the exact right approach to this. Which is exceedingly difficult when everyone you consult on the matter seems to hold a different and opposing opinion. This person says “you must address these claims and immediately give your side of the story to the public”. That person says “don’t engage at their level, you only draw attention to them. Just keep doing you.” The other person says, “don’t drag the public into this drama and instead hire a lawyer to deal with it.”  

For years, people in the public have been urging me to come out of my non-response mode regarding my critics and haters and directly, point by point, refute or confirm each thing they say. Or at the very least, present my side of the story. And with the exception of clarifying my stance on my teachings, I have not done this. Nor has anyone on my team. Recently however, I have had to accept that the result of this is that all people have in front of them to see is 1. The content that I, myself produce and 2. The anti-Teal content splashed everywhere by individuals who are vehemently opposed to me as a person and who dedicate all their time and energy to spreading their misinformation and personal opinions about me. For the most part, people don’t have two sides of the argument to look at so that they can clearly see all the information on both sides and make up their own minds.

I have also had to accept that silence on my side, has not been interpreted as social maturity. It has been interpreted as an assumed confirmation that what they say about me is true. I have not shared with you all the horror stories about what has happened to me and to my loved ones and even to many of my fans as a result of it. I have tried not to involve you. I can see that this approach did not work the way that I hoped it would. I can see that some of you were hurt as a result of this lack of response. And I can clearly see that I owe you an explanation (my side of the story) regarding why I have been largely non-responsive so far regarding what my critics and haters say about me. Let me offer that explanation to you today. 

1. I did not come here to this life to spend my time embroiled in a publicly displayed, Maury show style conflict over my ‘goodness’ or ‘badness’ as a person. In fact, this is no kind of life to live. Unless your personal joy is the fight itself, it sucks joy and purpose out of the life you are living. I came here to share the information that I have with you. Spending all of my time fighting for my reputation and disputing claims means that I no longer have that time to dedicate to what I actually came here to do. My actual purpose. Every hour I have to spend fighting my critics and haters over what kind of person I am, is an hour I can’t spend with someone who is hurting and who genuinely wants my help. Every hour I spend fighting them is an hour I can’t spend creating more content. And this conflict takes all of the attention off of my content, which is where people’s attention should be. It becomes all about that instead of about what my career is really about. In the same way that if a professional basketball player enters into a public conflict, all the attention is on that conflict and not on their basketball game anymore. It is a sad statement about humanity that so many people would rather watch a public conflict spectacle for the sake of personal entertainment, as opposed to focusing on things that offer real value regarding making their actual life richer and improved.     

2. I have spent the last several years doing everything in my power behind the scenes to leave the public out of this fight. And everything in my power to instead try to deal with these conflicts directly with the individuals creating the conflict so that everyone doesn’t get pulled into the fight. When this has not been successful, dealing with them directly has involved, legal action taken. Our goal so far has been to get the false information taken down from the internet so that no one has to be sucked into the conflict. In fact, on December 15th 2021, a judge approved a settlement in a court case Against the Daily Mail in the UK for defamation and they had to agree to take down the article they printed about me. However, because this information has been spread so widely, and is so difficult to take down in the information age, where the internet is a legal grey zone, the damage regarding how the public sees me has already been done. And so, even if it is false information and even if because of that, we are able to make it disappear, it is still in people’s minds. And it is still polluting their opinion of me as well as anyone associated with me.    

3. When my critics and haters have the power to take my attention off of my work, so that it is entirely dedicated to them, it feeds their need for significance as well as the incredibly manipulative and damaging way that they are going about getting that significance (by being against someone who is significant to the public). Consider whether any one of my critics or haters would have any views or traction on their videos or articles if my name wasn’t attached to it. When their strategy for getting this need met in this way works, they have no reason to stop. Instead, they will continue it

4. If I directly refute the claims made by specific critics and haters, I will only increase the attention on them. People who have not become aware of them yet, will then become aware of them once I speak about them directly. This also makes it so that they are in a sense ‘immortalized’. Because any attempt to solve the conflict directly with them, so that their false claims have to be taken down and thus disappear from public view as if they never existed, is then impossible.      

5. In the beginning of my career, I (as well as my team) agreed to take the ‘turn the other cheek’ and ‘don’t sink down to that level’ approach. We thought the more "mature" and “be the better person” approach was to not engage in it. We thought it best to ignore what was being said and simply pour all of our focus, time, energy and action into what we really wanted to create. We approached this with the thinking that the strength and purity of focusing on what we wanted to create (instead of on fighting against what we did not want) would pay off in the end and the fight against me would eventually fizzle out. We were wrong. Instead, it made people confuse non response with confirmation. Instead of nipping it in the bud early, this approach allowed the opposition to grow into a formidable bramble of a problem that is now extremely overwhelming to sort out, sort of like cleaning up a mess that has been accumulating for ten years.  

