Personal expansion is like labor. It is not often accomplished with ease. And the suffering can be so acute at times; we would do anything to get away from it. But the more we resist the pain, the more it hurts us. There is nothing to do but surrender to it. Like contractions, the pain comes in waves and all there is to do is to breathe through it and let it transform us. We cannot always see the light at the end of the tunnel. It feels as if the pain will be with us forever. But inevitably, new life appears.