This is most especially a problem when people try to understand how the law of attraction applies to children who end up in circumstances which, from a societal point of view, are seen as horrific and unfair. A good example of this (though there are many) is the example of a child who is living in an abusive environment. Most of us have grown up as the result of our upbringings with the strong need for the world around us to seem fair. The entire punishment and reward system, which the majority of humans are raised with, mimics our human ideas of justice and lends to this need for fairness. But, the punishment and reward system does not mimic the laws of the universe.
Thoughts like "blame", "fault", "unfairness", "deserving" and "victim" are thoughts restricted to the human subjective mind and not the universal objective mind. Most of us who can read these words have lost our objective view of the full picture of the universe and how our lives fit into this big picture. We see a child is completely "innocent" and therefore we can not come to terms with something in relation to this "innocent" child that we identify as being unfair and which they do not deserve. We then draw the conclusion that some things must just happen at random and therefore we make these children out to be victims of circumstances which are completely out of their control. We can not see a child, who seems so physically incapable, as the capable creator that the child is. It feels better to us in the disempowered, fearful state of identifying with a child as a victim, to shift to a space of anger and to place "blame" with the abuser than to stay in that feeling of disempowerment. In our incredibly emotionally charged identification with the suffering we see in these children, however, the truth is highly obscured.
A child, who seems so feeble and innocent, is in fact an eternal and very powerful being, endowed fully with the free will to choose the thoughts that they are thinking as well as what they pay attention to. They may seem to possess so much less capability than an adult because of their comparatively weak physical structure, but they are simply in a different phase of the process of physical life. They are new to this particular physical life experience. But they are not new to life itself and they are not composed of new energy. Before they come into this physical body, they share the perspective of Source (that which many people call God). From the perspective of Source, each life is lived in order to expand all that is. Life is lived for the purpose of universal evolution. It is through this process that consciousness becomes conscious of itself.
Physical, three dimensional reality serves as the perfect venue for this evolution because physical life allows for the experience of contrast and comparison. In physical life, a person can not give rise to a desire, if they are not confronted with what they do not desire. Because of the tangible nature of physical manifestation, physical life is a very definitive, clear cut way for the conscious universe at large to discern what to become. The "negative" that already IS, which we see around us, is nothing more than an immense resource for the potential manifestation of all future possibilities created from all the previous, vibrational, collective experiences of all that was. Even the most horrific things we can imagine from our narrow, subjective, physical standpoint are not seen as horrific from the vantage point of the universe at large, because these horrific things are the breeding ground and cause for the birth of things like happiness and change.
With regards to objective view, there is a famous analogy which is that if a person bumps their toe, from the perspective of the toe, it is a tragedy. From the perspective of the rest of the body, it is a temporary, painful nuisance and from the perspective of the person, it is a frustrating experience, which is not significant enough to be remembered even the next day. The difference between the objective view of source and the subjective view of our physical lives is much like this previous analogy. Before a child comes into the physical dimension, they share this vantage point and perspective, and so they do not fear or avoid choosing into situations which are "negative". To them at that point and from that perspective, easy is not necessarily valuable. In fact, many of them deliberately choose into those situations of negativity knowing it will inspire them quickly and dramatically towards the exact opposite.
Non-physical beings have the free will to determine the future circumstances they will experience in the physical and so, some beings intentionally choose to experience things like destitution, imprisonment, poverty, depression, war, paralysis, suffering, rape and physical abuse so that they may use those things to define and intensify their knowledge of happiness, freedom, abundance, peace and kindness. These negative experiences are in fact the events most able to cause rapid, dramatic, positive evolution. They know it will cause extreme expansion not only for them, but for all that is. So, no matter what the physical outcome may be of such a choice, it is worth it to them.
Many of the great leaders and masters throughout history come from childhoods of great negativity. This is no accident, it is intentional… adversity is the fertile opposition which inspires the birth of triumph. It may not be something that anyone likes to accept, but the eternal, non physical portion of a person often chooses an abusive childhood for this purpose. This does not mean that children born into these situations should be left to suffer or are fated to suffer. Even though we decide into aspects of this life before this life, nothing is pre ordained. We are constantly amending our life and outcomes as we go along. We are constantly changing so, we can shift course at any point in our lives here. Even as children.
There is also another common way that a child can attract negative circumstances like abuse. This is when the child adopts negative energetic vibrations from his or her environment and then attracts those things which match that vibration into their own experience. We as humans like to draw imaginary lines in the sand defining when a person is and isn't responsible for their lives. We also like to draw imaginary lines defining at what age a person has free will and at what age the law of attraction can apply to them. The truth is the law of attraction is working day in and day out on all aspects and dimensions of this universe. There is no pause button.
There is also no pause button as far as vibration is concerned. Children adopt and therefore present "vibrations" long before they have the capacity to speak. Children offer thought well before their physical brains are developed. Thought is not a by product of the brain, it is a byproduct of universal consciousness. Children can adopt and present vibrations even while they are still in the womb. And so, they are attracting physical things which are a match to those vibrations even that early on in development. The expression of particular genes is even the result of these early vibrations. Vibrations can not be "imposed" from one life form to another, but they are an influence. And the stronger the vibration is, the bigger the influence is.
This feeling of strong influence leads to a sensation of it not being a choice to adopt a specific vibration around you. Instead it feels like it is forced. And so, the adoption of that vibration becomes default instead of truly intentional. If a child for example comes into an environment of extreme worry and fear, it is difficult for them (though it is still a choice) to not adopt that same vibration of fear and worry. They have not consciously decided how they want to think about what they observe, they are simply observing. They have observed this fearful way of thinking and adopted it, which makes them now a match to things which reinforce that vibration. It makes them a match to other people who also hold the vibration of fear and powerlessness (such as perpetrators). Perpetrators act out physically from the feeling of powerlessness and fear. Victims are also in the vibration of powerlessness and fear but they do not act on it. They are still, despite action, identical energetic vibrations. The child does not deserve it. It is not the child's fault. It is simply an effect of how the universe works with regards to vibration.
It is not healthy to think of the law of attraction with regards to child abuse in the human terms of "they brought it upon themselves". Instead, what is accurate is to say that everything which ever happens to anyone, child or otherwise, is an exact match to the energetic vibration they hold.
Quite often, children choose into situations where they are influenced into the choice of picking up and therefore adopting negative energetic vibrations from the environment around themselves. The law of attraction then draws them to those things which are an exact match to those energetic vibrations and it draws those things which are an exact match to those energetic vibrations to them. Once they come into physical life, most people, including children, do not know what energetic vibrations they are presenting until they experience the physical manifestation of them. This is not wrong. It just is, without judgment. And it can be changed at any moment.
There is no such thing as a childhood experience which a person can not evolve from. And even though childhood abuse is the direct result of the matching up of the negative vibrations present in the child as well as the abuser, it is not a matter of fault and it is not a matter of the abuse being somehow deserved. If we can, as a society learn to focus on our idea of the good we want for these children as well as the good we want for the individuals that are hurting them as the direct result of their own hurt, we will be aligning with the solution to child abuse. If we as the whole of human society could collectively align with the thought of what this world would look like, absent of fear and powerlessness and revenge, instead of focusing so intensely on the presence of it, things like child abuse would not exist.