I am going to answer the question: What is love? In one sentence. I will then go on to explain what that sentence means. To love something is to take it as part of yourself. It is an experience more than it could ever be a concept. Love is inclusive. It is the energetic movement towards oneness. When you love something, you energetically pull it towards you and include it as you.
The exact opposite vibration of love is fear. To fear is to separate something from yourself. Fear is exclusive. It is the energetic movement towards individualization. When you fear something, you push it away and dis-include it from you.
The ultimate reality in this universe is that of oneness. We may perceive there to be separate things in the world. But this perception is an illusion. We are all comprised of the same energy that is merely expressing itself as different things. And this energy is not only infinite; it has consciousness. This is what we have been calling God or Source for thousands of years. A thought occurred within that consciousness and that thought was “I” or ‘define’. It wanted to define what it was. That one thought was like an unstoppable cancer. It was the birth of the Ego. It was also the birth of relationship and attachment. That thought immediately gave rise to the concept of “other”. There can be no “I” unless there is something that is “not I”. Like a cell dividing, the united consciousness began dividing and dividing and dividing. These fragments within oneness, fragmented to the degree that the consciousness of those fragments lost awareness of the whole. You are one such fragment within oneness that lost awareness of the whole. So is the chair you are sitting on. So is the taxi out on the street, so is the tree outside.
Occasionally, one of these fragments recognizes itself positively in another fragment and in that moment, takes it to be the same as itself. This is love. Separation is an illusion. An illusion is still part of united consciousness (what we call God or Source), because there is nothing that is not part of God or Source. For this reason, we could call fear an illusion within source consciousness whose reality is love.
Why is Love the reality of Source or God? Why is Source or God synonymous with Love? Because to love something is to take it as yourself. There is nothing that is not part of Source or God, so nothing in fact can be excluded from Source or God and therefore, by default it takes everything as itself.
Watching the energy when a person thinks “I hate” or “I don’t want” or “I don’t like”, or makes negative judgments, it pushes things away. It pushes them away from oneness and into a state of loneliness. This opposes love. This causes pain. In fact there is only one type of pain in this universe. That pain is separation. There is only one kind of happiness in this universe. That happiness is unity. Any time you feel pain of any kind it means that you feel separate from something. Any time you feel happiness of any kind, it means that you feel united with something.
When we get into pain in a relationship, it is always an indication that we have a fear present (why we feel the separation from them). So any time we feel this, we can expose the fear instead.
When I am in pain of any kind, I have to ask myself, what part of myself am I trying to push away (usually in response to it being awoken by something external to me)? Is it the side of me that doubts the rest of me? Is it the side that feels so powerless and cut off from others it is in rage? Is it the side of me that doesn’t feel like it is good enough? Can I take that part in as part of myself? Can I bring it closer? This is radical self-love.
The universe is a mirror of self. Doing this automatically makes the world more unified because in taking care of your resistance in this way it takes care of your external resistance to the external thing that triggered the resistance.
For example, a war triggers the aspect of you that feels powerless, you want to get away from that part of you, but by bringing it closer, taking it as yourself, your resistance to the war is decreased by proxy and that ‘ends’ war because war is resistance. Or lets imagine that someone in your life is super accomplished. They may wake up in you the part of you that feels like you’re not good enough. They may also be a reflection of the aspect of you that has such high standards that you are cruel to the aspects of yourself that are weaker. That person was a mirror for both aspects that you have not loved in yourself (not wanted to include as part of yourself). They mirror the split, the two fragments within you that are standing opposite each other. The “never good enough” victim and perpetrator. By seeing that both fragments actually need to be loved, to be brought in and closer, it becomes possible to imagine doing so. By doing this, you “love” them. And by loving them, you are in fact loving the other person external to you, who mirrored them.
Meet the need of the disintegrated self. The disintegrated self is anything internal to you or external to you that you push away /resist. This is really your work in the world. What can you offer this aspect that feels separate, so as to bring it closer to the whole? This is loving it.
One of the easiest love practices to take on is to look for similarities. When you are in a state of fear, you will unconsciously look for differences between you and everything “else”. This strengthens your sense of me vs. others. It results in pain. So, with every thing you see, especially every person you meet, look for what is the same about you and them. What part of you are they a manifestation or embodiment of?
You, as a singularity, cannot love something and hate it at the same time. One part of you can love something and another part of you can hate that thing. But as you can see, to do that, you must in and of yourself be fragmented.
If you want to be loved, you must know that the biggest barrier to being loved is inauthenticity. In inauthenticity, you are not giving a part of yourself to someone, so they cannot even have the opportunity to take it as themselves.
The universes heart is broken… broken into different things and people. You can’t not have a broken heart as an “I” that is separate from other things. It is our job to love that broken heart back to unity. When we love anything, including an aspect of ourselves (because we are part of God or Source), we are in fact part of Source or God, coming back from a state of disintegration to a state of integration… Oneness.
The new question towards the things you fear and hate needs to be “How can I love this thing?” Ultimately, the answer is… How can you not? It is part of you whether you like it or not because you are indivisible from Source or God and so is it. It is part of oneness and love is to take it as yourself. You can’t not… You can’t not! Even if you push it away, it is still part of this universe, which is one. So it’s still part of you.