This advice required a 1 , 2 step. First step (1) is finding the need. Then, (2) working and strategizing with the inner critic and thyself of better ways to get that need met.
Teal is forgetting that finding number 1 can be difficult for many people. She doesnt realize how hard it is for some people to realize what need is behind a behavior, probably because it's so clear and easy to see for her, a natural gift. Plenty struggle with this though.
So to find the need behind a behavior, how do we do that? I've found a really good tool to learn this is with a method called NVC, nonviole