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  1. Something i want out here Hey everyone. do you feel like you belong? do you feel a connection in this community? i want to feel belonging and connection but i'm uncertain if i can get it. i feel like i am such a mess. do you have people who you feel like you can trust and will not leave you no matter what? even if you're crazy or something? what are some issues you are going through right now? how are you dealing with them? how do you spend your days? Is it easy for you to be present with yourself? Do you think you have come far from where you first started or do you feel something else? do you sometimes feel like you're the only one and feel desperately alone? i want connection and belonging but i am in resistance to those two needs cause parts of me feel like i can't get them or something. Actually i don't even know...I hate to say i don't know all the time and i think it could be a coping mechanism but fuckkkkkkkkk i hate how i feel like i make no sense sometimes. I don't understand a lot of things. I want to feel safe that's something i want for sure but...i don't like to speak a lot or express my self cause i feel like it gets me nowhere. always ends up in the same goddamn thing like it goes round and round. I'll stop
  2. Looking for People to Connect with If you are a Tealer and an avid Osho reader, if you love color as much as the absent of it. If you want to chat daily, whether is ranting or sharing a piece of music or a beautiful image you saw on pinterest. If you don't care about distance but if given the opportunity you'd like a meeting to take place. If you wish to talk about your interests or miseries. If you're a Lostie and have trouble finding another Lostie. If by any chance you're into choirs and are able to appreciate the beauty of religion and it's gifts to the world in the arts. If despite all people do and are capable of doing you can see beyond that darkness and don't condemn such darkness. If you know the world is fucked up and at the same time a breathing paradise. If you wish to live the mystery of life and share with fellow humans your realizations, glimpses and thoughts. If you resonate with this post, please don't give it another thought and message me, i'll be around and respond to you. Thank you for reading Edit: Do message me through gmail, aleistersdaughter@gmail.com.
  3. Processes Hi, I want to start doing emotional processes like the CP with other ppl. I have been into spirituality for years now, but I find that I expand faster and understand more when other ppl do processes with me. If anyone is interested in having an emotional process buddy to do processes on themselves sent me a personal message please. ? p.s. the processes will most likely happen on the internet.
  4. Processes Hi, I want to start doing emotional processes like the CP with other ppl. I have been into spirituality for years now, but I find that I expand faster and understand more when other ppl do processes with me. If anyone is interested in having an emotional process buddy to do processes on themselves sent me a personal message please. ? p.s. the processes will most likely happen on the internet.
  5. "Connection Games" a growing authentic community Last New Year’s Eve was a life change event in my life, I attended teal tribe gathering in Prague, for the first time in my life I felt the real authentic love and deep connection, before that I was a broken piece of human trying to understand life and find a meaning of my own life. To make the story short, I practiced emotional healing and a shadow work the techniques that teal teaches helped me immensely ! And since then It has became my passion to share what changed my life with friends and other people around me I started to organize teal tribe gathering in Berlin, and it was amazing to see friends coming from all Europe to connect. Never less I felt there is something missing, what's missing is that many people from the outside teal tribe need this healing, need it more than we think. And that was the beginning of Connection Games, I started organizing a spiritual gathering where we do shadow work, emotional healing and authentic connection and eat Vegan food, not exclusive for people who fellow teal, and we had amazing gathering we had now 7 gathering 6 of them in Berlin and one in the rainbow gathering in Italy People come as stranger and leave as old friends many comes again and again the level of deepness and love they feel it tcuh them and change them every time We still have our teal tribe gathering when there is an online workshop from teal and I'm so happy to have new people with us This what i feel the world needs and I'm happy to fulfil my life purpose and desires by creating the save space for people to connect If you feel like joining us, feel free to contact me any time, i'm not often here at the form but you can reach my by FB https://www.facebook.com/Ram.Alsamann And here i leave some photo for you <3
  6. HATE alcohol Hi everyone, I hate alcohol - both the taste of it and the feeling after it. Yet, it seems to be the only way people are able to have fun together and open up to each other. Any social life revolves around drinking and it makes it hard for me to meet with others. I've always felt out of place at parties, or among friends in general because of it and was forced to fit in. Is there anybody who feels the same way?? I think there are more such people, but they rarely admit to their preference and hide. So please, come out of the closet.
