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    I am not saying all the time. But the connection should evolve, right? The high can transforme. The person next to you should still make your heart tremble from time to time. This is the thought. Why cant we have them both?? Not in the same time..but today we are seious, yet we play..we are sexual..we are responsible. I am talking about a balance at the end of the day. I am seeing this ( as a belief in my head so imposible) and it frustrates me a lot.
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    In a good way
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    I totally agree with you. The issue in my mind is that i have a belief that it cannot be both. You cannot find a person that can also give you goosebumps and be your friend. So what i am asking is maybe cases in which this happened. Is this belief carried by other people too? And when choosing, ok...chose the friend, because you'll end up old and sex will not matter anymore. But what about until..the getting old part??
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    She's not saying nothing at all. But that one that gets your goosebumps, blood boiling..
  5. Love/sexual attraction/magnetism Hi guys, I have a thing that bugs me lately. My therapist is advising to look for a partner that i do not have such a strong attraction, magnetism towards and that the raw attraction that we feel towards another human being will not result in a healthy long term relationship. Now this saddens me and annoys me big time. I have always been reluctant to follow my heart when it came to relationships, i always chose with my head mostly. So what do you think (from experience or not). Are the people that we feel a strong sexual attraction/magnetism towards, the people that we will not be able to create a strong relationship with? That due to the fact that they put up a strong sexual vibe that they are not the kind to build homes with? I see a lot of marriages in which the women settle for a man that is there, but do not rock their world because the one that would, will eventually leave them. So men, women, anyone who has experienced this, can you give some input? Thank you lots ❤️
  6. How can you fully love if you are not fully sure? Any thoughts on this? Do fears keep you from fully loving? And since nothing is for sure, how can you fully love?
  7. Different entities in the body? Hi guys, I've been recently told by a friend that went to an energy reader that i have 4 entities inside me and not only one. I've always felt that there are parts in me contracting, but mostly because of fears. For example: i am in a relationship in which i get stability, support, physical presence but no emotional support and passion and connection. I've been having a hard time deciding to leave this relationship because i do get, in exceptional situations the things that i need but are not there ( emotional support and passion and connection). I gave you this example because i feel two entities in me: one that is afraid to take decisions and hopes that eventually will receive from my partner what i need, and refuses to believe that he cannot do that and the part that is stating that i deserve better, i deserve to be happy, my partner deserves to be happy with someone who loves him for who he is. Do you know if these contradictions can be viewed on an energetic level as different entities inside a person? Or have you experienced these contradictions inside, so strong. And how have you managed to get balanced? Thank you! Dana
  8. Hi Vincent! Thank you! I do feel i am codependent and the thing i struggle most these days is to offer myself love and attention when nobody is around to do so. It is harder now, because i am in a relationship that does not support my codependency, thus making me feel even more lonely and abandoned. So i am trying to find ways? How do you guys do it? How do you love yourselves so that you do not feel the need for love from someone else (or depend on it). I want to have a desire to love not a need to.
  9. Aaa.....not to seem slow minded...but i did not really understand this one. If you can help me a bit, what you mean by "You know thyself by the outter reflection. The rest is gravity you choose to go to. "
  10. Guidance with hyper sensitiveness, hyper emotional Hi everyone, I've been experiencing a lot of hypersensitiveness lately. I am overwhelmed by the need of affection, of touch, of closeness, of bonding and intimacy. I am next to a man that is colder, that does not understand these needs nor views them as valid (for his own) but tries to understand what i am going trough. I was listening to my birth chart interpretation today and i have sensitiveness all over the place, Mercury and Moon in Cancer. I've been fighting this sensitiveness all my life. I am a Leo, and everyone is expecting me to be strong, i am expecting me to be strong but i am unable to push these feelings away anymore. I am telling myself that i need to accept my sensitiveness, that it does have a purpose, that i am not weak because of it, that it does not make me the type of person that people feel the need to make fun of or stay away from because i take things personal. I do do that. I do take things personal when my self esteem is low. And i need love and appreciation and validation to feel secure. Now i know that expecting them from outside is a recipe for disappointment and hurt but i am having such a difficult time offering myself this. Can anyone share some ideas of how you do it? How you offer yourself love, attention...in order to not fall on the ground when you need it and do not receive it from the outside world? Thank you very much!!