6. In the beginning, when people say terrible things about you in the public, you imagine that to be able to continue instead of to lose confidence and quit, you need to learn to stop fixating on what other people say about you and stop taking things so personally. How many times have you heard people say: Stop caring what other people think about you? So, you try to accept that having people say terrible things about you is just part of the game that you have to get used to and let roll off your back. After all, it’s just your ego that is wounded. The problem is, people who say this are wrong. They are missing a crucial truth. When people see you a certain way and hold a specific opinion about you, they will not just speak badly about you. They will take direct action against you. If you don’t believe me, ask all the people who were burnt or drowned as witches in the 1400s to 1700s. The things they said about me had very serious tangible consequences, which is what they wanted. Had all of us been in reality about what these actual, tangible consequences would be, we would definitely not have turned the other cheek thinking that all it would amount to was gossip and verbal slander.     

7. I struggle with this entire public debate over false information and freedom of speech. Anyone who does not comprehend the complexity of this issue, is not looking into it deep enough. There is no easy answer. On the one hand, who is to decide what is false info vs. real info? If the entire Covid pandemic experience has showed us the danger of anything, it should have showed us the danger of this. A person who has the power over a public discourse forum might have a personal motive for saying that something is ‘false information’ when it isn’t, and then be able to completely control the narrative regardless of whether it is true of not. And then we will find ourselves in a truly totalitarian world. There is VERY good reason for freedom of speech. I would fight for it myself even for my critics and haters. On the other hand, false information can be very dangerous. It has serious consequences and it can ruin lives. As people, aside from trying to create better, less corrupt, methods for proving information to be true or false, while at the same time creating public discourse arenas where people can see both sides of an argument and side by side, we have no perfect answer for this philosophical and social conundrum. And I recognize it as a conundrum. It keeps me up at night.   

8. People expect two opposing things from me. I am in fact in a damned if I do, damned if I don’t situation. If I don’t publicly respond, people assume that what is said about me must be true, especially if the same lies are repeated by several individuals (and picked up by the mainstream media) and it becomes a consensus statement. Many people are hurt by this, not just myself. But as a spiritual leader, if I do respond, people will discredit me. People expect a spiritual teacher to remain non-reactive and ‘above it all’. If I engage with my haters and critics, I will be told I am succumbing to my human ego and be accused of getting drawn into an ego game. I will lose credit in my position. I will be accused of being ‘in resistance’. And many people will think I have been derailed off of the things that really matter. People are very firm in their pre-conceived ideas of what a spiritual leader should and shouldn’t do. And the reality is that defending yourself and participating in a publicized conflict or scandal is not one of those things that is seen as acceptable for a spiritual leader to do.             

9. My decision to not publicly directly engage with specific individuals who have publicly made it known that they are against me was not only done to stay in alignment with my conscience by being the better person. It was also done because I mean what I teach. If I directly call them out by name and reveal my facts and also my side of the story regarding them to the public, there will be severe consequences for them. And I have wanted to keep them from these consequences because no one knows what those consequences are better than me. And I would not wish these consequences on anyone. The reality is that I understand people. Several of the people who have come out publicly against me are not well mentally or emotionally. If they were, they would be taking a different approach than the one they are taking. They are highly traumatized people. They are flailing around trying to find a way to feel better by doing what they are doing (even if it is against me). That is not to say that they should simply be allowed to do it. They shouldn’t. But I know what it is to be highly traumatized too. I know what heals this trauma and I know what compounds it. I have no desire to compound their trauma. I genuinely believe that they cannot handle a “dose of their own medicine” so to speak. I want to be careful to set the record straight without making the very problems I came here to this world to solve worse in certain people.


I don’t have a perfect answer yet about what truly is the right way to respond to it yet. But I want you to know that I have not been ignoring it and doing nothing. In fact, it has absolutely consumed the last few years of my life and has prevented a great deal of movement forward. I have hesitated to admit that publicly, because it is exactly what my haters want and they will be celebrating to see it written here. I am ever in the process of making conscious and rational decisions about exactly what to do about each element of it. Rest assured that I have involved some heavy weight professionals that are sorting out the situation. But I am also always interested in your perspectives or unique ideas that I may not have thought about regarding the situation. Today, I offer you an apology for not giving you an explanation for my public non-response until now. And I ask for your forgiveness for any pain this lack of explanation may have caused you. 

 

 



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I know you're in an unwanted situation and it's unfortunate that the unconditional love you share cannot be received by those who have their shield up for it.

 

I wish I had the solution to offer you. But I can say that even if it didn't go as you wanted it, it still was in alignment with what you came here to do. You are fulfilling your purpose even when you don't know. 

 

Your allegations made me doubt you at first. So it made me sit down with my thoughts and feelings and learn that I can always trust myself. And the more I trusted myself, the more proof I found of how you were right. It didn't take long after that when I could completely take not just you, but also your haters as part of myself.

 

I want you to know that this wasn't in vain.

I'm glad that now, the love I feel for you doesn't solely come from the lack within myself but it comes from somewhere way way deeper and more meaningful. 

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Thank you Teal for everything that you offer people and me! Wouldnt be where I am without you! ❤️❤️❤️
You are also so perfectly showing the way for us in regards to how we respond and act towards traumatized people who hurt us.  Humanity will never move foreward until we all learn to behave like that. 
we are all so blessed to have you in our lives❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️Thank you from my heart!