  7. Becoming my own therapist? How can I become my own therapist (because I cannot afford a live one) so I can do the Internal Work that I need to do? I want to live in harmony with the 2 6-word slogans I use; There Is Nothing Wrong With You and Speak Boldly, Live Passionately, Love Fearlessly Thank you.
  8. Isolation trauma and how to connect with others again? I know this is a pretty common trauma, and Teal has done quite a few videos about connecting with others... but do you guys think that having a more in depth video about isolation specifically (be that withdrawal as a coping mechanism, or the idea of childhood abandonment in general) would be helpful? Isolation is something I've also been struggling with. I'm not at all against visualizations or using tools to feel open or trusting with others again which I've seen mentioned in her teachings, but for those of you who also struggle with this know that we can get into a place where we are almost like a high security prison on lockdown. Visualizations can feel surface and pretentious to the mind who has lived this way so long. I've also noticed that a common message is getting down the root of why we don't fully trust others, and using the completion process. Of course this is absolutely important, but the ironic thing is that the completion process is something self-focused (focused on integrating trauma), when the cure for isolation is true intimacy and connection. Also, once we know that root, does anyone else find that it's difficult to find ways to meet that need for connection in your day to day life? After all, if you're seeking to develop better connection with others, it involves other people, their time and schedules. In a way, you're also kind of asking for their energy and giving them energy too, since you want them to connect with you, and you want to connect with them. I've asked myself "What would a person who loved themselves do?" and often draw a complete blank because (again, it's too ironic) it's not what my mind wants anymore. It doesn't want to do stuff alone, but hasn't really experienced a ton of deep connection. This aspect of me wants someone to love me... and help them not feel alone, but I have no idea how to go about helping that. Sometimes I receive answers to that question, and I take a certain course of action that is meant to help with intimacy and connection, but despite that, I often feel like an island of my own even within the presence of people I love and care about. Anyway... this isn't just about me hahaha... I'm wondering if you guys have experienced something similar, and if this topic of discussion would be helpful? I don't know... the way I'm wording this, it sounds like all the questions that have been answered before. But it's something else... that sort of isolation. It's really hard to explain. It's beyond loneliness. This probably sounds really confusing haha... sorry. (One of the effects of isolation is misunderstanding because your mental and emotional reality feels so far from other's. Thus, you end up wording things or talking in ways that cause further confusion and separation.) I'm trying to explain this feeling of horrific isolation in words, and basically just wondering how we can help ourselves and others through it. I like to write articles and blog posts too, and I'm posting one soon on hyper-responsibility and it's relationship with isolation. But... when I thought about how to help that relationship dynamic, I could only find a few things to write for solutions. It's like I understand what's happening, but my ideas for solutions are limited. Thoughts?
