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  1. Treyoung1990

    I do want to mention one thing: all of us who automatically associated Teal’s comment on “super ugly women” with Graciela just passed the implicit attitude test showing that we thought Gracie was super ugly.
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    Thank you! I think I agree with most of your opinions. However, specifically, two issues I think need clarification. 1. You are right in that I was arguing myself to get out of human relationships. A part of me completely agree with the necessity of human relationships, yet a part of me wonder if health can be maintained through connection with nature, animals, God, etc. It would be great if she could specifically explain why human relationships in particular were indispensable instead of changing the definition of relationships to the most encompassing & fundamental sense. My wish is a change of emphasis to the content of the videos you recommended, instead of forceful attempt towards rational conviction of the statement "relationships are everything" when she could not even define relationships consistently. 2. Regarding your question "why are you trying to have an "academic" discussion with teal swan", I sense a negative emotional response to my defense of being "academic", which leads to an another interesting question of the necessity to mention these "academic theories". To begin with, I share the emotional response you have towards myself. I was and still am quite embarrassed by that defense. But the embarrassing and awkward mentioning of "academic theories" actually points to an objective fact: lack of communication between psychologists and spiritual teachers who are working on the exact same phenomena of human consciousness. It would be great if our spiritual teachers can have more structure in their thinking and our psychology theorists can be more in touch with actual human sufferings. I recognize that I have put myself in a very vulnerable position by identifying myself. May this conversation be of value to observant people. Best, Quinn
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    First, I have to admit that I thought of Graciela immediately as well, who was seated in the front row. Second, the "middle bracket" label seriously triggered my insecurity. 
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    I am the last girl in the video. Here are some points that I never expressed at the workshop because I did not pay to have arguments, yet they remain important if rational conviction is her approach to enlightening people. 1. What I am experiencing is the conflict between relatedness/relationships and autonomy/freedom or competency/life purpose/mission. As I said all three needs are fundamental and we cannot trump one over the others. Thus the essence of my problem is "need conflict" which cannot be resolved by devaluing freedom or life contribution (i.e., "relationships are the number one human need"). Exactly "how" we could have freedom & be authentic to life purpose while maintaining relationships & with whom was the question that should have been focused on. 2. By changing the definition of relationships from relationships with human beings to relationships with "everything", she defeated her own suggestion for me to not bypass human relationships. If relationships are general, any specific type should suffice (which I do not believe is true--human relationships are uniquely important. The previous statements were about my problem with her reasoning that was really confusing). 3. Using herself as an example to say human relationships were all that mattered was not completely persuasive: her experiences not only instilled in her fear of relationships but also an actual dependency on people (e.g., not being able to take care of her own life) that served as an extrinsic motive for relationships. I felt and understood her intention to help me. Yet by shoving the statement "relationships are everything" down my throat instead of telling me exactly how to resolve the conflict between relationships & freedom/competency with all these loopholes in her reasoning, I felt the "warning" was more of a threat than an advice, which felt coersive. There is a fine line between eloquence and sophism. Thank you, Quinn
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    Oh, what Teal said about her "superior" beauty triggered me so deep that its not even funny.
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    Dear Teal, You should write a book about your approach to education (not only in general but education for children with spiritual talents in particular). The book would be invaluable to parents, educators and developmental psychologists. Thank you so much, quinn
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    Searching for Sugar Man.
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    1) It's interesting that you both mentioned music. The music at the nightclub that I went to was completely demonic. I did not understand how people would enjoy it let alone feeling relaxed listening to it, unless their previous vibrations were already matching the music so that it felt cathartic to them. 2) I think the fear and despair came from the women as well. I was in the ladies' room and two girls came in, looking at themselves in the mirror. One said, "Oh, my hair is a mess!" And the other said, "I think I look pretty?!" staring at herself in the mirror. Fear of rejection & judgment were the themes there involving everyone. 3) Indeed, the event felt very superficial (or ignorant). It let me relive the "unbearable lightness" of many people's realities that I first felt as a child. Maybe it's natural and healthy for empaths to hide away from the suffering crowd.
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    That's interesting. I had a very different experience of night clubs. The energy felt demonic and very very dense. The emotions i picked up were fear and mostly despair. I felt paralyzed afterwards.
  10. How do you feel about night clubs? Hi, everyone! I wonder how you feel about the energy in night clubs. I do not want to bias your answers, so I will share my experiences after your responses! Best regards, Quinn
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    No problem! Do what you feel is right! Best, Quinn
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    Hi, EarthColours. There is a website called MakeLoveNotPorn. I was touched by the real life sex between the porn star Lily Labeau and her ex and current boyfriends. The connection I observed in those videos was truly inspiring. I was at awe after watching some of the videos. Note: My question about head push was triggered by one of her oral sex videos with her ex boyfriend. The fact that she said "thank you" to him for multiple times made me sad. Her boyfriend's feelings and thoughts about the experience as expressed in the description box above the video were interesting but still confusing to me. Best, Quinn
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    I think you are right. This post was the beginning of that. Thanks
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    Thank you very much EarthColours! It's really beneficial to me to hear a male's opinions on this issue.
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    Thank you! I did not realize I should also communicate what felt good in addition to the negative part. That sounds like a good solution.