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I know exacly what you mean, I've been brutalized my entire life, judged for things I've not done, had people turned against me, been hated, austrisuzed and tormented and so on, how I stumbled upon you years ago, was just by chance, some of your messages shook me to my core, triggered me, because I had so much trauma through out my life, our lives are very simular... because I related to a lot of your story that also triggered me and made me feel at times you were against me, I didn't understand the triggers and why I was upset years ago, when I first stumbled onto your content,  also offended by some of your opinions but tried not to internalize it, maybe at different junctures as I became more curious I looked up your story, was more intriged and that feeling got more and more intense...I dug a little to much and found some of your haters online, it swayed my opinion of you, but not for long, I eventually seen past what they were saying and related that with my own haters and pain I was going through, so I apologize if I've ever said anything on a post, I was going through addictions and wasn't myself for a long time, and thankful that you helped me through that sorrow and suffering, and I honestly believe I couldn't of healed with out you...I now appreciate you beyond messure...and I'm sure a lot of people do, ♥ I'm sure your haters will soon be your fans and love you...

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hey teal I often have seen you worry about how things will be seen because you are a spirutual leader , that's why I wanted to give you the perspective as one of your viewers , I am honestly really open to spiritual things etc. but wouldn't attach myself to the spiritual person label I guess , but the reason I watched your videos and continue to do so is because it was the only thing that has ever helped me after no one had answers , and mental health professionels making my problems even worse . I don't watch your videos because your a spiritual leader I watch them because they actually help and because I appreciate your opinions and ideas that you present , and I also very much so appreciate your "human" side , and I honestly think the average person that is depressed doesn't care to much about spirituality as well and just appreciates you because you offer help that actually does work .

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Teal, whenever a true genius appears in the world there will be a confederacy of dunces to castigate them. That is a quote from John Kennedy Toole's book, A Confederacy of Dunces, and I believe this quote to be true of you. Your success and affectiveness in this world in helping others will always attract dunces who try to tear you down. It is the nature of this universe - the dramatic pull between the opposite forces. Light/dark.... You are a light, so there will be dark rising up to oppose you. It's enantiodromia in action. Don't worry. You attract and create love, you resonate and emanate truth. Follow your inner knowing... you know how to handle this. I thank you so much for writing this out to us. I have wondered how it made you feel and what you thought of the attacks for years. I am sorry. With love, Leila

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Dear Teal,

thank you for your text. I for myself can say that there is no need for forgiveness.

Two points crossed my mind while reading:

1. I can understand all the arguments, I can feel them, but is not a reaction towards these people in the first place to stay with you, to take care of you, to set your boundairies? And secondly, to look at the other people, who it all affects and what consequences it brings.

2. if this behavior of people continues and we do not react, in whatever way: is this not a possible indication that we deny the other person the mirror that the person so vehemently demands through his behavior?
Shouldn't this person, who for whatever reason lives this behavior for such a long time, also get the chance to learn precisely through a reaction?

And another third point:

I for myself can say, I like to go this way with you as a part of my life. And maybe we could all go together: so also you with us?
Because then it would mean to let us participate in such processes (without having to say names) with the same openness. To find solutions TOGETHER. In dialogue - not only we with you, but maybe you with us?

And if this idea fits: wouldn't the vehemence of the persons with their hate etc. then only be the impulse to grow together as a community, to adapt a new way of communication a bit?

Just as an idea...

Thanks for everything you share with the world!

Bianca

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For me , there is no need to feel sorry , i always understood what your strategy was , but i think that i underestemated the impact it had on you and your team.

I know you are hurt many times by these accusations and false statements from your haters , but lately it is getting out of hand , as far as i can see what is said about you on the internet.

I feel sorry for you , your team and everyone in Teal Tribe , who love you and want to protect you from all this sh*t.

If there is anything we could do to help , just reach out , we are here for you.

Much love

Robert   🙏

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I don't think people are aware enough to discern how difficult of a situation you are in, and how deeply unfair (on a 3rd dimensional, subjective level) they unknowingly make it. I think people are not aware of the damage that their flawed perception of you is causing, and I think most people don't even think to take responsibility for that. Because you are so committed to openness and authenticity, mastery and love of your own being above all instead of simply performing having it all together to keep up a facade that is easy for people to digest (to avoid having problems), people take advantage of it.

