Relationships are one of the hottest topics in the world. Why is this the case? Because life is relationships. Therefore, a happy life is down to the quality of our relationships. Because of this, people seek out experts who can help them with information and advice on relationships. Naturally, people care about properly vetting the source of this information and advice. And doing so is really hard, especially when the metrics that people are using to decide whether someone is a credible expert are outdated.

I’m sure you are already aware of this, but very shortly after I stepped into this purpose of mine, the barrage of character attacks started. Ever since then, it has been like walking through a battlefield of adversaries, intent on stripping away any and all credibility they can. And they didn’t stop with me. They went after anyone who is associated with me; anyone who follows the content I produce, destroying their credibility too. This has been the hell of my life in so many more ways than anyone in the public knows. And it has put people who openly follow my content in a horrible position as well. It has sewn fear and doubt and distrust into the public about me and anyone who associates with me as well as the content that I put out into the world. Relationships is one of the topics that I teach the most extensively about. So naturally, the opposition has sought to directly discredit me in this area. The backbone of their strategy being to say that no one should listen to me about relationships because of my many “relationship failures”. When people tell you that you should distrust something because it could be dangerous or bad for you, it has an effect. It can’t not. For this reason, I’m going to put some points before you that may help you to better trust the information I share and content I produce regarding relationships. And I’m going to do this point by point.  

