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  1. Soul exhaustion...harassment and losing my appartment Losing my appartment. Losing my so-called friends after a very, very intense, violent and abusive relationship I broke with a man who swore to God he would kill me if I ever left him. I won't go into graphic details... Maybe one... his d... all over my crying face and his laugh, jeez Losing my trust in everybody he is now triangulating (my so-called "friends") with his favorite masks... So sick and tired of his little mind games where there can only be one goal: my inner destruction. Why do we have to have people live ONLY to destroy the ones who saw through them.? WHY? I'm at loss with words for it looks like his cruelty can only be perceived by a few ones but nobody, nofuckin body, will take the right step to stop him for good. My guides warned me... I am suffering a true and massive exhaustion on all levels. I really hope I will reunite with my Mom, the sooner the better I miss you so much MOM!
  2. Dads new wife .....hates me I haven't had a decent relationship with my father for the past 3 years , because of his new wife. She's very jealous and manipulative much like my step mother who's since passed away 10 years ago. I'm at a loss for how to deal with this. My dad tends to brush things off or ignore /deny and hope problems go away with time. Unfortunately I live in San Diego and he lives in Edmonton Alberta Canada. Aa far as my aunt his sister told me his new wife answers his text messages so if we text, I don't even know if I'm speaking to him or her. I'm actually really upset with my dad for letting his new gf/ wife. Treat me so badly. (To make a long story short she text my husband insinuated that I was cheating on him and told him to revoke my greencard. While i was visiting my father in Canada. ) this is especially painful because my stepmother who raised me since I was 5 was abusive and my dad was oblivious. Is this relationship salvageable? Or will the wife continue to get between us? Part of me wants to resolve the issue part of me is extremely angry .
  3. How to Overcome the eating order Bulimia is a video in which Teal Swan explains how to heal from bulimia. Bulimia is largely connected to the childhood experience of being Gaslit and gaslighting. Bulimia is closely tied to your experience of love and intimate relationships. If as a child your boundaries were violated and your needs were ignored your reality was not validated you may have developed the coping mechanism to control the intake of energy and developed an unhealthy relationship with food, therefore causing Bulimia and Bulimic tendencies. Referenced Videos Emotional Wake Up Call: 19:32 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wMC7ULTSPEE&t=1441s How to Develop Healthy Boundaries: 20:48 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hnKU-hL2Uag&t=414s How To Heal the Emotional Body: 21:41 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c3V_Gtfr_YA Fragmentation - The Worldwide Disease: 22:25 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EeUlPO2iXb4&t=818s What is Healing: 27:41 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZ_DU8gLgQ8&t=396s How to Improve Your Relationship with Food: 28:35 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FV9YLmdcFpo&t=1s How to overcome the Eating Disorder Anorexia: 29:18 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G4803ivCSV8 Subscribe to Receive a New Video Every Saturday: http://bit.ly/SubTealSwan -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Teal Swan is a revolutionary for personal transformation and is ranked 27th on The Watkins Most Spiritually Influential Living People in 2018. As a renowned author, speaker and social media star, she travels the world teaching self-development and teaching people how to transform their emotional, mental, physical and spiritual pain. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Daily Updates, Monthly Online Synchronization Workshops & More: http://bit.ly/TealSwanPremium Website: https://www.tealswan.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tealswanofficial/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tealswanofficial/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/realtealswan Meditations, Books, Merchandise & Frequency Paintings: https://tealswan.com/shop -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Beginning Song: Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/9Hq9/
  4. (5 Free Online Sessions) Abuse Recovery: http://mas-sajady.com/abuse-freedom Teal Swan Book Offer: https://tealswan.com/loneliness *** RECOVERING FROM LONELINESS & ABUSE | As we prepare to launch our Abuse Series at the top of 2019, the timing couldn’t have been better for me to have sat down with renowned speaker and author, Teal Swan, to discuss her personal upbringing with abuse and how we all experience it based upon her perspective on loneliness. If we look at society, we see trauma everywhere—from improper weaning of babies to the ravages of war. Without a doubt, it has become a societal epidemic yet we’ve somehow succumbed to the enormity of its ubiquity that it’s almost deemed “normal.” It has unfortunately widened the chasm of perceived separation into deep loneliness that affects millions in spite of billions in population on Planet Earth. Teal clarifies that these are all essentially fragments of perception and identities we’ve created in order to survive. And the task, at hand, is to have all of society engage in commitment to understand each other and ultimately ourselves. She further specifies there is a need for genuine connection because we are a group species, and it is in our basic biology to be with and be in mutual understanding of one another. Listen in to this episode to hear Teal’s take on loneliness and how you can learn more from her latest book, The Anatomy of Loneliness.
