If we want to find unity in a conflict, we have to stop invalidating each other or even trying to get each other to change our perception. Instead, we must shift our focus to the other party’s estimation of unsafety… The vulnerability underneath that ‘war’ they are waging.
It doesn’t take a genius to look at the world today and to see just how divided people are. Relative to almost every subject, there are concrete sides. This creates a dramatic polarization. That polarization fuels division and war. Especially because so many of these polarizations that exist today are about fears, insecurities and therefore deeply held values. So, what do we do if we want unity in the world?
Looking to complete something or finish what you start is an important element of creating success, except for when it comes to things where there is never going to be an end.
For more on this, Teal made a whole YouTube Ask Teal episode - What if You Can Never Get it Done?
When a man is trained to be “nice” by his parents or by modern society, he is usually not actually being trained to be nice. Instead, that’s usually a smokescreen. In reality, he’s usually being trained to get rid of his natural power. He’s being trained to get rid of his masculinity.
Saying that a woman doesn’t want you because you are nice is a way for you to avoid looking at the actual issue… The traits that you are currently not exhibiting that women need in order to feel good in a relationship.
A woman isn’t unattracted to a man because he’s nice. What is actually happening is that she is unattracted to him because he lacks other traits that most women are not only attracted to, but actually need in order to feel good in a relationship.