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    Thank you Inquisitor! I am trying to figure out if i am running away from some answer. I don't really trust the guy to ask him and if the answer would be: "I just found what i am looking for in her"....i would and still am in a judgement position ( wife, mistress...oh wait..i actually found what i am looking for in the 3rd one...don't really care if she's the best friend and am already involved with the first two)...
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    Trust Hi guys, I am wondering...I met a guy at one point. I felt a strong inexplicable attraction to him. My mind wasn't understanding, my body was going towards him. I was and still am with someone. He was with someone, ended up getting married to the woman, she was pregnant. He was telling me that he wants a connection with me, he feels my energy and wants us to grow spiritually together. He did not seem to lie, but in his mind (as he was explaining) the connection we would end up having had nothing to do with his soon to come marriage or with my relationship. We ended up growing a relationship that was, from his point of view not sexual, not the primary interest but that it would not exclude it since the connection through sex would be much deeper. I felt attraction, a combination of sexual but also...an inexplicable sensation of "i am being understood, deep inside". Well, needles to say...we ended up having sex, i felt bad about it, wanted to stop. My best friend came into the picture, feeling the same attraction to the guy (but not sexual...a strong attraction of "home" - as she said). They ended up talking a lot, his focus went rapidly from me to her. She blocked him (as she said, but told him she felt the attraction with no interest). I ended up furiously jealous, because i felt that something more than a friendship was building there, but both denied it. 3 days after i said i am out of this (relationship triangle) they ended up "figuring out" that they do have feelings for each other. The man married his wife while wanting to build a relationship with me and waiting on a kid, while building a relationship with my ex best friend). He wants (so he said) to divorce her since he cannot connect to her as he needs. I am trying my heart out to find an explanation for this situation that my heart and head can understand so i can let go. I am hurt by my friend more because she trusts him more than me. Somehow (she states) i misunderstood the situation and all his explanations make sense. She is a very experienced person, someone that (from what she states) rarely misjudges a person and has a very good connection with her intuition. Can anyone (and i know that my best bet to figure this out is to ask him) help with showing a perspective in which what happened had a good intention, that he, somehow did have a positive intention. Thanks!!:* P.S. I know I attracted this. I am aware i'm not a victim, the whole situation came so i can resolve my issues, that i am aware of. Somehow, this reason is not enough for me to have peace with what happen...
  13. I feel that i've been pushing on my negative emotions. Not accepting them, thinking i am bigger than my negative emotions. Being so attentive on what i what to improve on myself i ended up paying too much attention on how i'm doing things wrong so to correct them. This whole going in process feels very sensitive. It's a struggle i have inside that is saying: " screw this....i do stuff correctly, i trust my method, i do stuff my own way...but i want/need validation. I apparently want someone i trust to tell me...yeah...good thinking. You did good". When the other side happens, i am told i am not seeing the correct way, i am not aware of my surroundings to help me make better decisions, this gets me the most". This blurs my thoughts, i no longer have clarity because i am not seeing what the people i trust see....if this makes sense. If i have the validation of someone i trust...i am ok. I can confront the rest...but if i am on my own in my beliefs....i loose my selfworth.
  14. Thank you Mai-da! I am aware that these are my issues. We triggered each other a lot during our friendship. And i have a heavy way of expressing myself. I find it difficult to express myself in an assertive way, i freeze when i am confronted and need to be fully relaxed to be lucid and make sense, she is the other way around. We bumped heads a lot on this topic. Her assertive way of being making my jealousy stronger accompanied by my inability to recognize my lacks (i'm a Leo...my ego is easily hurt) and to acknowledge my strengths in conversation. So i always felt like i'm going to loose, no matter what i do. Loose = she's always going to have the best argument, i'm going to enter my pattern of freezing when approached in an aggressive way (and she is the kind to do that). So how do you guys, that have this difficulty to express your feelings handle these situations?