I think people who oppose or distrust you struggle with discerning between their own projections Vs. the reality of you obviously, but also struggle with holding in their awareness the totality of you (ecosystem as you teach) and not just some of your parts. Instead, people are triggered by specific aspects of you tat they will distort and amalgamate with their own projections and then go on to decide that this is all that you are, that they see the totality of you (i.e "I see through her", "I see through the facade"). It is such an easy cop-out on their part and you are absolutely powerless to people doing that. The way I see it, you're screwed because you take all the responsibility that is yours, because it is your autonomous, genuine choice and commitment for your life, then offer people information that can only ever help them if they're willing to do the same and take responsibility for themselves as well. Sadly, you reach both people who are up to the challenge, and people who aren't. And you can't control that. You are easy to attack, because you refuse to hurt people back to 'defend yourself'. You are calling people into higher states of consciousness, towards more maturity, more responsibility, and you are impeccably holding yourself up to that standard. This is admirable, but in today's world, it leaves the door wide open for people who are triggered about you to just lash out onto you without any consequences that would stop them (which would be re-traumatizing experiences for them).  You are easy to attack because of all the things you so openly talk about, that nearly no one else dares to teach about, regardless of how deeply needed healing is on these subjects. You open yourself up to be a healing vehicle for wounds that people are still in a war/survival state about. Because they come across you indirectly on the internet instead of face-to-face, you can't calm them down individually and soothe them. How could you do that for hundreds of thousands of people in physicality. Some people who come across your material are inflamed and because you teach truth, your material makes them even more aware of how much they're burning, and they can't handle the heat from where they are. Because they don't know how to deal with it, neither does anyone around them, and no one clearly mirrors to them the very individual pain they're feeling (i.e that it has everything to do with their own life experience and not something you're supposedly doing wrong), they will enter into denial, and everyone will follow. They hide behind a professional (journalism) or altruistic endeavor ("this woman is dangerous and I just want to protect people from her") when really the pain they're feeling has nothing to do with you. You haven't caused it in anyway shape or form, and their accusations are irresponsible projections disguised as "discernment". 

Because you teach truth, people have essentially two options :

A - to go all in through the fire of awakening, of feeling and passing through every pain, shadow and dysfunction you're making them aware of, which is for all of us a very demanding and painful process, that requires us as individuals to resources qualities that we may doubt we have, such as bravery, stamina, endurance, accountability, self-love, trust, faith, softness, compassion, inquiry, commitment etc... in life situations that so often oppose this process and make it harder (mainly lack of people and being alone to do the work), or

B - to turn you into a scapegoat... again. To simply decide that all the pain we feel is not about our own personal trauma and how we're perpetuating suffering in our adult life, but about you. We will then exploit and capitalize on every shadow that mainstream society is in complete denial, disowning and avoidance of to discredit your image. We will derive all of that antagonistic subconscious charge we feel towards those aspects of us... towards you as a person. 

You're screwed because it doesn't matter how aligned and excellent you are as a teacher, you're at the mercy of people who refuse to face themselves. This is why I have such a problem with the whole "well this is just a reflection of your unhealed trauma from your childhood" thing. Because people use this truth as a way of putting all of the responsibility on you and taking attention away from the realer and more serious issue at hand : hoards of people who actively antagonize and seek out the destruction and tearing down of a spiritual teacher is the issue. I know you've been doing your healing work all the time startinglong before you started your career, with a pace, intensity and difficulty that most people cannot imagine. My heart aches on this one because people are dehumanizing you and anyone in your position, especially women, and especially survivors. I feel like we are using spiritual standards in an abusive way against you and other teachers. People expect perfection from you so that hey don't have any work to do or pressure to take on themselves.  You have been choosing compassion and love with this issue, met with people who don't. I want people to realize, including tribers, that it's also on us. Spiritual teachers don't exist to do all the work so that their followers can just kick their legs up and benefit from that teacher's alignment and wisdom. Spiritual teachers exist so that one day they're no longer needed, at least not in the form they're currently needed. 

This situation reflects as very powerful choice point that means a lot to me : awareness & responsibility Vs. denial/projection and irresponsibility, when met with someone who speaks truth. There's a world of difference between exercising freedom of speech upon careful consideration of your personal truth and your intentions, and straight up bullying someone and coming at them, exploiting people's triggers that are relieved only by rallying and going against the targeted person. We all feel very smart and very powerful when we go against someone who has power and authority. Their loss is our gain... or so we think. Our "discernment", our "personal opinion" or worse, "the vibes" that we "feel off" of someone could very well be accurate about that person... or not at all. 

People miss the fact that they're in a relationship with you. As such, things can only go well if there's alignment and awareness on both sides of the equation. Us who follow spiritual teachers refuse to see that about ourselves. Instead, we continually expect you to 'make up for' our misalignment by virtue of demanding you to manage your own alignement about the tiniest thing beyond what's actually possible, at the same time as minimizing or denying the plethora of things you're doing perfectly well. We expect you to overcompensate and make up for our own shadows. And the worst part is that if you fail, we crush your credibility as a spiritual teacher and say the fault is on you. When really, this dynamic is a setup in which you can't win to begin with. 

Followers don't understand they're in a relationship with the teachers they follow and as such, don't take up the necessary measures and adjustments needed for that relationship to go well and be mutually beneficial in a way where both parties grow and flourish. Instead we feel disconnected from our teachers like we're disconnected from politicians and other figures of power and authority. We have a very immature way of relating to power and authority figures. We either put them on a pedestal and fear/admire/worship/obey them, or we feel threatened and get angry at them and will try to undermine them and know them off of a pedestal we think they don't deserve. 

