Although my father was neglectfull, the positive side of this was, that there were no super strict rules. There was no "you have to do x, because i told you so.".
He always explained why he wanted us to do xyz, what the goal and benefit of that was and what would probably happen when we did not do so. But we were free to not do so. We were free to do otherwise but we understood that he was kindn of right, because we found it out by testing it out for ourselves.
He always explained to us from youngest age what will happen when we will do x or y and then let it up to ourselves to mess it up and therefor learn from it. He also made no rule when to go to bed. I automatically went to bed when i was tired and i willingly went to bed earlier because i knew i would feel like crap the next morning when i was tired. so i kinda learned to take responsibility for my own choices in some form.
He kind of trusted us with our own choice. He wasnt always happy with the choices and he rediculed a lot, that was the shitty part, the downside. I quite often felt like it was my own fault when something went wrong or when i had horrible experiences and i had to swallow those consequences now, but without his support, because he warned me and no i was the stupid one.
I would have wished for more emotional support with the bad choices he forsaw.
Not like this "well i told you so, now your pain is not my responsibility anymore..." - kind of thing.
I think children need to be free to make there experiences without massive restrictions and unexplained rules. And they need to know, that their parents will always be there for them to comfort them when there where bad experiences and choices that led to pain.
I really missed that.