Those of us, who find our way to spirituality, usually have done so as the result of being in pain in some way. Our needs have not been met. We feel an empty dissatisfaction with life itself because of it. Most of us are also not strangers to self-abuse in its multitude of different forms. But even though we feel better once we find spiritual truths to live our life by, our ways have not completely changed. We use spiritual truths as a tool to beat ourselves with. And one of those spiritual truths that we use to torture ourselves with is sacred to us. It is the teaching of independent self-sufficiency. It is an appealing and beneficial thing to learn that we, alone create our own reality when we have believed that our lives are at the mercy of the circumstance we find ourselves in. And when we feel like victims to the reality we are currently living in. But after we experience the temporary improved feeling of that independent power, we feel the isolation that follows and the pressure to do it all on our own. The idea of independent self-sufficiency contradicts the universal truth that we are all one in the same way that hatred contradicts love.
The opposite vibration of love is fear. Anger is an improvement on fear. The opposite vibration of empowerment is powerlessness. Independence is an improvement on powerlessness. Shall we stop there though? No. Ultimately, to recognize independence, is to recognize yourself as apart and divisible from the collective. This recognition is only beneficial to move you from a feeling of powerlessness to others to a feeling of empowerment. It ceases to be beneficial and instead, becomes detrimental when it causes you to feel isolated and separate and as if the weight of the world is on your shoulders alone.
Most spiritual teachers and channeled entities teach according to where human consciousness is right now. This means, if people are powerless, they will teach them how to empower themselves. This means, they will teach them to create their own reality and stop depending on that which they feel powerless to. They will tell you that you do not need to be affected by anything other than your own thoughts. They do not have the attachment to truth that you do. And so, they will offer you a belief that serves your progression regardless of whether it is true of not true, regardless of whether it is illusion or not. The truth is, you have an effect on everything that is and everything that is, has an effect on you. You are indivisible from it. Because of the truth of oneness, “they” are all “you”. This means “they” will always be a reflection of “you”. We are learning from our reflection.
Everything that other people do, affects you because everything that you do affects you. But by reorienting your focus towards something positive, you can create what you want to create regardless of what they are doing or not doing. Because you are only as powerless to what other people create as you are to what you create. The perspective that “they” are bigger and more powerful than you, is an illusion, when you realize they are nothing more than your reflection blown up to a world scale. The collective is moving away from utter powerlessness, and so its time for a progression in comprehension. And so, it is time to move beyond independence.
Anger, is an improvement upon powerlessness. Independence is like anger. It is only an improvement upon powerlessness to others. Interdependence is actually a vibrational improvement upon independence. Some other words we could use for interdependence are symbiosis or mutual empowerment. The bottom line is… You are dependent! You cannot be other than dependent on everything. And everything is dependent on you. This universe is dependent on you. You are as dependent on source, as source is on you. Without you, source could not know itself and could not expand. Without source, you could not be alive. Even if your perspective is that you aren’t dependent on a person, you’re still dependent on the carrot on your dinner plate.
So why does dependence scare us so badly? Because we don’t trust that we create our own reality. Because we don't trust ourselves. And because we doubt our ability to create. It has nothing to do with hating that we depend on other things. It’s about hating that we feel as if we are powerless to other things creating our reality. Depending on something would not be a problem at all if we trusted that we could create what we are dependent on; that is wasn’t out of our hands what experience we had and therefore out of our hands how we felt. We doubt our ability to create so much that we use spiritual truths to try to convince ourselves to not need what we need and not want what we want. We think it is less painful to convince ourselves to not need and want what we need and want than it is to believe that we cannot have what we need and want. Needs and wants are not bad. You all have them. The only reason a need or a want would ever feel bad, is if you believed it could not or would not be met and achieved. Our problem is not that we have needs. It is not that we need other people. It is that by needing them, while feeling powerless to create our own reality, we think they create our reality. We give our power away. We believe we are powerless to what they do or don’t do. We become a victim to our own creation.
