to me it was normal in my family to be treated very poorly, to get insulted, humiliated, ridiculed, beaten up, torutured, shamed.
the whole "getting treated like a peace of shit"-programm. this was normal.
it took me some time to unlearn that. so to learn, that i am actually worthy of getting treated nicely and respectfully, no namecalling or getting beaten up. my first boyfried shock-presented to me the nice-potential, the second boyfriend humiliated me just like my family, i even had to unlearn from this guy afterwards. and so it went on and got better and better...