From where I stand, part of the solution to this situation is not of your own doing, it's of the rest of the people involved in the situation. But I frankly don't know what to do about people who don't want you because they're not ready, even though you still appear in their reality, appart from them gaining awareness that this is what's happening and then stepping into conscious choice. But again, we can't control that. And the "how can we influence it so that it happens ?" question is even more difficult. This is an issue that anyone who wishes to push consciousness forward on this planet will bump against in the coming years (decades even). Honestly I'm overwhelmed and knocked off by it. It's heartbreaking enough that I don't want more people to get hurt, but complicated enough that you can't possibly make a move without hurting someone. So much of it depends of the choices individuals make, most of which are people who are totally unaware of the impact they have on the world through their free will (that they sometimes don't even recognize as free will). The more you and the world suffers, the more you wish to awaken and expand to be the antidote to that suffering. But the more your consciousness rises in a world that doesn't catch up with you, the more people end up resisting you and even seeing you as the enemy, even if all you're doing is lending a helping hand. I feel like this is the position you're in. The more backlash you get, the more inner work you do, the more willing you become to question yourself and open your mind up to new ideas to find a solution, but without other people's participation and positive intention, yours alone is not enough to remedy this issue. 

I think at this time in history, allyship has now become a necessity. Not in the scary, shadow way of rallying under a leader as a way of giving up on our own awareness and responsibility, and going against a so called common enemy, but as a form of friendship, benevolence and solidarity with those we feel are the most aligned, capable, pure and beneficial to the whole. Especially those like you who are facing tremendous opposition. This is not war, rather this is strengthening of a positive, firm, loving bond between each other around core intentions of what we stand for, acting as a buffer/container facing the opposition and resistance thrown at us (whoever us may be). I think you need autonomous, conscious, responsible, heart-intelligent people to support you and stand by you not for the sake of the worship of a person (which is the easy way people would go about it), but for the sake of gathering our forces around the things we do agree with (the vote we want to cast), which at this point, requires some muscle to do. 

 

If I were to spell it out, you need people to take the risk of standing up in favor of whatever aspects of your teaching they feel are accurate and deeply believe in, and to stand up for decency and basic human rights relative to how the public treats you, autonomous from how much they agree or disagree with your teachings. Mainstream society really needs to usher in conversation about how we as people choose to treat each other in a way that is not enmeshed and completely dependent on the initial triggers or opinions we have of each other. Letting yourself lose and talking shit about anyone, thus wrecking havoc within society and doing so destroying the lives of people brave enough to show up and be seen is just not gonna cut it anymore. Normalized and even encouraged abuse of targeted people through media is just not gonna cut it anymore. Continuing to smack the shit out of people who endlessly "turn the other cheek" without ever looking at ourselves is just not gonna cut it anymore. If we either bully or abandon those few people who (because of humanity's current choice of behavior) are quite literally saving the collective from its own insanity, we're signing up for our own demise. The 'tribers', are in a relationship with Teal, Teal is in a relationship with the tribe, Teal is in a relationship with human society, and the tribe  is also in a relationship with the rest of society. Because of the degree of exposure Teal has reached, it's not like Teal and the tribe exist in a tiny little corner of human consciousness that doesn't get much attention from the rest of humans anymore. Now we need to integrate with the rest of society, and society needs to integrate with us. As spiritual and intentional communities like this one grow, they will bump into mainstream society's awareness, and as we've seen, society being capable to receive us depends on the degree of integration between teacher and 'followers', teacher and society, and 'followers' and society. If we use intentional communities and spiritual movements to turn away from and escape society (because we're afraid of them), closing our doors to them, they will mirror this behavior by meeting us with hostility, close-mindedness and distrust (calling movement like this one a 'cult'). Regardless of the disparity of level of consciousness within humans, maybe we can agree on the fact that deep down, we wish the best for ourselves, and for other people, and as such, choose to at least, avoid hurting each other. Maybe we can unify our voices around that fact and specifically state to mainstream society the standards we uphold for how we wish to be interacted with, and how we believe every person deserves to be treated. If we're intentional at all, and a community at all, maybe that's what we need to teach the rest of society, provided that we lead by example on those behaviors. 

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5 hours ago, puncia said:

I have wondered, due to the severe trauma Teal experienced, that the haters are a mirror of pain not yet integrated in her? 

It is interesting to ask, since she is teaching about mirroring.

anybody thought this?

 

On the other hand, the haters have, if nothing else, made Teal stronger and stronger.

 

I have sometimes thought that the level of hate is in proportion to the level of truth Teal brings! Meaning, the hate is in reality fear of the truth.

I hope Teal remembers often, that the teacher appears when the student is ready. She is very brave to keep on in these circumstances.

 

She definitely changed my life very deeply, and continiues to inspire me.

Yess! she definitely said it is a mirror from childhood, and she ALSO said when you go against the paradigm in which people believe in, you get people going against you.

You can't flash a laser into the reflection of you in the mirror without getting it reflected back at you, right?

That's what I understood.

And I don't know why, i just liked this long video and kept watching it many times.

https://youtu.be/ZhwcygYOxOc

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All of this speaks volumes about how you are doing exactly what you should be doing. You are addressing whatever you can while staying aligned with your life's mission. I do feel sorry that others in your orbit have also been harmed. I think if there was a way to prevent any harm for them you would know what it is and take the necessary actions. Until you know, you likely will choose to remain with your current approach. 