You are not powerless to what you are dependent on as long as you create that which you are dependent on. But we doubt that we can do that. We are constantly told by advocates of independent self-sufficiency that every need should be filled in and of the self. But this is to see other people as separate from you. They ARE you. If you use them to fill the void within you, you are using you to fill the void within you. If you are using them to avoid you, you are using yourself to avoid yourself. We are looking to fill an empty void inside of us, of need. But the answer is not to stop needing or wanting. It is to realize that we have the power to create what we need or want. The reason we begin to receive love from others when we give it to ourselves is because the world around us, being us, mirrors us.
Let’s pretend that you needed your loved one to feel whole and comforted. One could argue that you are powerless because they could die and you’d be left at the mercy of that experience (which is torture) so the only lasting peace, is to find wholeness and comfort in and of yourself alone. But, to believe this, we would have to assume that we are in fact at the mercy of their presence, and could not manifest someone else to feel whole and comforted by. It is our dis-belief in our ability to create in our own reality that is actually hurting us in this scenario, not the fact that we are dependent in general on something other than us. The fact that we feel fragmented and afraid has to do with our emotional imprinting from childhood.
In a world that is one, you can only ever be dependent on that which is you. And in a world that is one, you are dependent on everyone else and they are dependent on you. This does not mean that you are powerless. We mistake dependence for powerlessness, most especially the powerlessness to create. But they are not the same thing. You cannot become independent. To do so, would be to separate yourself from the rest of the universe. Not only is this not wanted; it is also not possible because you are the universe incarnated in the illusion of a separate physical body.
Let’s say I am dependent on a significant other to feel safe. Traditional spiritual teachings say that this is inappropriate. That I am now powerless to my mate and to what my mate does and does not do. But in a universe that is the reflection of thought, I have created my mate (caused the universe to bring him to me by virtue of law of attraction). So all I am dependent on is my own creation. All I can feel powerless to is my own creation. And each creation of mine, causes me to learn more about me and hone/improve my creations. My creations are therefore constantly evolving. And therefore, my sense of safety is constantly evolving. If I don’t like my creation, I can always improve it and change it.
If you depend on your creation (which ultimately everything is), then you trust your creation. Your creation is nothing more than an extension of you. So, to depend is ultimately to trust yourself. This is why Source (God) trusts us completely. Because we are the extension of Source, the creation of source, and it trusts itself completely. Independent people trust themselves only slightly more than powerless people do. But neither, actually trusts themselves.
Depend is not a bad word. Yet again, it is a beautiful concept that has been confused for a different concept that is “ugly”. To depend is to become one. The world is so much more gentle and supportive than we realize. So much more gentle and loving and interwoven than we will let ourselves understand; because we are still feel so powerless to the world at large, that we are trying to be a lonely universe in and of ourselves. The ego has used spiritual teachings that are designed to empower your ability to create your reality, as a tool of separation. The only people who resonate with teachings of personal empowerment that inspire independent, self sufficient reality creation, are those who have felt powerless to others people that could not meet their needs. They had no choice but to turn to themselves. But that is an intermediary step, a step towards empowerment. It is not all the way there. The next step is to recognize your complete dependence on you. And you, includes all the other beings in existence, because they are all you. This is an interdependent universe because the most absolute truth of this universe is the truth of oneness. To want to only be dependent on yourself (as a single unit) and to only want to meet your own needs is to want to dis-include all other parts of you in this universe, because you’ve bought into the illusion that they are “other” than you. It is much more in alignment to include everything that could be seen as “other”, as part of you, and therefore inter-be with it by allowing your dependence on it. Powerlessness to something or someone else is not the same thing as dependence on something or someone else. As an extension of Source (God), you are endowed with the power to create. But the only independent power you possess is the power to create that which you are dependent on. The time has come for empowered interdependence, instead of powerless dependence.