You spend your life using lovers to avoid your pain; to avoid your suppressed grief and anger and fear. You enter the twin flame relationship thinking that he/she will be your best hope of doing just that. You imagine that you will finally be happy and whole because they are in your life. But to your surprise, your twin flame leads you straight into the discomfort you were trying to avoid. All of your un-integrated aspects surface for integration so that you can become whole in and of yourself once more. What makes the twin flame unique is that he/she holds your hand through this process of self-liberation whilst you are holding their hand through the very same process, which is simultaneously taking place within them. The manifestation of the twin flame is the manifestation of the path of integration.