I also think the harmful defamation that you are experiencing is common for the few high level teachers who are visible out in the world today. Or more specifically, a common experience for spiritual leaders who are women. One other leader and high-level teacher who has also transformed my life, keeps herself surrounded with men. It's not her misogynistic approach to only keep men in her immediate circle. It is rather protection and a visual of safety for an important female leader in our misogynistic world. I know those men have to constantly address the attacks of character and it is a struggle for them. I think they know themselves that they are the most appropriate people for that purpose of protection. The roles have been made clear and accepted. 

I wish peace and healing for you and for those around you. I also wish for the relentless harmful attacks of character to stop. In the mean time I will continue to refine my own thoughts, words and actions out in this world to move beyond internalized misogyny.

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Isn't it (the haters being psychologically and spiritually clogged) just a more direct visualization of what you were trying to achieve in the very first place?

What I mean is: once you started sharing knowledge with the world, you had a motivation. For example one "motivation/reason" could have been functioning as a channel of universal consciousness. Another - more human one - could have been that you have seen what the misery/misdirection of the human evolution so far is; to maybe even have experienced the consequences of it personally or just realizing the need/urge for it to be different in order to reduce suffering (maybe even own suffering because you are in a way affected of this misdirected evolutionary structure at the moment - I certainly am, because I have manifested in the human experience and am part of this community building and the collective evolution of our species, and so are you. You are also still a learning human with a higher purpose and gifts who is doing shadow work). 

So. The motivation is to help/teach how to live the human experience without suffering. You do this via workshops, videos etc. On the meta-dimension with people whom psychological strategies you are not personally affected by since you're not in their immediate environment. So their shadows don't affect you. So you can work with them because they are willing to do the work. You're motivation succeeds.

Now you are (very loudly!) being presented the very reason why your motivation has been formed in the first place: people who are unwilling to do the work but are forming the social structure under which people (who subscribe to that collective, low frequency reality) may suffer. So it's just the same phenomenon that is happening in all political, low frequency, ego driven places - only that now YOU are affected. Because of this loud presentation it is an opportunity for you to go back to the beginning of your work again. Why did you start. Well. Because of this exact thing. To change the collective consciousness (and/or the social structure of how our species can live together). So you are already living the solution of this problem (that is presented to you now) and have been living it since the beginning, so why is it not enough for you to work from the roots only because now you can see and feel branches turning against you because they haven't gotten the memo yet? You are already doing the work, the long run. Don't get lost. Be authentic and maybe just telling how you feel and what is going on in your head (just like you did here in this statement) is enough. It would be mirroring their actions; what it feels like to you when they do it to you - no guilt, no shame, no resistance. Just vulnerability - and by the way ( 😉 ) this is what I am desiring to see about you - the special, quirky, vulnerable, lovable and loving Teal - this what you expect other people to reveal to you (when doing the work), so let us see the whole you because everytime I sense a glimpse of it I can't stop smiling 🙂 do you know that this side of you has this loving affect on other people even if you don't intend to have it? 

 

With much care, Sarina

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Teal, thank you so much for being a beautiful soul! You are exactly in your pure divine purpose. Each of us is discerning where we are in our process and therefore you will know when you know. Your strength and truth is being met with the duality of fear.  You, your family, and team are perfection. As you teach, we must go in ourselves for our peace. Please continue sharing with us. Sending you so much love and support! Your childhood made my childhood make sense; you are there for me everyday through your teaching; please don't go away. 

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1 hour ago, Elo said:

I don't think people are aware enough to discern how difficult of a situation you are in, and how deeply unfair (on a 3rd dimensional, subjective level) they unknowingly make it. I think people are not aware of the damage that their flawed perception of you is causing, and I think most people don't even think to take responsibility for that. Because you are so committed to openness and authenticity, mastery and love of your own being above all instead of simply performing having it all together to keep up a facade that is easy for people to digest (to avoid having problems), people take advantage of it.

