Society often falls under the spell of perceiving that the best parents, the ones who love their children the most are the ones who are in fact the very most attached to them. Contrary to our assumption, this kind of parent in fact often unconditionally loves their children the very least. To this parent, the children are nothing more than an extension of themselves. The child is loved based on the condition of carrying out the parent's own boundaries, wants, needs, likes, dislikes and values etc. This is not love. This is identification.