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An Explanation For My Non-Response Approach


Hindsight makes so many things clear. One of the best things about hindsight is that it clearly spells out what you ‘should’ have done differently. And one of the worst things about hindsight is that it clearly spells out what you ‘should’ have done differently. This fact is especially painful when you are still suffering the consequences of what you did and didn’t do in the past.  

painting teal.jpgWhen I chose this path for my life, things were very simple. I wanted to help people with what I see and what I know. I wanted to use my ‘medicine’ (as the indigenous people would say) to make this world a better place for all life forms to live in. This is still what I want. But things are much less simple now. When this is the original intention that you have, you imagine that everyone is going to see your value and want what you have to offer. You don’t imagine the things you have not experienced yet. And so, to be completely honest, it came as a shock when the first personal conflict I had with someone in my life after getting famous, led to them turning against me and trying to turn the media and public against me too. This has become a repetitive pattern (as it so often does in the lives of people who are famous). But it was even more of a shock, when they actually found success with it. I came into this life path ready to debate and find alignment with others regarding the actual concepts that I teach and actual content that I put out there. I did not come into this life path ready to debate about my ‘goodness’ or ‘badness’ as a person. And I did not come into this life path ready to debate false accusations.  

cofus.jpgFor years, I have been trying to figure out the exact right approach to this. Which is exceedingly difficult when everyone you consult on the matter seems to hold a different and opposing opinion. This person says “you must address these claims and immediately give your side of the story to the public”. That person says “don’t engage at their level, you only draw attention to them. Just keep doing you.” The other person says, “don’t drag the public into this drama and instead hire a lawyer to deal with it.”  

For years, people in the public have been urging me to come out of my non-response mode regarding my critics and haters and directly, point by point, refute or confirm each thing they say. Or at the very least, present my side of the story. And with the exception of clarifying my stance on my teachings, I have not done this. Nor has anyone on my team. Recently however, I have had to accept that the result of this is that all people have in front of them to see is 1. The content that I, myself produce and 2. The anti-Teal content splashed everywhere by individuals who are vehemently opposed to me as a person and who dedicate all their time and energy to spreading their misinformation and personal opinions about me. For the most part, people don’t have two sides of the argument to look at so that they can clearly see all the information on both sides and make up their own minds.

I have also had to accept that silence on my side, has not been interpreted as social maturity. It has been interpreted as an assumed confirmation that what they say about me is true. I have not shared with you all the horror stories about what has happened to me and to my loved ones and even to many of my fans as a result of it. I have tried not to involve you. I can see that this approach did not work the way that I hoped it would. I can see that some of you were hurt as a result of this lack of response. And I can clearly see that I owe you an explanation (my side of the story) regarding why I have been largely non-responsive so far regarding what my critics and haters say about me. Let me offer that explanation to you today. 

1. I did not come here to this life to spend my time embroiled in a publicly displayed, Maury show style conflict over my ‘goodness’ or ‘badness’ as a person. In fact, this is no kind of life to live. Unless your personal joy is the fight itself, it sucks joy and purpose out of the life you are living. I came here to share the information that I have with you. Spending all of my time fighting for my reputation and disputing claims means that I no longer have that time to dedicate to what I actually came here to do. My actual purpose. Every hour I have to spend fighting my critics and haters over what kind of person I am, is an hour I can’t spend with someone who is hurting and who genuinely wants my help. Every hour I spend fighting them is an hour I can’t spend creating more content. And this conflict takes all of the attention off of my content, which is where people’s attention should be. It becomes all about that instead of about what my career is really about. In the same way that if a professional basketball player enters into a public conflict, all the attention is on that conflict and not on their basketball game anymore. It is a sad statement about humanity that so many people would rather watch a public conflict spectacle for the sake of personal entertainment, as opposed to focusing on things that offer real value regarding making their actual life richer and improved.     

2. I have spent the last several years doing everything in my power behind the scenes to leave the public out of this fight. And everything in my power to instead try to deal with these conflicts directly with the individuals creating the conflict so that everyone doesn’t get pulled into the fight. When this has not been successful, dealing with them directly has involved, legal action taken. Our goal so far has been to get the false information taken down from the internet so that no one has to be sucked into the conflict. In fact, on December 15th 2021, a judge approved a settlement in a court case Against the Daily Mail in the UK for defamation and they had to agree to take down the article they printed about me. However, because this information has been spread so widely, and is so difficult to take down in the information age, where the internet is a legal grey zone, the damage regarding how the public sees me has already been done. And so, even if it is false information and even if because of that, we are able to make it disappear, it is still in people’s minds. And it is still polluting their opinion of me as well as anyone associated with me.    

