At the end of the day we are called to trust the people in our lives with their own lives. We are called to trust them to make the decisions that are right for their lives; even if we cannot see WHY those decisions are currently right for them. We are called to trust them with their lives even if we feel tempted to judge that the decision they are making isn't right for them. At the end of the day we have a choice to practice love (which is to unify) or to practice being right (which is to divide). If we are choosing to be right about someone else's life, we are not unconditionally loving them. We are loving them based on the condition that they agree with us. We are rigidly attached to our own ideas. We can begin to practice unconditional love by practicing non attachment. And to practice non attachment all we must do is become soft enough to side with the mystery of life by acknowledging "Maybe there is something valuable in this situation that I do not see yet". When you begin to loosen up your grip on being right about what is right for someone, instead of rigidly siding with your own opinion about what is right for them, your relationships with other people become a thing of ease. They become a thing of ease because you have relinquished the control inherent in distrust. They become a thing of ease because all that is left to do is to love them without condition. And loving someone without condition brings out the absolute best in people.