I think people who oppose or distrust you struggle with discerning between their own projections Vs. the reality of you obviously, but also struggle with holding in their awareness the totality of you (ecosystem as you teach) and not just some of your parts. Instead, people are triggered by specific aspects of you tat they will distort and amalgamate with their own projections and then go on to decide that this is all that you are, that they see the totality of you (i.e "I see through her", "I see through the facade"). It is such an easy cop-out on their part and you are absolutely powerless to people doing that. The way I see it, you're screwed because you take all the responsibility that is yours, because it is your autonomous, genuine choice and commitment for your life, then offer people information that can only ever help them if they're willing to do the same and take responsibility for themselves as well. Sadly, you reach both people who are up to the challenge, and people who aren't. And you can't control that. You are easy to attack, because you refuse to hurt people back to 'defend yourself'. You are calling people into higher states of consciousness, towards more maturity, more responsibility, and you are impeccably holding yourself up to that standard. This is admirable, but in today's world, it leaves the door wide open for people who are triggered about you to just lash out onto you without any consequences that would stop them (which would be re-traumatizing experiences for them).  You are easy to attack because of all the things you so openly talk about, that nearly no one else dares to teach about, regardless of how deeply needed healing is on these subjects. You open yourself up to be a healing vehicle for wounds that people are still in a war/survival state about. Because they come across you indirectly on the internet instead of face-to-face, you can't calm them down individually and soothe them. How could you do that for hundreds of thousands of people in physicality. Some people who come across your material are inflamed and because you teach truth, your material makes them even more aware of how much they're burning, and they can't handle the heat from where they are. Because they don't know how to deal with it, neither does anyone around them, and no one clearly mirrors to them the very individual pain they're feeling (i.e that it has everything to do with their own life experience and not something you're supposedly doing wrong), they will enter into denial, and everyone will follow. They hide behind a professional (journalism) or altruistic endeavor ("this woman is dangerous and I just want to protect people from her") when really the pain they're feeling has nothing to do with you. You haven't caused it in anyway shape or form, and their accusations are irresponsible projections disguised as "discernment". 

Because you teach truth, people have essentially two options :

A - to go all in through the fire of awakening, of feeling and passing through every pain, shadow and dysfunction you're making them aware of, which is for all of us a very demanding and painful process, that requires us as individuals to resources qualities that we may doubt we have, such as bravery, stamina, endurance, accountability, self-love, trust, faith, softness, compassion, inquiry, commitment etc... in life situations that so often oppose this process and make it harder (mainly lack of people and being alone to do the work), or

B - to turn you into a scapegoat... again. To simply decide that all the pain we feel is not about our own personal trauma and how we're perpetuating suffering in our adult life, but about you. We will then exploit and capitalize on every shadow that mainstream society is in complete denial, disowning and avoidance of to discredit your image. We will derive all of that antagonistic subconscious charge we feel towards those aspects of us... towards you as a person. 

You're screwed because it doesn't matter how aligned and excellent you are as a teacher, you're at the mercy of people who refuse to face themselves. This is why I have such a problem with the whole "well this is just a reflection of your unhealed trauma from your childhood" thing. Because people use this truth as a way of putting all of the responsibility on you and taking attention away from the realer and more serious issue at hand : hoards of people who actively antagonize and seek out the destruction and tearing down of a spiritual teacher is the issue. I know you've been doing your healing work all the time startinglong before you started your career, with a pace, intensity and difficulty that most people cannot imagine. My heart aches on this one because people are dehumanizing you and anyone in your position, especially women, and especially survivors. I feel like we are using spiritual standards in an abusive way against you and other teachers. People expect perfection from you so that hey don't have any work to do or pressure to take on themselves.  You have been choosing compassion and love with this issue, met with people who don't. I want people to realize, including tribers, that it's also on us. Spiritual teachers don't exist to do all the work so that their followers can just kick their legs up and benefit from that teacher's alignment and wisdom. Spiritual teachers exist so that one day they're no longer needed, at least not in the form they're currently needed. 

This situation reflects as very powerful choice point that means a lot to me : awareness & responsibility Vs. denial/projection and irresponsibility, when met with someone who speaks truth. There's a world of difference between exercising freedom of speech upon careful consideration of your personal truth and your intentions, and straight up bullying someone and coming at them, exploiting people's triggers that are relieved only by rallying and going against the targeted person. We all feel very smart and very powerful when we go against someone who has power and authority. Their loss is our gain... or so we think. Our "discernment", our "personal opinion" or worse, "the vibes" that we "feel off" of someone could very well be accurate about that person... or not at all. 

People miss the fact that they're in a relationship with you. As such, things can only go well if there's alignment and awareness on both sides of the equation. Us who follow spiritual teachers refuse to see that about ourselves. Instead, we continually expect you to 'make up for' our misalignment by virtue of demanding you to manage your own alignement about the tiniest thing beyond what's actually possible, at the same time as minimizing or denying the plethora of things you're doing perfectly well. We expect you to overcompensate and make up for our own shadows. And the worst part is that if you fail, we crush your credibility as a spiritual teacher and say the fault is on you. When really, this dynamic is a setup in which you can't win to begin with. 

Followers don't understand they're in a relationship with the teachers they follow and as such, don't take up the necessary measures and adjustments needed for that relationship to go well and be mutually beneficial in a way where both parties grow and flourish. Instead we feel disconnected from our teachers like we're disconnected from politicians and other figures of power and authority. We have a very immature way of relating to power and authority figures. We either put them on a pedestal and fear/admire/worship/obey them, or we feel threatened and get angry at them and will try to undermine them and know them off of a pedestal we think they don't deserve. 

