I can't tell you how much that conversation she had with the beautiful blonde woman who didn't feel safe around people helped me. It helped me understand myself and the women around me. Obviously beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I am quite sure Teal understands that. But for the purpose of addressing a specific issue with this woman, Teal needed to approach it from a specific level. Of social situations, body language...the quick judgments we make about one another. On a broader level, everyone is both ugly and beautiful. But to deny that these dynamics are happening on the surface level is the opposite of healing a real problem that I experience and see in others often. This conversation wasn't about Teal, or anyone you might yourself judge as "ugly" This was about this woman and her healing process. And it wasn't all sunshine and rainbows. But it seriously helped me and it was beautiful to see this woman understand herself in a new way. We all have different aspects. One aspect of me judges people on their appearance. Another aspect of me sees everyone as precious and beautiful. Which aspect needs my presence and understanding more?