  5. sparklinghueman

    Why am I so mean? You know usually it’s easy for me to figure my emotional stuff out but lately it’s not that way. I was so happy and ever since I got into this relationship it’s like so complicated. It’s not necessarily that it’s a bad relationship for me. I think it’s just shadows and stuff popping up for me that he reflects. Anyways question. Why am I always so mean? I hate that I’m mean. I don’t understand why I am mean to my partner or to anyone really. Every time he walks into the room when he gets home from work I’m immediately filled with defense and like I’m ready to yell. I feel like this every time he gets home. When he tries to show me love or compliments me I get angry and sometimes feel rage bubbling up inside me. When he wants to talk I get angry. Sometimes everything he does or says gets me in defense and yelling mode. It got to the point that I didn’t want to be touched and would feel rage from being touched. That has gotten somewhat better though. But sometimes I feel I can’t trust the person touching me and I’m scared of being taken advantage of sexually. Sometimes when he touches me in certain places I feel like my skin is burning and I have these visuals of hitting him. I try to hide it from him because I want this to go away and it doesn’t. I just want to put him down for everything he does that’s remotely positive. And I hate this yet can’t stop! I used to LOVE being shown love. Now it seems it makes me uncomfortable. This kind of seems like it happens in every relationship of mine. I don’t like hugs at all and I judge everyone constantly. It’s just so strange because I used to be like the total opposite of all of this and now it’s like everything I am is the exact opposite of what I want in my life. I feel so stiff, angry, judgemental, and distant from everyone. I wish I could go back to how things were. Why can’t I seem to make that happen? Why am I stuck in this nightmare? I miss how I used to feel about myself(self love) and about him. And others.
  6. Healthy Sexuality is all too often some ideal place that we hold over our own heads to shame and punish ourselves into getting there. The idea of healing sexuality is that while exploring our own sexuality we are on a journey rather than punishing ourselves into alignment. Teal Swan explains more deeply how we can be easier with ourselves and the idea that healing sexuality can be the road to healthy sexuality. Subscribe to Receive a New Video Every Saturday: http://bit.ly/SubTealSwan ❤ Free Gift: By pre-ordering Teal’s new book The Anatomy of Loneliness you receive the Connection Process audio book for free. Just email your proof of purchase to gifts@tealswan.com [Limited time offer]. http://bit.ly/AnatomyOfLoneliness -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Teal Swan is a revolutionary for personal transformation and is ranked 27th on The Watkins Most Spiritually Influential Living People in 2018. As a renowned author, speaker and social media star, she travels the world teaching self-development and teaching people how to transform their emotional, mental, physical and spiritual pain. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Daily Updates, Monthly Online Synchronization Workshops & More: http://bit.ly/TealSwanPremium Website: https://www.tealswan.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thespiritual... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tealspiritu... Twitter: https://twitter.com/TEALCATALYST Meditations, Books, Merchandise & Frequency Paintings: https://tealswan.com/shop -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Beginning Song: Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/9Hq9/
  7. Dealing with internalised abusive parent This one is super hard for me. I can feel in to my abused parts, one of them is a child that has heavy burns an is constantly tormented by thought patterns, attitudes and actions that I have internalised from my father, I feel powerless towards these thought patterns, I hate him and everything that I had to suffer because of him, but I have internalised him and it feels like living with my abuser under my skin. I have huge resistaince to this part. Maybe somebody has similar experiences, maybe somebody has some advice.