1. I have come to this planet with the intention of lending my knowledge and energies to the reduction of suffering. What lies at the root of human pain? Relationships. Painful relationships are the single biggest source of suffering for the human race. And people are terrible at relationships. The human race’s current inability to have a symbiotic relationship with each other and with the other life forms that call earth home, is the single biggest source of suffering for most of the other species on this planet. The human race’s inability to create a good relationship with the very planet upon which it lives, is perhaps the biggest threat to the survival of the human race. So, people being able to create a society that is conducive to happiness rather than suffering is down to the mastery of relationships. The ending of war is down to the mastery of relationships. Human survival itself is down to the mastery of relationships. And as such, relationships have been my logical study and obsession, since I was a child. Years and Years and Years of obsessive study. 
2. I did not come into this life with a clean slate. I came in with lots of information, including bigger picture information about relationships within the context of the universe itself. I am tapped into something much bigger than most people are.     
3. Humanity is in the dark ages when it comes to relationships. And people find it very hard to see outside of their own current paradigm. They find it very hard to question the status quo, which they simply accept as right and good and normalize. They find creativity when it comes to relationships threatening because boxes make people feel secure. The mastery of relationships requires you to step outside these paradigms and question them and examine them from the outside. But in an insane society, the sane person is the odd one out. The one who is treated as if they are the one that is insane. You will be judged according to the current paradigm that people are stuck in. This is how it is with humanity. For a very long time in human history people knew without a doubt that marriage should be purely for economic alliance, political gain and perpetuation of family lineage. Now, that idea horrifies people. Now people know without a doubt that marriage should be for love. Today, most people know without a shadow of a doubt that people are monogamous and life is about finding that special one that is meant for you. Yet experts in the fields of sociology, psychology, anthropology and evolutionary biology don’t agree. In fact, it is a topic of serious debate. People find it very hard to be sexually faithful. You’d think that if people were naturally monogamous, they wouldn’t have to try so hard not to cheat. And many people have consensually non-monogamous relationships, way more than you are aware of. They just don’t go around announcing it in a world where people’s characters are condemned for it and their lives are ruined because of it. Back in the medieval era, people knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that if a woman had twins, she had committed adultery and the two children had different fathers. That the first born was the pure, legitimate and intended child and the second was the evil counterpart. So, the second born twin was often abused. And on many occasions, left to die. Look at the effect this would have had on relationships. Relationships between husband and society and the mother. Relationships between the twins. Relationships between parents and children. Today, we know how both fraternal and identical twins actually happen. We think they are adorable. We dress them in matching outfits. The moral of the story is, if someone comes along who understands relationships better than the current people of the day understand relationships, they are treated like the crazy one.       
4. I currently have and have had a lot of relationships with a lot of people and around the globe. I’ve had lots of romantic relationships. Lots of friendships. Lots of adversarial relationships. Lots of business relationships. Lots of family relationships. Lots of teacher student relationships. I have lived in an intentional community type setting for over 20 years. That will teach you to master relationships really fast. I’ve had relationships with many children. I am also a parent. Lots of relationship experience recommends a person. When a person has had few relationships and those relationships have been the ones they have stuck to for the totality of their life, they are only learning how to have a relationship within that limited field. They are not navigating the incredible differences and complexities and difficulties and gifts of having relationships with a wide variety of people. Also, if a person has had many relationships hit trouble and come to an end, that too provides tons of experience. To use an analogy, if you set off in a boat with a captain who has been in many ship wrecks, are you going to simply decide that this means he is a shitty captain? Would you rather be in a boat with a captain that has only sailed in one area his whole life and who has never been in a ship wreck? Or might it be possible that a captain who has sailed in waters all over the world and has been in many ship wrecks, knows a whole lot more. More about what to do and not do. More about oceans in general. More about boats. More about dangers. More about strategies for success and failure. What if this is the case with relationships as well?   
5. Let’s take a look at Teal’s many “relationships failures”. To be able to make this claim, you have to be able to define what makes a relationship a failure. What does it mean for a relationship to fail? Most people who put this argument before the public are judging relationship failure as a relationship coming to an end. Really, they are completely focused on romantic relationships only. So, relationship success is defined according to longevity of romantic relationships. There are several problems with this. 
   This first is, just because people are fixated on romantic partnership doesn’t mean that is the most important relationship that a person can have and it certainly is not the only relationship in someone’s life. I have had the same best friend for 31 years. There are people who spend day in and day out with me that I have lived with for eleven years.    
   The second problem is, when a romantic relationship ends, but a person still maintains a close relationship with that same person, technically the relationship didn’t end. It just went from one kind of relationship to another. And this kind of transfer from a romantic relationship to a friendship is something that I specialize in doing, including in my own personal life. 
   The third problem is, if a relationship ending means that it has failed, this implies that all relationships are meant to last. Well, the ultimate truth is, because of the nature of this universe, no relationship actually ever ends. Even if in the physical dimension, it appears that you go separate ways and never again share the same space and time with someone. But, entertaining the human perception of a relationship ending, many relationships have a finite purpose in a person’s life experience. They are meant to play a specific part in a person’s life at a specific time. We wouldn’t say that a person’s relationship with their kindergarten teacher failed because they are no longer in a teacher – student relationship with them. We only say that a relationship failed in the context of friendship and partnership (especially marriage) because we have decided that these relationships SHOULD last a lifetime. But what if this isn’t the case? All relationships are valuable, even if they are horrific. All offer lessons. All cause you to become more aware and more self-aware. All have a purpose. All introduce new things to you. All are part of your personal evolution. And therefore, to say that the relationship has failed if it has ended, is not accurate.   
   The fourth problem is, even though I can point to so many relationships in my own life where there is longevity, defining success according to longevity is not intelligent. While most people want a relationship to last for their entire life, there are plenty of relationships that last people’s whole lives that are dysfunctional. In fact, dysfunction is how the vast majority of people accomplish longevity. So, longevity is not such a reliable metric of whether a relationship is good. If you want to understand more about this, you can watch my video titled: Longevity Is Not Necessarily a Measure of Success or Health in a Relationship.
   The fifth problem is, people have an uncanny way of assuming that if I have had many romantic relationships that have ended, the problem must be me. They see me, rather than any number of other things as the common denominator. As if I (or any person) could make a relationship work singlehandedly if I were truly good at relationships. That isn’t how relationships work. 
   The sixth problem is, people don’t see the many factors that go against me specifically being able to have a romantic partnership that lasts a lifetime. So, let me give you a taste.       

