If we love our children then the message we need to give them is as follows: I will never rob you of the opportunity to prove to yourself your own talent and capability. I will never do for you what I know you can do (or have intended to do) for yourself, because to love you is to see you as the powerful, eternal creator that you are. To love you is to see your limitless potential. I am not here to ask you to behave in a way which makes me happy. I am not here to justify my life through you. I am here to lend energy towards your alignment, desires and expansion. And I will do this by creating my own alignment, desires and expansion first.