Everyone has needs, whether they want to admit it or not. What makes a need painful is when we think we can't get what we need. And often the reason we think we can't get our need met is because we think we have to meet the need ourselves by ourselves, as if it is possible to be an island unto ourselves. The river doesn't drink itself my friends. Many times the empowering thing is not just to meet a need ourselves, it is to take action to get up and go find someone to meet the need; or to open up so someone can meet the need.