Often years after disappointments and painful circumstances occur, we look back and because hindsight is 20-20, we can clearly see how the very thing we thought was the road to our demise, was the road to our freedom and joy.  This is when we begin to see that everything comes to bless us to the degree that we begin to trust instead of distrust the universe we are inseparable from.  It is highly unfair for us to expect ourselves to see this while we are smack dab in the middle of a seemingly unfair and tragic circumstance.  So don’t force yourself to be grateful for something you truly are not grateful for.