A. I am a reflector. And I am a reflector beyond measure. To get into a relationship with me, is to be in a direct relationship with yourself. Especially with those things that you do not see about yourself. And this is great if what is being reflected feels good. But what about when what is being reflected doesn’t feel good? And there is no off switch for this reflection. The pressure to be conscious is always on the people around me. And most people want to be able to choose when to look in the mirror and when not to. To be in any kind of relationship with me, is to have your ego burn in the fire of awakening. And people often find out that who they really are, is different to who they sold themselves to be at the beginning of their relationship with me. So, a great many men “find themselves” by being with me, but come to discover that who they truly are is different than who they thought they were upon entry into the relationship with me and what they truly want in a partnership with a woman is something different than me. 

B. I know it isn’t politically correct to say it, but I have been very sexually attractive since I hit puberty. Contrary to popular opinion, it is much harder to find a compatible partner when this is the case. Instead, you end up lost in an ocean of men, all of whom will do anything to be with you. Including deceive themselves and you into thinking they are exactly what they know you are looking for in a man. If you want to understand more about this one, you can watch my video titled: Pretty Privilege? Why it is So Hard to Be a Beautiful Woman. 

C. I am famous. If there were ever a force that made relationships impossible, it would be fame. Nothing reveals the horrors of the human ego quite like fame. It is hard to maintain relationships when you don’t have the pressure of the public eye and press and the horrific way people behave around fame. This is a pressure most people and most relationships cannot handle. It corrodes them completely. Most people are not actually compatible to a life where there is fame involved. 

D. I am a successful woman. I have an international career. I wish I had been there to warn my younger self about the nightmare that being a successful woman would unleash upon my relationships with men. Gender bias is an absolute reality in our human world. All people have gender bias whether they want to have it or not. It is imbedded in the subconscious. To generalize, men feel pathetic and are made to feel pathetic by society when they step into a relationship with a woman who is perceived as “bigger” that he is in any way. Even more pathetic if he gets into a supportive role to a woman’s career success in a relationship. So, this creates three standard experiences. The first is that a man steps into the relationship and starts feeling bad about himself. And decides that he has to go off and focus in his own worldly success, otherwise he can’t feel good about himself within society and can’t feel like a man if you feel bigger to him in that you have more worldly power than he does. The second is, a man steps into the relationship and it turns out to be something he wanted to do because he is actually responsibility averse and passive. He is looking for a woman who is bigger than he is, because like a mother, he is hoping you will take all the pressure and all the responsibility. He loves a woman who is competent and can fend for herself and him. The exact opposite of what you need of course. Essentially, you end up with a little boy masquerading as a man and in a flipped polarity dynamic. Third, a successful man steps in. A man who is engaged in his own successful career, essentially a power couple dynamic. And the relationship goes south even faster. First, because your respective careers call you in different directions. You don’t have a common goal. You are not really living a together life. Rather, you end up like two passing ships in the night. Neither can prioritize the other. And each carries a lot of pressure. Pressure which implies the need for support, which is being given to you both by other people rather than each other. So, you naturally drift apart and grow closer to the people who are actually there with you, actually supporting you in the respective experiences you are having. Because you have the same needs, needs which neither of you can offer each other. And you offer the same things in a relationship, neither of you really values getting those things. There is no energy exchange. If you want to learn more about this, you can watch my video titled: Why Successful Women Struggle To Find Love.  

The seventh problem is that unfortunately, I come from a history in this life of extremely severe abuse. It should come as absolutely no surprise that I have been navigating a disorganized attachment for the totality of my life. Having a disorganized attachment makes relationships extremely challenging. You have to work much harder than most people to be able to make relationships work. But again, this recommends me as a relationship expert. I have personal experience with both the worst kinds of human relationships as well as the best kinds of human relationships. To be straight with you, a person with a secure attachment does not experience the contrast necessary to become a relationship expert. 

Eighth, I know enough about the parenting relationship to know not to boast about the incredible relationship I have with my son. A person’s parenting is evident in the way their child turns out in adulthood, most especially in their relationships, as well as in what they, themselves have to say about their childhood experience. So, I will simply have to let him fully grow up and give you his report. 

Relationships are not easy. You don’t need me to tell you that. But we are here to master them. And it is in the mastery of them that we will create a world that is actually conducive to wellbeing. And it is a pleasure to help you with this mastery.