  8. Annistacia

    Repressed memories My topic is repressed sexual abuse. I know for a various number of reasons, that I was sexually abused as a child. I would reenact, or do and behave in such inappropriate ways that still disturb me today, not as much now that I’ve actually discussed it a couple times with my therapist and with my mother. I would do so on my own and on two separate times in my childhood with two different girls, not knowing HOW wrong it was but enough to know that we should hide it, but I do not know where I learned these things. And after watching an interview about Teal’s story and she mentions children who will repetitively do things. I won’t get into detail, so as to get to the point of my question, which is should I dig for these or let them organically come up if they do at all? My therapist suggested this. It’s not like I really want to know and have my world shattered, it’s just, could I not benefit not in the long term from it from by getting a better understanding. The thing about me is, I’ll jump into the fire no matter how painful if I know there’s light, because there always is, it’s always better after. So yea what do you guys think? Organically or dig?
  9. The path of awakening burns What should a teenager or young adult do if they realize their parents are emotionally abusive?
  10. Understanding School Shooters and how to prevent school shootings begins with understanding the school shooter’s emotional dynamics and emotional upbringing and surprisingly has nothing to do with guns or anti-gun sentiment. School Shooters are often isolated in a world unto themselves even when surrounded by other people. They feel misunderstood and like no one can feel their pain. Teal Swan discusses the emotional dynamics that create and sustain school shooters. Teal Swan is an International Spiritual Leader. She offers perspective on a wide range of topics including relationships, anxiety, meditation, shadow work, authenticity, the law of attraction, The Completion Process, healing, PTSD, emotions and spirituality Website: www.tealswan.com For daily updates, monthly online Synchronization Workshops join TealSwan.com/premium Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thespiritualcatalyst/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tealspiritualcatalyst/?hl=en Twitter: TEALCATALYST Newsletter: https://tealswan.com/newsletter Completion Process Book: https://thecompletionprocess.com/#the-book Teal's Meditations: https://gumroad.com/tealswan Teal's e-shop: tealswan.com/teals-products Beginning Song: Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/9Hq9/
  11. Talking on Love and Fear, and Isolation. If you have had trauma, abuse, ritual abuse, the most important thinking is to treat yourself with gentleness. Eventually, self love is possible. There is hope to overcome what has happened. There is always a way! More information how to heal: www.laurajworley.com
  12. Ownership of our own actions and decision making in relationships is essential. Teal Swan explains that the reason we can’t do this is due to our childhood dynamics and how we dealt with the boundaries of our parents. Most children sacrificed their own needs in order to appease their parent and unfortunately this behavior often carries through to our adult relationships. Teal Swan is an International Spiritual Leader. She offers perspective on a wide range of topics including relationships, anxiety, meditation, shadow work, the law of attraction, The Completion Process, healing, PTSD, emotions and spirituality Website: www.tealswan.com For daily updates, monthly online Synchronization Workshops join TealSwan.com/premium Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thespiritualcatalyst/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tealspiritualcatalyst/?hl=en Twitter: TEALCATALYST Newsletter: https://tealswan.com/newsletter Completion Process Book: https://thecompletionprocess.com/#the-book Teal's Meditations: https://gumroad.com/tealswan Teal's e-shop: tealswan.com/teals-products Endsong: Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/9Hq9/