  9. Sharing crush story/childhood trauma Hello everyone, I am 23 yrs old (to give you an idea) and I've been having a crush on a guy since almost 2 Years now. I had a boyfriend in between, but I realise I'm not done with the crush, he still appears in dream time feeling like I want/need him but powerless to "have" him, or feeling like it's not okay to try to get his attention... At the beginning I told myself "forget about him Silly girl, he doesn't want you anyway!", but after discovering Teal and getting more in touch with my emotions, I understand that all of the painful emotions I feel about this guy actually come from childhood trauma and are not to be invalidated/rejected... I have nom conscious memory of such a trauma but I Know my dad wasn't very present in my early childhood (before age 8/10...), half of the year he wasn't home because of the job he did at the time as my mom told me. But I don't remember it. I haven't done the completion process on the grief & powerlessness I feel when triggered about him, for now I've been learning to feel those emotions more lately. But also sometimes I doubt whether I'm really feeling those emotions or I'm in my mind... I've never let myself talk about the pain to anyone, scared to show my vulnerability (like I Never cry in front of people for example), So I just wanted to share it here on the forum. Baby step to taking more care of the child self! If you relate to this/have healed childhood trauma around daddy issues, please share
  10. Connection Hello Everyone! I've created this account a while ago but I've just newly realized how starved I was for connection. I have a lot of people in my life that I love very much. But none of them are aware and can create a connection with me that I can feel. A connection with someone who is aware where I can feel their pain and they can feel mine. I have to warn you though, I use to be very scared of connection and of love. Now, I have integrated most of that but there is still residue. I'm willing to go all in. Comment here or message me if you want a real connection, someone to listen to your struggles, be with your pain and not try to fix you. Because you are incredible just the way you are. Xxx
  11. ASMR At this point, I'm sure we've all heard about ASMR (Autonomous sensory meridian response) but for those unfamiliar with it wikipedia describes it as "a tingly experience characterized by a static-like or tingling sensation on the skin that typically begins on the scalp and moves down the back of the neck and upper spine, precipitating relaxation." Anyway. I've been into asmr videos since 2012/2013. Randomly happened upon it & found it quite interesting. I've realised I like them, somewhat because of the tingles, mostly because of the sense of intimacy & connection I get from it. Might sound sad but there it is. I don't really have much intimacy/connecting in my life at the moment (I haven't been allowing it)... so I guess I get my fix from these videos. Do any of you enjoy asmr videos? If so, which of the youtube content creators are your favs? What are your triggers & reasons for watching? Just curious.
  12. the HUT is back in the village I am very happy to announce the re-opening of THE HUT in the new world. Just like in the old tribe, if you follow the fireflies path through the forest, you find the wooden bridge that takes you to it. and just as some of you might remember, the hut is like the tardis: bigger on the inside. and is magic, responding to your wishes. the interior mimics the mood of the guests. it's magic works like this: while you go through the entry's harmonizing space , what you envision you'll find past that door, that's what you'll get. THE HUT is a place of gathering, chilling, sharing, opening, whatever you want it to be. The HUT is meant to bring the glue back into the tribe. To bring the disconnected bits into one place. So...when the village seems slow, when nobody is talking and everyone is waiting for something to move...if the topics' life span is short and they soon fall in the pit of the forgotten topics....if one has nothing to ask and nothing to answer, but they'd like to connect....one can always come to the hut and find a good vibe and friends. As long as we'll all keep THE HUT active and on the front page, we'll all have a place to gather, anytime. It's up to us. If you can think up games that can be played in the hut, bring them on. tarot readers, story tellers, music players, oracles, hugers, listeners, lend your talents to the hut. we are awesome. let's focus on us. hugs
  13. That thing called love I was neglected as a child, so the only love I know is conditional love. How can I ask the universe for unconditional and healthy love from an other person? Would I recognise it if it was staring me in the face? I have been working on loving myself like that, but only recently started trying to invision being loved like that by someone else. It was harder than I expected.
