Witt, you made me interested enough to spend the time watching that NY workshop segment with that beautiful blonde ex-model...
Teal's about authenticity so don't be disappointed in Teal herself.
I think you misunderstood why Teal mentioned that what that beautiful blonde should do - which was go for the group of females either end of the spectrum not the middle group that found her so threatening - she maybe OK at the time with any female in her company and acting non-threatening; that is until the moment a man walks in the room and then the blonde's unconscious coping strategy (so that she can feel safe in a man's presence) was to unconsciously act sexy, show her beauty, push out her chest and play with her hair - so that she can have every man under her control so that she could feel safe; so her posture and her sexiness would come out making any other female immediately her enemy because they didn't understand the WHY the blonde was doing this - they'd think it was to take their male partner from them whereas Teal said that was not the case - it was just an unconscious coping strategy to control to feel safe.
Teal took the blonde through that exact-same feeling she makes other feel when Teal gave a scenario of two women and Teal shrunk and became passive, then got the blonde to imagine a man walking in the room and then Teal became the super-sexy one through her body actions - then asked the blonde how did she feel when Teal was sexier than she was - who responded she felt sick in the stomach. Teal said "That's how you make every other woman feel." and the blonde finally understood what her sexiness coping strategy felt like to other women and what made them instant enemies.
That's all that was about. After that Teal gave her tips on how to find a female friend that was based on genuine friendship.
Teal specifically mentioned the 'ugly' women end of the spectrum as they were more super-safe than the super-attractive ones. So the idea for the blonde onstage was to do with finding friendship with someone totally non-competitive in the beauty stakes - there if she was genuinely interested in a woman like that, that a true friendship could develop.
Garnet mentioned a "gap" in friendship if the beautiful one wasn't genuine but without Garnet watching the workshop, she doesn't know (and you never explained) that Teal took it further and told the blonde she needed to be careful to be genuinely interested in who the ugly one was and what she did as a person and also Teal told the blonde to make sure she picked the right group of women who were damn sure they were not competitive in the beauty stakes and were totally aware within themselves that they never would be competitive and were OK with that. That was the point of 'ugly' and beauty wasn't. In that way there would be no 'gap' Garnet mentioned.
By the way, at other times Teal has talked about how her beauty and her experience as a model (as well as every other experience she's ever had), allows her to appeal and hold interest when on Ask Teal videos, Premium content and at workshops; has mentioned in the Stockholm Mirror intro that she manipulated everyone when she walked onstage in that tight, gold dress. She did it though, consciously, for audience reaction. Then Teal went on (as well in the NY workshop) to mention that everyone manipulates all the time - they're just not aware of it. I have found there's another term for this called your "Winning Formula"; being an unconscious way of appealing to people so that they will like you. Everyone has their particular Winning Formula they use and maybe there's even several winning formulas depending on which unconscious strategy works so you are liked as a reaction. Saying "I love you" is a winning formula especially if you say it to make the other person repeat it back to you; it's a Need you have, is all.
Interestingly enough, people also have exit strategies - things they automatically and unconsciously do to make people leave them alone. I know I do.
Other things Teal said to the blonde were that she figured out how to have true female friendship herself - that was what worked for her - so she was passing on an experienced tip. Having met Graciela and seeing her interaction with Teal their friendship is beautiful and true. They are inseparable and need each other and have a true friendship bond and teal could not be without Graci. Teal wanted the onstage blonde to have the same experience. Graci is beautiful within herself but definitely not beauty stakes competition; nor would she want to be. She would be the first to understand and agree to why Teal said what she said. And, Graci is one of the funniest people which Teal also mentioned is a definite Plus in any friendship the blonde should seek out.
The other main thing Teal mentioned was for the blonde onstage to make it a conscious choice when she was being sexy, flirty or whatever rather than it being her usual unconscious coping strategy - that she should be able to walk down the road in a mini skirt and high heels because that was a conscious choice to create that reaction. Teal has nothing against anyone beautiful or not beautiful as she takes anyone as they come. As far a genetics, Teal admits it plays its part in beauty but also for the Celtic line of witches she comes from; (often they went hand in hand anyway - females condemned to death for their beauty that beguiled Men).
Teal's last marriage (I'm aware of) was Ale and he couldn't handle Teal in the end. Teal admits to being super-controlling in lots of ways as that's how she copes with everything she does and because she made a choice to dedicate herself to her personal goal of improving human relations with each other - but she is conscious why she does it and anyone in a relationship with, or living around Teal becomes aware of it soon enough and puts up because they dedicate themselves to Teal and the cause as well, or they eventually end up leaving.
I hope this helps.