  13. Overreaction to aggression Hello. When I start talking about my overreaction with others, they will usually tell me that it wasn't my fault, that my response was adeqauate and I simply wanted to defend myself. But I don't know still. I would be grateful to hear some new perspectives and maybe stories. Two months ago I was jogging in the park with my mom, then we saw two homeless dogs. I love animals, I am vegan myself and I never had any problems with animals before. They were pretty big, at first they were acting normal and I had no problems with them. They were obviously hungry, sniffing my pockets and hands, and then one dog licked my hand and bit it lighly. It didn't hurt at all, but I automatically put my hand in the pocket to get pepper spray. Then it growled quietly but aggressively, I stepped back, the dog stepped forward and I pepper sprayed it. It yelped in pain and ran away. At first my mother didn't understand why I did it. She thought they were acting friendly, but when she heard my side of story, she agreed that it was self-defense and was glad I didn't wait until it bit me hard. So I don't know still was it self-defense or overreaction. I know that I felt scared and I felt like I was in danger, I saw the dog coming towards me, I felt it teeth and tongue on my hand. What scares me is how my mom reacted, bc it all happened before her eyes. why she was shocked by my action? There was also one time when I was fighting my brother, he hit me, I hit him back, then he splashes hot tea on me, then I got the kettle and splash the boiling water back. It all happened in the blink of an eye. His hot tea did hurt, but my boiled water left visible burns on his face. My mother was very upset with both of us and I was angry at first, saying that it was him who hit me first (but honestly his hits weren't that hard) and him who splashed the hot tea first. The realisation came 2 hrs after and I apologised and admitted that i was wrong. Overreaction seems to be my response to any aggression. When I was growing up and someone raised their voice on me, I pretended that this person didn't exist and imagined them dead. When someone tried to bully me at school, I bullied them back, telling them to die. When I thought someone didn't like me, I ignored and avoided them. Needless to say I never was popular. I don't think I'm a sociopath, because I am very empathetic person. And I hate to see someone suffer. After both situation I felt numb, like I didn't hurt the dog, or my brother, but I hurt myself. I don't know what's causing the overreaction and I'm really scared of it, I don't want to end up murdering someone. Sorry for my english.
  14. Teal Swan responds to the allegations made against her that she is a fraud, fake, liar and a dangerous cult leader. Teal Swan exposes the truth and is exposed fully in this authentic release of her response to all the hateful allegations made against her. :22 Conflicting Timelines of Abuse 9:50 - Suicide 19:29 - Money + Spirituality 27:40 - Are you a Guru? 35:32 - Law of Attraction 52:19 - Marriage 1:00:00 - Your Pain 1:11:01 - College Dropout 1:14:05 - Plagiarism 1:18:32 - Psychology w/o a License 1:21:10 - Cult or Movement? 1:23:32 - Narcissism 1:29:12 - Shadow Motivations 1:38:46 - Why Address This Now? 1:42:17 - Passion 1:47:00 - Controversy 1:49:09 - What would you say to your haters? Help us caption & translate this video! https://amara.org/v/bzWS/
  15. Spiritual communities promote the idea of developing a state of Non-Reactivity. But this concept is mistaken in true enlightenment. Today, Teal focuses on Non-Reactivity. Most people mistake reactions with the action that people take as a result of those reactions. Teal Swan helps us see that our reactions are completely normal and that we need to honor these reactions and feelings while not taking action immediately. Teal Swan is an International Spiritual Leader. She offers perspective on a wide range of topics including relationships, anxiety, meditation, shadow work, the law of attraction, The Completion Process, healing, PTSD, emotions and spirituality Register for Premium Content https://tealswan.com/premium-register Website: www.tealswan.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thespiritualcatalyst/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tealspiritualcatalyst/?hl=en Twitter: TEALCATALYST Newsletter: https://tealswan.com/newsletter Completion Process Book: https://thecompletionprocess.com/#the-book Teal's Meditations: http://www.jointeallive.com/meditations/ Teal's e-shop: https://gumroad.com/tealswan Endsong: Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/9Hq9/ Help us caption & translate this video! https://amara.org/v/bozA/
  16. The Most dangerous Parallel Reality exists here on earth. It is something that many people suffer from every day. Teal Swan teaches that the way out of them, is intimacy. Teal Swan is an International Spiritual Leader. She offers perspective on a wide range of topics including relationships, anxiety, meditation, shadow work, the law of attraction, The Completion Process, healing, PTSD, emotions and spirituality Register for Premium Content https://tealswan.com/premium-register Website: www.tealswan.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thespiritualcatalyst/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tealspiritualcatalyst/?hl=en Twitter: TEALCATALYST Newsletter: https://tealswan.com/newsletter Completion Process Book: https://thecompletionprocess.com/#the-book Teal's Meditations: http://www.jointeallive.com/meditations/ Teal's e-shop: https://gumroad.com/tealswan Endsong: Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/9Hq9/
