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  1. 8 downloads

    How To Open and Activate Your Soul Star Chakra
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    Beauty Products

    Teal shares her avorite daily beauty products. Not sponsored
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    Germany (And War)

    Teal addresses the dominant negative vibration of Germany and what the upcoming life path potentials for a world war look like.
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    Interdependence

    The frequency of two or more entities being mutually reliant on each other. This frequency causes a safe and symbiotic bond between people in which they can rely on one another while at the same time maintaining each person’s autonomous identity. This frequency is the in-alignment, healthy form of dependence and is thus, an antidote to co-dependency. It is an excellent frequency for romantic relationships, friendships, and family as well as for any work place that requires teamwork. This frequency enhances a structure where everyone is in his or her correct place within any social system based off of each individual’s specific excellence, which leads to everyone in that system feeling supported as a result of everyone in that system supporting the others in the way(s) that are in-alignment for them personally.
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    Holding On To The Past

    The positive and negative sides of nostalgia. "To hold on to the past always creates suffering, even if it was wonderful." - Teal Swan
  6. People are interested in success and one of the key features of success is productivity. Productivity is essentially our effectiveness when it comes to making, causing, providing or creating something. There are definite things that cause a decrease in our productivity and definite things that cause an increase in it. Today, I’m going to share with you some of my top secrets about what makes people productive. Intrinsic motivation. When your behavior is driven by internal rewards, you will be productive. You don’t even have to try to be. When we are intrinsically motivated, the motivation to do something is because the doing of it is naturally satisfying you. If you put a monkey in a cage with a puzzle, it will play with the puzzle because doing so is naturally satisfying. No one has to extrinsically motivate the monkey to do it. If the monkey has to be fed treats for him or her to be motivated to play with the puzzle, he or she is extrinsically motivated. This is a recipe for productivity disaster. This is one reason why work environments in which people are motivated primarily by a paycheck are the least productive work environments in the world. You will not have the wave of energy within you to accomplish a task if you have no intrinsic motivation, instead it will feel like it takes the forced effort of drudgery to do it. Intrinsic motivation is why a scientist can spend years in a lab until they emerge with a theory. Intrinsic motivation is why an athlete can dedicate their entire existence to a 10 second race. This is one of the reasons why contrary to most popular advice, many people (but not all) do better when their day is not structured. They don’t follow a set routine. Instead, it is an intuitive, felt based and organic interaction with their day as that day occurs. These people organize their day according to inspiration. When there is inspiration, you can ride the wave of that inspiration and take inspired action steps. If you do whatever inspires you, even if a task is difficult to do, it takes no forced effort to do it and takes much less time to do as well. If you don’t have intrinsic motivation or inspiration to do something, it is time to question why you are dedicating your time and energy to something that is not naturally satisfying. It is time to re-evaluate your life. If you aren’t automatically intrinsically motivated, but you are still determined to continue to dedicate your time and energy to it, find something within that thing that doesn’t motivate you that really does intrinsically motivate you. For example, imagine that someone is totally unmotivated to help others. But this person loves problem solving. If someone in their life has a problem, they can set the intention of honing their skill of problem solving and suddenly, they will feel motivated to do it. To understand more about this, watch my video titled: Priceless Motivation Tip (Find The Self Serving Motive). Act on inspiration immediately. One of the biggest mistakes people make is that they don’t ride the wave of intrinsic motivation fast enough. When you have an idea that also contains the seed of inspiration, bringing it to fruition is like surfing. You have a very limited amount of time to ride a wave to shore. In the same way, you have a very limited amount of time to jump on the wave of inspiration. This means, act immediately. Don’t say “I’m gonna do that in a couple hours or tomorrow or someday”. You literally have seconds or minutes. I’ve been known to stop everything I’m doing or clear the schedule or turn the car around in order to take my first action step that is in alignment with the fruition of the idea. Take that first step the second it occurs to you. Deal with resistance the minute it arises. Most people think productivity is accomplished by bulldozing resistance. The opposite is true. To understand resistance, I want you to imagine a lake. In this lake, there is a boat. This boat has 6 oarsmen in it, each of whom have a paddle. Some of the oarsmen are paddling in one direction. Some of them are paddling in the opposite direction. These oarsmen are in resistance to each other. Resistance is nothing more than opposition. It is any oppositional force. We can meet with opposition from the outside and we can meet with opposition from the inside. Resistance makes it much harder to actually accomplish what you are trying to accomplish. It is essential to resolve the resistance first. The rule of thumb for success is this: If you have any resistance-taking place within your being, you must directly deal with the resistance first before doing anything else. No action should be taken from a place of resistance. When it comes to productivity, this is a particular problem when we have competitive commitments, interests, desires or goals. To understand this in depth, watch my videos titled: Urgent, Deal With Your Resistance Before You Do Anything Else and Bulldozing (The Way To Ruin Your Relationship With Yourself). Doing this is like pulling an anchor up so your ship can sail rather than buying more sails so they stand more of a chance against your anchor. Do what you are excellent at. This may sound strange at first but if someone is excellent at something, it will take much less effort for them to do that thing and they will be much more productive naturally. Your area of excellence will be something you take for granted. A company or system can only be genuinely productive when people are placed correctly in their positions of excellence. Don’t think in terms of hours; think in terms of results. Think of the completion of a task and the quality of what is produced. A genuinely successful business is not based on hours. Super successful people see what they produce as a reflection on themselves. They take the responsibility therefore for that which they produce. This means that it is in their hands whether they dedicate two hours to something or three full days to something. It’s about what they produce, not about the time it took to produce it. People who are not