Imagine that a software was malfunctioning. The first thing you would do is to go back and review the code and the original programming.  When a person gets into self-awareness work, they must get into the habit of going back to find the family-based origins of their problems in their adult life.  The unwillingness to do so out of a sense of solidarity with the family, makes awareness of the problem and therefore awareness of what needs to happen to resolve that problem impossible.