A good relationship with food means a communication between your emotions, body, mind and the food you are eating. You need to start feeling to be sensitive enough to be intuitive about eating. When you go to the grocery store, notice what your body is asking for. Notice how you feel about specific foods. One day, beans may be exactly what your body is saying it intuitively wants. The next day, it may not want beans at all. One day the broccoli might feel vital and full of life, the next day you may sense that it is unhealthy or was handled in an abusive way. Notice what foods are upsetting to your body and emotions and should probably be avoided.