3. When my critics and haters have the power to take my attention off of my work, so that it is entirely dedicated to them, it feeds their need for significance as well as the incredibly manipulative and damaging way that they are going about getting that significance (by being against someone who is significant to the public). Consider whether any one of my critics or haters would have any views or traction on their videos or articles if my name wasn’t attached to it. When their strategy for getting this need met in this way works, they have no reason to stop. Instead, they will continue it

4. If I directly refute the claims made by specific critics and haters, I will only increase the attention on them. People who have not become aware of them yet, will then become aware of them once I speak about them directly. This also makes it so that they are in a sense ‘immortalized’. Because any attempt to solve the conflict directly with them, so that their false claims have to be taken down and thus disappear from public view as if they never existed, is then impossible.      

5. In the beginning of my career, I (as well as my team) agreed to take the ‘turn the other cheek’ and ‘don’t sink down to that level’ approach. We thought the more "mature" and “be the better person” approach was to not engage in it. We thought it best to ignore what was being said and simply pour all of our focus, time, energy and action into what we really wanted to create. We approached this with the thinking that the strength and purity of focusing on what we wanted to create (instead of on fighting against what we did not want) would pay off in the end and the fight against me would eventually fizzle out. We were wrong. Instead, it made people confuse non response with confirmation. Instead of nipping it in the bud early, this approach allowed the opposition to grow into a formidable bramble of a problem that is now extremely overwhelming to sort out, sort of like cleaning up a mess that has been accumulating for ten years.  

6. In the beginning, when people say terrible things about you in the public, you imagine that to be able to continue instead of to lose confidence and quit, you need to learn to stop fixating on what other people say about you and stop taking things so personally. How many times have you heard people say: Stop caring what other people think about you? So, you try to accept that having people say terrible things about you is just part of the game that you have to get used to and let roll off your back. After all, it’s just your ego that is wounded. The problem is, people who say this are wrong. They are missing a crucial truth. When people see you a certain way and hold a specific opinion about you, they will not just speak badly about you. They will take direct action against you. If you don’t believe me, ask all the people who were burnt or drowned as witches in the 1400s to 1700s. The things they said about me had very serious tangible consequences, which is what they wanted. Had all of us been in reality about what these actual, tangible consequences would be, we would definitely not have turned the other cheek thinking that all it would amount to was gossip and verbal slander.     

7. I struggle with this entire public debate over false information and freedom of speech. Anyone who does not comprehend the complexity of this issue, is not looking into it deep enough. There is no easy answer. On the one hand, who is to decide what is false info vs. real info? If the entire Covid pandemic experience has showed us the danger of anything, it should have showed us the danger of this. A person who has the power over a public discourse forum might have a personal motive for saying that something is ‘false information’ when it isn’t, and then be able to completely control the narrative regardless of whether it is true of not. And then we will find ourselves in a truly totalitarian world. There is VERY good reason for freedom of speech. I would fight for it myself even for my critics and haters. On the other hand, false information can be very dangerous. It has serious consequences and it can ruin lives. As people, aside from trying to create better, less corrupt, methods for proving information to be true or false, while at the same time creating public discourse arenas where people can see both sides of an argument and side by side, we have no perfect answer for this philosophical and social conundrum. And I recognize it as a conundrum. It keeps me up at night.   

8. People expect two opposing things from me. I am in fact in a damned if I do, damned if I don’t situation. If I don’t publicly respond, people assume that what is said about me must be true, especially if the same lies are repeated by several individuals (and picked up by the mainstream media) and it becomes a consensus statement. Many people are hurt by this, not just myself. But as a spiritual leader, if I do respond, people will discredit me. People expect a spiritual teacher to remain non-reactive and ‘above it all’. If I engage with my haters and critics, I will be told I am succumbing to my human ego and be accused of getting drawn into an ego game. I will lose credit in my position. I will be accused of being ‘in resistance’. And many people will think I have been derailed off of the things that really matter. People are very firm in their pre-conceived ideas of what a spiritual leader should and shouldn’t do. And the reality is that defending yourself and participating in a publicized conflict or scandal is not one of those things that is seen as acceptable for a spiritual leader to do.             

