Thanks for the blog . Thank god I am living in Sweden , we have coma a long way here . We are aloud to stay at home with our babes for a year and a half with pay from the goverement , if fathers stay home with their children then we have more days of parential leave . At birth both mother and father have 10 days together (payed) also .We talk a lot about equality in parenting in Sweden . we share , it is not perfect but we are really getting there . Seeing hundreds of daddies with there babies and prams on "daddy " leave is naturally here . In the homes , we share too, dads shop and cook and wash etc. this way we can do both. If you separate the children by law have access to both their parents .of course there are families where it is still the mom doing most of the work , but it is so much better . Here in sweden , people are much more free to choose , some moms are stay at home moms for a while , others are working moms and the father staus at home . All kinds of different solutions actually . We have also wonderful daycare for our children , lots of diferent options . It is not perfect yet , but we are really on the way ..Best country ever when it comes to balancing motherhood with work and having children. Many earn a god salary (not all of course ) so we have people come in to clean (tax reduced ) and food delivered to the door ,buying it on internet ,so we do not have to bring our children to the shops after daycare or school. It had also to do with your attitude to what is most important . I was a single parent in the late 70 `s ,working as a teacher and had my son , he did see his daddy every second weekend . I did all the household work , cooked ,washed etc. and worked . Never hardly did I feel I did not cope well. I found the best balance then , but it was probably easier then , not so much focus on myself ,my looks , my own time .Today young women want to look like models , be mothers , make cakes , have a super body , go out with their friends and be a sexy wife and a mother ...and be on their cellphones all the time . This I see a lot ,they are there pyshically with their children but not present , which is going to really fuck the children up later in life . Now both moms and dads are not really present .This is the biggest problem at the moment .