It feels relevant to me to not keep blaming our caregivers for what they have done or have not done (often, as Teal also explains in several videos, what was not given is more important than the abuse or pain inflicted) .
I agree that seeking out other role models might be helpful.
However, the problem is that "mom and dad" are there, within our unconscious, either we focus on them or not...So it is preferable and more useful to deal with it than just trying to ignore, suppress, deny it or simply forcing ourselves to forgive without really seen it for what it is...