9. My decision to not publicly directly engage with specific individuals who have publicly made it known that they are against me was not only done to stay in alignment with my conscience by being the better person. It was also done because I mean what I teach. If I directly call them out by name and reveal my facts and also my side of the story regarding them to the public, there will be severe consequences for them. And I have wanted to keep them from these consequences because no one knows what those consequences are better than me. And I would not wish these consequences on anyone. The reality is that I understand people. Several of the people who have come out publicly against me are not well mentally or emotionally. If they were, they would be taking a different approach than the one they are taking. They are highly traumatized people. They are flailing around trying to find a way to feel better by doing what they are doing (even if it is against me). That is not to say that they should simply be allowed to do it. They shouldn’t. But I know what it is to be highly traumatized too. I know what heals this trauma and I know what compounds it. I have no desire to compound their trauma. I genuinely believe that they cannot handle a “dose of their own medicine” so to speak. I want to be careful to set the record straight without making the very problems I came here to this world to solve worse in certain people.


I don’t have a perfect answer yet about what truly is the right way to respond to it yet. But I want you to know that I have not been ignoring it and doing nothing. In fact, it has absolutely consumed the last few years of my life and has prevented a great deal of movement forward. I have hesitated to admit that publicly, because it is exactly what my haters want and they will be celebrating to see it written here. I am ever in the process of making conscious and rational decisions about exactly what to do about each element of it. Rest assured that I have involved some heavy weight professionals that are sorting out the situation. But I am also always interested in your perspectives or unique ideas that I may not have thought about regarding the situation. Today, I offer you an apology for not giving you an explanation for my public non-response until now. And I ask for your forgiveness for any pain this lack of explanation may have caused you. 

 

 



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If I were you, I'd make a public video/statement saying that you invited those x people (they could send "one representative") to a virtual recorded meeting where they'd have the chance to ask you directly about those accusations and where you have a fair chance to clarify and give your honest response.

If they then refused to accept this invitation then that would make it obvious that they're just hiding behind in the shadows and their claims weren't "real" which you could refer to whenever confronted in the future. "I'm open to clarify these accusations in a fair, open debate" (sort of like with Amber vs. Johnny case!)

If they accepted the invitation and agreed to a fair dialogue back-and-forth, then you'd be able to debunk these false claims in an open conversation for all to see on the internet if you then also posted that meeting.

This would be a great way to go about defuse the conflict because you'd be able to refer back to that video whenever further accused.

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Your comment “ the time i spend defending myself is time away from helping someone who truly needs and wants me” is absolutely amazing…let people think what they want…let them be narrow minded…you do you and help all you can along your path in this life!

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Dear Teal,

I cried when I read this, because of the honesty and vulnerability. I’m gonna be honest too: when I first came across a video of yours (a half a year ago) I indeed saw a lot of haters too. In the beginning I doubted you as well because of it. But there was something in the things you said that I couldn’t stay away. When I saw the video on YouTube where you responded to all the accusations my doubts were immediately gone. Because I saw the honesty and vulnerability in your eyes. The same as I feel in this article. And I’m hooked since that interview and you literally changed my life. I don’t think that if you’re gonna respond publicly on what this does to you as a human that you gave them what they want. I think they will always hate you (because of their own pain). What I think it does it that you will draw a lot of positive attention for the people who don’t know you yet and need you and your message in their lives. I think you will touch the heart of a lot of people with the same honesty and vulnerability you showed in that interview and this blog, because you’ve touched mine ❤️

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This explains why every time I see you in a video I just want to reach through the screen and give you a big hug.  I’ve felt that there was a weight on your shoulders and something you were holding back.  I absolutely respect you for doing so and also for speaking out.  Whatever you do is your choice and whatever you feel is right is what is right and my support is behind you.  

You are a shining star that has brought so much relief and gratitude to so many.  We see your light, and we thank you for sharing it and your wisdom with us.  Truth, it all comes back to truth, it feels so strong right now.  

