In order to avoid abandonment and social conflict, we 'put a lid on ourselves'. We restrict ourselves, we go against our natural desires. We deaden ourselves and our ability to feel so we can live in this state or shall I say, not really live. We experience shame for our sensual pleasures, sexuality, sensuality and virility. We have our personal power overto others to avoid consequences and we lose touch with our passion and purpose as a result. As a result, we lose our vitality and feel like we have no energy.