The soul mate/twin flame relationship is not a relationship which will always feel like joy. It will also feel uncomfortable. It is designed to both initiate and support you through your discomfort. Discomfort is the feeling of being confronted by your surfacing 'shadow'. The fate that you feel within the relationship, is the destiny inherent within the relationship. A destiny that was decided upon by you before your birth. The destiny is that you will lead each other straight into the discomfort of integrating what you were trying to use each other (and other previous partners in your life) to avoid. But you will be holding hands as you walk into that discomfort.