My wish for you is that you are able to have some personal relief from this stress.  Sending you a big hug, support and love 💖

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Teal, I have messaged you on Facebook. I said there and I repeat: No explanation, no apology is necessary from you. You have done nothing wrong, therefore an apology is not required. You know what is right about you and what is not. The haters will go on hating and denying the truth, regardless of what you do. Sadly, the world is now full of that. What they have given out will be given back to them tenfold. Teach what you believe is good and wholesome and right to teach. That is all you need do. If it is a question of dealing with legal issues under Libel Law, or Slander, leave the professionals to handle that. Otherwise, continue your work. We who read your words and listen to your words do not need anything else but those words. When the going gets tough....and you are tough enough...then get going. So, in the words of Yoda: "Don't try. Do." You are winning and silence remains golden.

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❤️ Teal I think the best response here is whatever is aligned with your conscience. Finding the best response varies from person to person. It varies in “how to respond” and also “the reaction to each of those responses”. At least if you follow your conscience you can sleep at night. If following your conscience leads to a mistake then it will be easier to live with that mistake than if you (both) didn’t follow your conscience and you made a mistake.

 

Either way, Teal and Teal Team thank you and you have my support.

 

-Lorenzo

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Thank you for the explanation - it is perfect and as always - direct, honest and kind.

 

All of your students and followers have plenty of tools and perspectives that you have offered to handle their own reactions to the drama being created. 
 

We all are part of your path and you alone are not responsible for attracting this vibration into your sphere - the actual decision to take ownership of your gifts on some level invites all of our collective trauma right into your back yard. 
 

You showing up in your process and sharing with us exactly what is transpiring is you modeling to all of us the embodied path of integration. 
 

It feels like trying to keep others out of it is - at this moment - no longer serves. It keeps you a bit separate from us and… our love, that MIGHT soften the impact on both you AND the unfortunate zombies that can’t help being the sponges and hangers for the hate in the world.
 

Those of us following your dharma are effected regardless, whether we know the details of the drama  or not, as it is there in your energetic signature anyway, so the drama is there already. And we all created it together. Might as well allow us our portion of integration with full disclosure 💖😅

Thank you for being you!

 

Lots of love! 
Julia

 

 

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I must say that even if you say that it has consumed the last few years of your life, that is nothing that I have ever noticed while observing your work. You are one of the most productive and ambitious people I know of. I'm so impressed by what I have seen you achieve over the last ten years.

I don't know what the best strategy to deal with this is. If it is something that you notice takes a big toll on you or on your career, I personally definitely think it needs to be dealt with. Other than dealing with the problem at hand, it may also serve to define your boundaries and show what type of behavior you accept from other people. Yes, some people may expect a spiritual teacher to remain non-reactive, but that's an unrealistic expectation, and if they have unrealistic expectations about you, maybe they will also have unrealistic expectations about what your teachings will do for them. But I have no real insight into what the consequences of taking action against this are, and ultimately, I think you are the one who knows the best how to respond (or not respond).

It may also be the case that what the best strategy looks like will change over time. For example, I know of people with missions similar to yours who in the beginning of their career also adopted a "turn the other cheek" policy, because that was what the situation required at the time, but over the years gradually switch to an approach of contesting public criticism and responding to attacks to a much greater extent, because their organization had grown and the situation looked different (one example is Sadhguru).

I think that as long as your decisions feel good to you—or rather, the thought of making them doesn't get you worked up—and you make the decisions in a calm and collected state of mind and after some consideration, you will not go wrong.

Take care and all the best ❤️

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This may seem like an absurd idea, or maybe an extreme one. But the way I see it, if these people aren't willing to accept a civilised dialogue or you don't actually have time for every single individual with an ad hominem thought, then copyright your own name, make it impossible to write anything about you without your approval. If they don't see you as an actual person with a family and a personal life but rather as a "topic" to be played with like ping-pong, then let it be a topic that can't be used. That is what I would do if I were at your place, it would make it easier and faster to take down anything that has the name "teal swan", and if they decide to speak vaguely. Well it would be the funniest thing and a new degradation level for the media. 

