The only time helping someone else is beneficial, is if they are receptive and want help. More importantly, the only time helping someone works is if we are able to maintain focus on the improved state and what is positive about the person or situation that we are "helping". Anything less than that, is lending energy to the negative end of the scale. Anything less than that is focusing at them as if something is wrong with them. Anything less than that is focusing energy at their diminished capability. No healing and no help can come from that kind of focus at all.