  17. How do I forgive a child abuser for my own inner peace? I'm having a real hard time accepting things like this but - There's this trial that's been going on about "Baby doe" around my area, and well what happened was in 2015 this baby girl was found dead and could not be identified for months, and it turned out to be a little toddler named Bella. Apparently she was beaten to death by her mother's boyfriend and her mother was aware of this and helped cover it up. So now fast forward two years - and the mother has finished her two years she was sentenced in exchange to testify against him, and is to be released in a couple weeks while he faces life. So my issue is bugging me and that is, why is this woman allowed to see the light of day again? I have so much fury and anger over this situation, and I am full of hate toward her and feel sick, like I have a ball of firey anger in me right now since this woman exists. I cannot believe that a mother would put her life beyond her child's, and to me that is unfathomable. I do not care if her mother was being abused or hurt, that does not justify what happened, and the worst part about my feelings right now is that I hope she continues to be hurt for the rest of her life for doing this to a small child who deserved nothing but love I'm very shaken up by this and I hope that I can figure out how to rationally forgive these people or think in my head or at least empathize with it all, but I am having a lot of trouble in doing so. I want to be able to heal, and to understand and forgive, it's just hard to see anything worth it right here.
  18. abused by own father in satanic cult Hello everyone, I have been following Teal for a while and have been practising the completion process. I have been raised in a "normal" family, because like Teal said, everything is normal to you when you are a child. But my parents have both been severely traumatized in their childhood. Not only in their families, my father has been beaten by his father at least but they were both traumatized in World War II as children (my father stood right next to his mother when she was hit by a bomb, he was eight years old). That is something that is so far from being cured in Germany you wouldn't believe. Yes, I know we have been the monsters and we are the victims, too. The psychological consequences are still huge. Because of this I always thought that I had adopted somehow the traumas of my parents. But the shadow work took me deeper and deeper and now my own suppressed memories just surfaced. I have been abused and tortured by my own father and other men on the altar of the catholic church in some kind of satanic ritual in my hometown. I have been drugged, tortured with electro shocks and buried alive. There have been other kids, even my own sister and a woman as well. I know who they all were - even the priest was involved, he probably initiated it. I have no visible wounds or scars to prove it. It started when I was 4 years old and 8 ended when I was eight. Of course there were symptoms later on. I got Vitiligo around my vagina and started scratching myself. Cutting would have been much too visible. I hated the church but still had to go there. I had a friend when I was ten and we did not play but acted out raping scenes in the dark party cellar of her parents. How sick is that? I stopped functioning when I was fourty. I got my first divorce, quit the country and fled to live in the farest corner of Europe. I am fifty now, had a second divorce (where my ex and I played every fucking victim control dynamic Teal described in her videos which I have been seeing the last six weeks without stopping because I so desperately needed to know what was going on in my life). I always suspected that there had to be something else. Now I know. And I cannot believe myself. I really split my father into monster and good guy. The monster poured wine on me while I lay on the altar. I always hated wine (now I know why). The good guy smoked. I loved men who smoked. Now I am sitting here. And I just lost my family. I cannot confront him. I have no proof. I cannot tell my sister. She is very immersed in the church and would not believe me even though she calls herself emotionally nailed shut. I do not know how to ever look my father in the eye again. I think that my mother knows nothing because she has been drugged so she would not wake up at night and see us gone. If you were in my shoes what would you do? I would love to hear from people who perhaps have had the same experience. About this topic there is no help out there. It is so such a stigma and so tabu and unthinkable. Thank you