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I support you, Teal. 💙💚  I love that you still want to protect these folks. I’m so angry though.  How dare they? I’ve written so many responses in this tiny little box, with varying emotions and exclamations, then backspaced over them all. The only sentence that hasn’t changed is the first one. I support you, Teal. I’m glad you’ve got your attorney on the job. Your work stands on its own. It’s proven, SO needed, and so, so loving. Your teachings and body of work have greatly helped me, and millions of others out of some very low places/energies. That statistic alone should strip away any “credibility” to the ridiculous narrative of these detractors.

I wish I had a solution where no one gets hurt. Getting the facts out there may be all that’s left. If the public understands where these people are coming from maybe the blow back for them will be less severe? Shed some light on the accusers’ states of mind? Getting the facts out there wouldn’t be so bad if the accusers’ could finally drop the whole thing, get help and live in their own truth. Idk. I understand what you’re protecting them from but you must stand up for yourself. What are you supposed to do? You’re being attacked by them. What can I do to help? 💗💚 xoxo

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Dear Teal, I am so sorry you've been through years of this... Know that you don't deserve it, not one ounce! I wanna say that I love you and I care for you so very much, everything that you have taught me (us) is so valuable and you truly have saved me many times. I personally believe that you've made the right choice by not responding. Like someone mentioned in the earlier comments, a good strategy would be to have other big names back you up and stand up for you. Also, as your followers/viewers, I believe we do our best to protect your name and your teachings.

Since following you in 2014, I can see your progress, I can see how many more people you have reached with a pure message!! You are on your way to excellence, you are doing it. You have helped me so much and you've helped countless others, and for that, I am forever grateful for your existence. Thank you Teal, I love you

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Honestly I don’t know if I am right and if this is the best advice but I feel if you show the people also what it is happening and how Teal feel about this publicly it will be better for the people because they can see how someones really feels and understand how harsh is this and how untrue it is. Authenticity is always the way even in conflict because it shows and gives the answer and solution we might be lacking now. I think it is better to show to people sometimes more of how really Teal feels about that and the haters also will see that Teal cares about them and they are significant for Teal. Maybe the haters just need that significance and belonging that they couldn’t meet. Maybe by showing how Teal really feels about that publicly people will see more clearly how their information is false and haters will understand that Teal cares about them. 
If I knew what exactly happened and triggered this situation I think I will be able to help more. But honestly I always think that authenticity is the answer because when we show our real self about what it is happening to us and people see our emotions they see the reality better. Teal always says that - that a conflict can be like a flower that helps you grow something new and better 🙂 

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Humanity needs people who are really able to listen to their hearts and make wiser decisions than previous generations. These kind of problems and disinformation everywhere makes it so that people have to sooner or later turn to themselves and start to question what it is that is truly true for them. And everything that isn't real fades away inevitably at some point. That is maybe the bigger picture but then the concrete actions and choices... 😕 If I was Teal, I would probably take some time off and rest and listen to my intuition for guidance. This whole situation and the energies feel like what ever she decides, it has a big impact on her future and career.

I wish you and your team all the best❤️😥 Because this is (and have been) happening, there must be a reason for it as you know better than most people. It's not like this situation is the only "real mistake" that has no value.

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Teal,

Watching your experience from an outside perspective, we who support you will of course be unable to see the full picture of all you have gone through. 
All of the points you made perfectly attest to the truth & what the public will or won’t do and how these attacks could potentially go in the future.

This event makes me think of when the man who invented the water powered car and was killed for it because it would change the world. Mind you there’s a difference but the concept of stopping “good” is the same. 
You are the last thing the “powers that be” need right now. It’s blatantly obvious that they are attempting to do what they did to “New Age” (thanks CIA). You are on the right track so much that they are resorting to a “cult hit piece”. That means you’re effective, aware and worst of all for them -you know it. Fight for expansion and loving awareness.
We are not the cattle-brained dummies the elites believe us to be. You are a part of the awakening on this planet and this is the battle for it. From one conscious soul to another, you and your team are doing a fantastic job. Stay authentic. You are loved and surrounded by love. 
Love is going faster and it’s more positive than ever. Awareness is shaking the world. In your large corner of it & everywhere else.

No fear. They are only powerful as long as they can manipulate us. 
Use this opportunity to prove the propaganda wrong and show the world how they are lying! 
 

Sending vibrations of absolute loving awareness. 

Keep moving forward 
 

 

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