If we want someone to rescue us from ourselves, the problem is not our dependence on other people; it is our hatred of ourselves. If we want someone to rescue us from our unhappiness, the problem is not our dependence on other people; it is our distrust that we can create happiness for ourselves by attracting people who will value us enough to add to our happiness. If we suffer from the perpetual search for a rescuer, we do not need to learn the importance of independence as much as we need to learn to love and trust ourselves completely.