  14. Minnesota Tribe! Hello everyone! I am looking to find some other tribe peeps in Minnesota! I'm in the Twin Cities area. Message me or reply to this if you are in Minnesnowta !! <3 -Chelsea Lynn 0
  15. Twin Cities Tribe Meet-Up Hello everyone! I am looking to gather tribe members in the Twin Cities area! If you are a tribe member in the Twin Cities area please message me or reply to this thread! I want to bring us all together for a meet-up to get to know each other better! <3 -Chelsea Lynn
  16. Intense Loneliness. Relationship absense. Okay, so right now as I go through this intense feeling of loneliness, whilst even typing this, I feel an intense urge to pull away. I need connection with people who are serve my expansion... I've had experiences over the past year especially, where I've expanded, and have had to leave people behind, and I can deal with that, but in becoming so emotionally aware of myself and others in regards to what doesn't serve me (and in many regards now, what does) I've basically isolated myself, as I've offered no real alternative. I was gonna leave true bond making until early next year at one of Teals workshops in the UK, but I then became conscious of the intense amount of pain in this bypassing. I want to integrate with you... I know my progression lies in connection. In terms of relationships... I know I'm an attractive guy, and during childhood, I had shit petty relationships, thinking it was what was expected of me so they must be "good". Well, In high school then, I suffered a lot with rejection. I was attractive, but always a "weirdo" in terms of my unique personality. I eventually ended up convincing myself I was Asexual. Jesus Christ, ouch. Up until this year, I hadn't summed up sexuality and connection very well. I eventually admitted to myself that I was in fact bisexual. However, I have 0 experience with either sex, but am leaning more towards guys at this moment in time. I just don't feel like I have anyone as conscious as myself to talk to, and NEED to meet some Tealers. Through Skype would be awesome, In real life would be even better. (I've also moved into my friends house, but he sort of "evidence, little self belief" - bypasses things, and I really don't wanna move back in with my parents, though I have to for Xmas as my friends sister is coming down from Hong Kong. Argh...... I feel so alone right now. If someone has had the time to read all this and is trying to understand how I feel, thank fuck you exist <3
  17. I would REALLY love to start finding friends on this site. I also have you know that i have big dreams for where I am currently living. Soon enough i'd like to offer my home from time to time for the occasional Teal-Tribe meetup. For every other thing like i this i wanted to create, even in my first highschool.. It never got to fully take off. Never got the proper mentorship, encouragement and the like. Back then it was a sort of big cultural thing, I was about to introduce a type of theater that i wanted to introduce to my school, which was like any typical western private school. every time I got passionate, i just got moved away... perhaps i'm just moving closer and closer to this passion? I do feel in a way as i write this that i'm getting closer to achieving even those things i missed out on when i was a child. Anywho. I REALLY want to make this intentional community thing REAL. I want to make Teal proud!! Let's realize her ideal together! But remember, we've shared her ideals for generations. And now as individuals, we can all become like Gandhi and the many others that have come before and after him, and just purify this world by taking action and doing something with the energies we hold. I want to do this above all for Gaia.. For the infinite one..~~ Much love to all that come across this. I must add though that i came here for just this but not many seem to be offering such things so i will be the one to do so openly. I would love to see more action taking place here.. to do what Teal has wanted initially for this site... I am quite available most of the day so i am ever watchful for those who are in need of help and simply just connection with another who wont judge them Edit: I'm looking for those friendships where you can really do anything together. The kinds of ones that are full of laughter. Forming long lasting mutual bonds, a circle of friends i can really belong to. But more are also welcome to join. The more the merrier.
  18. Subscribe to Teal’s newsletters here: http://thespiritualcatalyst.us6.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=a0c9fbd5534138eb374993029&id=bebf0eebc3 Teal's Web page: http://tealswan.com/ Teal's Meditations: http://www.jointeallive.com/meditations/ Teal's e-shop: https://gumroad.com/tealswan The ego is essentially a separate sense of self. The ego only exists in a state of comparison. It cannot exist without comparison. What happens when we have this sense of identity that exists only because of comparison and so many of the things that we compare ourselves to around us, we see as “not us” or “different to us”? Belonging goes right out the window. And in this case, the ego has nothing to identify with other than not belonging in and of itself. Not belonging becomes part of our identity. In this episode, Teal explains how we can use the ego to create an instant sense of belonging. http://www.askteal.com Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/VVJT/
  19. Toronto workshop-Who's going? Hey! curious to know who's going to the workshop in Toronto on September 25? As well as the documentary on the 23rd? I'm staying in Toronto for a night and would like to meet people from the tribe for the first time! I know that there are two tribe events scheduled-one for Saturday and another Sunday! Dunno the times yet or places But if anyone would like to meet up at the workshop/documentary screening/wherever in Toronto let me know! I promise I'm friendly and not intimidating what so ever haha just interested in connecting with you guys
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  21. if we could create a society with no rules but also without it becoming a complete mess, what would be the way? also,i was wondering... if such a society existed... would it serve the expantion of the universe ,or the complete opposite? or maybe another kind of trauma will be created then?
