Most of us have the belief that we are "a bad person" if we can not make the people around us happy. Because of this, we find it difficult to be happy when someone else is unhappy. We do not allow other people to be unhappy enough to find themselves and their true desires. We do not allow them to be unhappy enough to find their way to their own happiness. Instead we try to force them to be happy. We try to do whatever it takes to MAKE them happy. But we aren't actually doing it for them. We're doing it so that WE can feel good about ourselves. We're doing it so that WE can be happy. We are operating from this misconception: "If I can make everyone around me happy, I will finally be happy" and what a painful belief it is to hold.