Thank you soooo much Teal. I have severe Borderline, and everything you said is sooooo f*cking on point... I have gone from therapist to therapist, and healer to healer, a different spiritual teacher who was a friend and mentor too. I've been told countless times "I don't know how to help you", I've had people say "you're just not getting better", "what's wrong with you?", "you've got to grow up and join the adult world", "Your needs are too much for anyone" Which has had me immensely internalizing that I am defective and beyond help :'( But what you said about unconditional presence, is absolutely true. This is my number 1 need, and it rarely gets met, but if it does, it is a relief and upliftment like none other. It brings me to tears. It is just so sad though, that society is not built for unconditional presence and developmental trauma... For the past 2 and half years, I have been consciously trying to find people to meet my needs, and have asked the ones in my life if they can, only to be abandoned or punished. It has been incredibly traumatizing and debilitating. I truly hope that things change in the future, and that less people will have to go through this emotional agony, starvation and isolation. Anyway, thank you so much for touching on this topic, and thank you very much for liking Borderlines as clients... for being accepting and warm towards us. I hope to hear you speak about this developmental disorder more in the future. All my love to you, thank you so much <3
