This advice required a 1 , 2 step. First step (1) is finding the need. Then, (2) working and strategizing with the inner critic and thyself of better ways to get that need met.
Teal is forgetting that finding number 1 can be difficult for many people. She doesnt realize how hard it is for some people to realize what need is behind a behavior, probably because it's so clear and easy to see for her, a natural gift. Plenty struggle with this though.
So to find the need behind a behavior, how do we do that? I've found a really good tool to learn this is with a method called NVC, nonviolent communication. Its brilliant work. Truly amazing.
It has a methodology, like the completion process, of discovering your need and then its mastery is learning to communicate that need to another without putting the other on the defense. Being so conscious and concise with your words! I love it. Check it out. A good website that offers a free worksheet on needs and lays out practical steps on how to find feelings and needs and say them, is cupofempathy.com
I've found she has really good videos and stuff related to NVC