Let yourself fall in love with the ACTUALITY of who someone is right here and now in this moment (as if that will never change) instead of the POTENTIAL of who they could be one day. Do this and you will never be in resistance to who someone is. You will no longer spend your time trying to get them to become the person you actually want to be with. If you base your decision to be with someone off of who they are right now, you will find the right partner for you.