From where I stand, part of the solution to this situation is not of your own doing, it's of the rest of the people involved in the situation. But I frankly don't know what to do about people who don't want you because they're not ready, even though you still appear in their reality, appart from them gaining awareness that this is what's happening and then stepping into conscious choice. But again, we can't control that. And the "how can we influence it so that it happens ?" question is even more difficult. This is an issue that anyone who wishes to push consciousness forward on this planet will bump against in the coming years (decades even). Honestly I'm overwhelmed and knocked off by it. It's heartbreaking enough that I don't want more people to get hurt, but complicated enough that you can't possibly make a move without hurting someone. So much of it depends of the choices individuals make, most of which are people who are totally unaware of the impact they have on the world through their free will (that they sometimes don't even recognize as free will). The more you and the world suffers, the more you wish to awaken and expand to be the antidote to that suffering. But the more your consciousness rises in a world that doesn't catch up with you, the more people end up resisting you and even seeing you as the enemy, even if all you're doing is lending a helping hand. I feel like this is the position you're in. The more backlash you get, the more inner work you do, the more willing you become to question yourself and open your mind up to new ideas to find a solution, but without other people's participation and positive intention, yours alone is not enough to remedy this issue. 

I think at this time in history, allyship has now become a necessity. Not in the scary, shadow way of rallying under a leader as a way of giving up on our own awareness and responsibility, and going against a so called common enemy, but as a form of friendship, benevolence and solidarity with those we feel are the most aligned, capable, pure and beneficial to the whole. Especially those like you who are facing tremendous opposition. This is not war, rather this is strengthening of a positive, firm, loving bond between each other around core intentions of what we stand for, acting as a buffer/container facing the opposition and resistance thrown at us (whoever us may be). I think you need autonomous, conscious, responsible, heart-intelligent people to support you and stand by you not for the sake of the worship of a person (which is the easy way people would go about it), but for the sake of gathering our forces around the things we do agree with (the vote we want to cast), which at this point, requires some muscle to do. 

 

If I were to spell it out, you need people to take the risk of standing up in favor of whatever aspects of your teaching they feel are accurate and deeply believe in, and to stand up for decency and basic human rights relative to how the public treats you, autonomous from how much they agree or disagree with your teachings. Mainstream society really needs to usher in conversation about how we as people choose to treat each other in a way that is not enmeshed and completely dependent on the initial triggers or opinions we have of each other. Letting yourself lose and talking shit about anyone, thus wrecking havoc within society and doing so destroying the lives of people brave enough to show up and be seen is just not gonna cut it anymore. Normalized and even encouraged abuse of targeted people through media is just not gonna cut it anymore. Continuing to smack the shit out of people who endlessly "turn the other cheek" without ever looking at ourselves is just not gonna cut it anymore. If we either bully or abandon those few people who (because of humanity's current choice of behavior) are quite literally saving the collective from its own insanity, we're signing up for our own demise. The 'tribers', are in a relationship with Teal, Teal is in a relationship with the tribe, Teal is in a relationship with human society, and the tribe  is also in a relationship with the rest of society. Because of the degree of exposure Teal has reached, it's not like Teal and the tribe exist in a tiny little corner of human consciousness that doesn't get much attention from the rest of humans anymore. Now we need to integrate with the rest of society, and society needs to integrate with us. As spiritual and intentional communities like this one grow, they will bump into mainstream society's awareness, and as we've seen, society being capable to receive us depends on the degree of integration between teacher and 'followers', teacher and society, and 'followers' and society. If we use intentional communities and spiritual movements to turn away from and escape society (because we're afraid of them), closing our doors to them, they will mirror this behavior by meeting us with hostility, close-mindedness and distrust (calling movement like this one a 'cult'). Regardless of the disparity of level of consciousness within humans, maybe we can agree on the fact that deep down, we wish the best for ourselves, and for other people, and as such, choose to at least, avoid hurting each other. Maybe we can unify our voices around that fact and specifically state to mainstream society the standards we uphold for how we wish to be interacted with, and how we believe every person deserves to be treated. If we're intentional at all, and a community at all, maybe that's what we need to teach the rest of society, provided that we lead by example on those behaviors. 

This is incredibly well-written. I love the reminder of being in a relationship (especially/also with spiritual leaders) - I have come to that thought myself in way that there can be no giving up your own responsibility and your own power of choice. Funny enough that this is exactly what guides are teaching us - and still so many people give their power away just as they please in order to make the guides responsible and not themselves - so they actually miss the whole point of it and use the knowledge as accessories. On the outer layers. 

Thank you for the reminder for her, that she is just one half the circle. She is already living the solution. 

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Intuitively what I'm drawn to is, yes, addressing it, with truth but also with love. They need to go together. Setting the facts straight seems to be part of what's called for, here, as you've already found out what not-responding to it leads to. But that truth-telling aspect needs to be conjoined with the love aspect--somehow weaving love into the response; having love be an energy that's present throughout the entirety of the response. Love for the haters, who, at the level of Oneness, are just hating their own Self out of ignorance/confusion. Weaving the love in diminishes the aspects of "damage" that might be done to the critics/haters as well as the perceptions of not fitting the mold of a spiritual teacher. But that is a stereotypical mold, anyway; you are the mold breaker. 

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My goodness! I, like probably almost everyone who has or will comment, hope to say just the very thing that will take all these troubles from you, so you can continue your work with absolute joy and ease. I don’t know what your situation is, but it sounds heavy and consuming. Thank Goddesses you are strong, wise, compassionate, and loving. 

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