If you don’t admit to the truth of what you want, you will continue to try to conform to situations and people who are not compatible to what you want. At the same time, you will try to subconsciously get them to accommodate what you want. As a result, you will not be happy. You will have to cope with the pain that arises as a result of being in those incompatible situations. You will become manipulative and you will most likely cause conflict that causes you to become the "problem person" to everyone else in the situation.