  19. In this episode, Teal Swan exposes the coping mechanism that is the biggest barrier to self awareness… Deflection. Teal Swan then goes on to explain how to not let deflection get the better of you. Teal Swan is an International Spiritual Leader. She offers perspective on a wide range of topics including relationships, anxiety, meditation, shadow work, the law of attraction, The Completion Process, healing, PTSD, emotions and spirituality. Subscribe to Teal’s newsletters here: http://thespiritualcatalyst.us6.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=a0c9fbd5534138eb374993029&id=bebf0eebc3 Teal's Web page: http://tealswan.com/ Teal's Meditations: http://www.jointeallive.com/meditations/ Teal's e-shop: https://gumroad.com/tealswan http://www.askteal.com Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/5K3W/
  20. Subscribe to Teal’s newsletters here: http://thespiritualcatalyst.us6.list-manage2.com/subscribe?u=a0c9fbd5534138eb374993029&id=bebf0eebc3 Teal's Web page: http://tealswan.com/ Teal's Meditations: http://www.jointeallive.com/meditations/ Teal's e-shop: https://gumroad.com/tealswan In this episode, Teal explains that we have to awaken to the reality that some of us are in relationships that are based on intermittent reinforcement. In this kind of relationship, the things we need, like love, are only granted inconsistently, unpredictably and occasionally. But the fact that they are granted occasionally, keeps us hooked. We are owned by the relationship. We build up so much despair and starvation that when we get a single scrap, the relief we experience by getting a scrap feels like nirvana and we begin to chase that feeling and do anything we can do to get it. http://www.askteal.com Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/VcCl/
  21. How to re-build Identity after abuse? Part 1. I can't find myself beautiful anymore. Help I can't find any beauty in myself. I used to think I was so beautiful. Please help me. I suffered a lot of abuse and it is still manifesting in my life. This abusive people. This used to be one of my favourite pics. Now I find it so normal and unactractive.
  22. Lleo Oneiro

    You ask 10. There is 100. You're given 6.
  23. Jerry Tyfting

    It basically is what it sounds like in the title. Some part of me gets turned on while imagining a woman saying that they don't want to. If I let go and allowed me to act on that feeling it is plain abuse and disrespect. This actually works the same if I masturbated to that thought of refusal....which my body gets turned on by...*sigh -.-' Its kinda understandable. These kinds of things where barely spoken of on any deeper level when I grew up. As far as I know of my mom wasn't really interested in sex, but my father was. He had very basic beliefs about it though, mostly that sex was meant for reproduction and less so for pleasure. I feel unsure actually how their dynamic in bed was, the topic is something that felt bad talking about with them. Shame if I got the feel right. They said we could talk about everything but the emotions where way too shameful to genuinely do that. Add to this that my mom showered me until I was 15. I mean as a boy growing into his teen years, mom definitely felt weird and it showed when she showered my sensitive areas. It was only a quick hover with the shower head over there and nothing more. It felt as if it was to be avoided. More shame on her part I guess that I got influenced by. At times I didn't even want to let her shower me but since it was the only way of life I knew I had no idea of the damage that was done at the time. I even flat out said that I did not want to at times but she kept pushing until I gave in. Maybe she did not want to shower me in the first place...she did scrub my body in general though but it still felt unwanted at times. She did this to present herself as a "good mom" to the rest of the world with clean children. Now this treatment once a week, with times I really wanted it but other times I did not. It was the closest I have ever gotten a womans touch at the time. Which could explain why this sort of abuse feels "on turning" for me. It feels familiar and to be fair I have only recently had 1 chance of re-experience physical touch that where a little bit healthier. Since I barely have to no other intimately close physical experience with women, this is something that I believe are one of the only ways to be healed though physical interaction, to learn of healthy boundaries and emotional spaces that does feel more positive. Thanks for reading. I just felt in a sharing mood with what is going on in my thought processes sorting through what is happening.