  22. Connection and addiction I was reminded of something in the TT face book group and i wanted to share it here too. [Teal talked about this, that an experiment had been done with mice. One mouse was left alone and introduced to an addictive substance.The mouse went for it on his own. When that mouse was introduced to a group of mice that one mouse did not even go near that addictive thing even if the substance itself was there. sadly i find myself in this exact situation, and i dont even do drugs, alchohol, meds or smokes. Literally anything can become addicting when the connection we seek is unavailable through people. You then have got to focus what substance is the least damaging.] I find myself in a challenging space because most addicts tend to be drawn to these unhealthy substances while im not. The vibe is the same but the thing we addict ourselves to is different so i feel unable to connect to them over a beer, smoke or any recreational drug. Heck even the processed sugar use is a drug and i practice to lessen that so i cant really connect over a "fika" either (fika is a swedish word for when 2 or more get together to eat pastries, cookies or cake and have a nice time by talking too). Sooo yea. oh by the way i practice lessening the processed food all together so health wise im very healthy relatively speaking. Without that thing to connect or bond over i find myself in a rough spot. I wonder...are there any here who is in a similar situation or feel similarly?
  23. I have painful anxiety. But I didn't realize how bad it really was until I went to an orientation at work yesterday. When I first got there, I was soo stiff and slouched. I tried soo hard to relax but I couldn't. At that point I realized that I didn't feel safe. The environment was safe, however, emotionally I didn't feel safe. My chest was tight and painful, my throat was closing up and I was shaking really bad. And I'm not exaggerating. At that moment, I realized that I have really deep shame that's rooted in me. I've experienced a lot of traumas in my childhood. Being made fun of throughout middle school and high school. Along with covert abuse from my mother and my little brother that eventually had me believing that I deserved to be treated that way. And til this day I still believe that I should be treated that way, because I am bad person. (This makes me want to cry. ) I can't afford therapy. And I need help. I want to believe that I'm worthy and good enough.. And that I'm not a bad person. But it's soo hard when everyone that I'm surrounded by (family and family friends) treat me otherwise. They kick me when I'm down. They talk bad about me when I'm not around. They try to bring me down when I'm happy. They make jokes that aren't really jokes, but are insults disguised as jokes. I could feel completely grounded one minutes, and then the next minute I'm crying because someone ignores me when I talk or they talk over me. I'm fed up. I feel like it's me against my family. If I'm happy, then they get offended. If I'm depressed, they kick me down even further and condescendingly talk to me as if I'm the pessimist of the house. I want to believe that I'm worthy, I want to believe that I'm good enough. I want to live a great life. I want to believe that there are good relationships out there. and I want to live peacefully. ....But I'm starting to loose hope. If you have any advice, opinions, questions, comments feel free to message me or comment below. I look forward to hearing from you.
  24. The healing trap versus reverse integration vs intentional non-integration: for example, social anxiety causes a healing trap- i want conditional acceptance but i also want to heal and they conflict. how do i not abandon myself while speaking with someone? I put pressure on myself to "perform well" and not let them see my anxiety because they will see my flaw. Yet the very act of wanting this conditional acceptance is so damaging to myself and I just can't escape the social anxiety. I am caught with trying to accept this aspect of myself so that in turn maybe I will heal it and then I will feel accepted by people. With the idea of reverse integration or also intentional non-integration (putting the social recluse in a safe mental corner while putting my extroverted side out there) there comes this immediate feeling that I have not accepted the trait of social anxiety. It feels like abandonment. How do I reconcile this??