Wish I could ask to discuss the difference between a judgement and a boundary. Been watching long enough to know a boundary is a preference. Teal likes coffee coconut milk icecream. Her example of a boundary. But a judgement can come with a boundary, and also be confused for one. My friend invited me to a party, and that came up as a "No" for me, so I didn't go to the party. That "No" was a preference, a boundary. But often, maybe most of the time, a preference, a boundary, comes with a judgement as well. Not only do I not want to go to the party, I also know the people that will be there are not interested in talking about spirituality or anything I find interesting. They just want to be petty and judge people's outfits or whatever, and flirt, and show off and get wasted. 'Cause that's what happened the last time I went to a party with these people. So fuck that-a judgement. There's often a real aversion to something, a push away, going on when you honor a "No" boundary. But then sometimes it can just really be a judgement you are confusing for a boundary. Like, you get a false impression of someone, that maybe they are like the jerks I just described at the party, so when you run into them, and they invite you to get coffee with them, you decline because you think they are like their friends-'cause you're judging them by their friends. Your boundary, your preference is, "I only want to have coffee with people who like deep, curious, spiritual conversations." The judgement, in my scenerio, where you say "No" to this person's invite, is you're assuming they are incapable of it, because you think they're superficial. You're judging, but you think you are simply honoring your boundary. There's often a mixed vibration, or a confusion in what is really going on, when we make these kinds of choices. It'd be cool to talk about these two distinct things, a boundary vs a judgement, some more.