I feel like I’m struggling with this. I mean personally I’ve been complaining about my parents for a long time. I’m grateful for my 3 older siblings who told me my parents were crazy. And I feel so bad for the oldest in families or only children who have no one else to give them another perspective. But if we’re going to change our parenting for the better, where going to have to feel what genuinely didn’t work. So it’s true that the parents in fact improved on what they got. But it’s also true that they got stuff wrong. How else can we improve if we don’t examine that and listen to the kids pain as incredibly valid. Said the person with dead parents and no kids. But hey, I’ve totally improved on how I treat my pets. And feel a ton of guilt for the hurt I caused previously.