successful have an ‘earning’ mentality. Where value is based on their time, not their results. Every day, assess what needs to be done according to what the actual priority is and why. It is critical that you prioritize correctly before you throw your energy into something. Many people become distracted and scattered because they don’t do this. Your energy should pour into whatever the highest priority is at any given time. And be open to the idea that it may seem counterintuitive. For example, if getting a massage is what it will take to get you to be able to have enough energy to pour yourself into a high priority project, then getting a massage may be the highest priority. And don’t forget to factor into the prioritization to do your most challenging tasks when you have the most energy to tackle them. For most people, this is in the morning. Make lists and cross items off of the list once they are completed. It may sound trite and obvious but the reason that this item is such a cornerstone of success tips is because it actually works. Try not to overwhelm yourself with this list. If you make a large to-do list, consider that this is helping you so none of your mental energy has to be directed towards keeping track of any of it. But break it into smaller ones, specifically smaller goals. Often, you will not be able to plot out the entire process of something being brought to fruition because many of the steps, you can’t see yet. This is ok, plan to add to this to-do list and re-assess priorities daily. It is ok if the process looks like finishing the first step and seeing what the second step is then taking that second step and seeing what the third step is. If this is the case, just keep putting one foot in front of the other until the idea is brought to life. Focus on the first priority item all the way to completion until moving on to the next. The only exception to this rule should be if something that is truly higher priority comes up. Truly productive people focus on completion of a task. When it comes to productivity, it is better if open-ended items bother you. If they don’t, your energy can become scattered and scattered energy is a recipe for lack of productivity. You are really going to have to be honest with yourself if you have the capacity to multi task. Even if you can, you have to admit it may not be the best idea if you want to really focus on something through to completion. Also, it is a real energy boost to be able to cross something off of your list so it is no longer looming over your head. Become aware of where your energy is going. People often feel confused about their lack of productivity without consciously realizing that their energy is not actually going towards what they are wanting and without realizing what their focus is actually on. One of the most eye opening things you can do is to keep track of yourself over the course of a few days. Keep a journal with you and write down what you are doing and for how long. Every time you change focus or do something else, write it down. For example: 8:00-8:20 getting ready in bathroom. 8:20-8:45 eating breakfast. 8:45-9:15 driving to work and listening to self esteem podcast. 9:15- 9:20, walking from parking garage to desk. 9:20 – 11:00 in a marketing meeting. 11:00- 11:20 arguing with girlfriend over the phone. You get the point. At the end of the exercise, assess where your time and energy is actually going and how you feel about that. It usually blows people away how little energy they are putting towards the things they actually want and need to put energy towards. And don’t be surprised if you find that you spend a lot more time thinking about doing things than actually doing them. Be aware of when the time has come to delegate and when that time does come, delegate. Productivity slows when there is too much on one person’s plate. That person includes you. The day will come when the only way to remain productive or become more productive is to get help or hire people and productivity is exponentially increased when those people you delegate tasks to are even better at doing them than you are. De-clutter. One thing that people don’t realize impedes productivity and forward movement is when space is not cleared for that movement and for the new. The environment you work in absolutely impacts your energy and effectiveness. Throw away or store old papers. Clean your workspace. Delete things from your computer you don’t need anymore or put it all in one place and store it all externally. Create the space for clarity. Be in control of your canvas. One of the most important parts of the de-cluttering process is to make sure not to clutter your awareness or space before you focus on a task. For example, if you wanted to write a book, checking your e-mail first before you sit down to write will clutter your mind with other people’s energy, things other people want from you and answers you have to give. Looking at the news may create a clutter of new worries. Cluttering your morning with some small tasks before you get down to your main focus may deplete you and scatter your energy. Simplify, simplify, simplify. It is critical to remove tangible and intangible distractions. When you feel a lull in productivity happening, stop and re-evaluate. Don’t be afraid of doing this. Being able to switch horses mid stream is a quality of highly successful people. It is highly unproductive to continue doing something that does not work or that is not effective in the way you’re going about it. It is necessary to step back, re-assess the situation, see the big picture (including what’s working and what isn’t, what needs to change, your relationship to the whole thing) and to be able to change course if need be. Set up systems. Systems are nothing more than repeatable processes and they are entirely within your control. For example, a goal might be “I want to be in a romantic relationship”. A system would be “on Monday I’m going to single’s night. On Tuesday I’m going to the dog park and I’m going to initiate talking to three new people”. Productivity goes through the roof when people focus on systems. This is the step where automation of repetitive tasks and creating habits you can stick to comes into play. In a company, setting up systems is critical. It’s the only way that success can be replicated and new people can be hired into the company without having to re-invent the wheel every time. The struggle is part of the process of creation. No matter how motivated you are, you will have times where you just aren’t. Times where no matter what you do, it isn’t feeling in-alignment. This is distinctly different than lacking intrinsic motivation. We all have bad days. Embrace the struggle and use it to re-evaluate instead of immediately thinking that the struggle means it’s time to doubt the whole thing in it’s entirely. Sometimes, we need to stop fighting and take a rest. Ironically when we do this, often times we release our resistance to the struggle just enough that a solution naturally arises. Expecting that if it’s meant to be, everything will go smoothly or according to plan is not being in reality. It doesn’t work that way for anyone. Many people feel blindsided by struggle, set backs and failures and they give up when they encounter these things. But success is really about accepting that this is par for the course. It’s about riding the waves of motivation and streamlining your focused energy towards it’s highest and best use all the way to the completion of whatever it is you are wanting to produce.
  7. We all want to know that we are loved. But how do you know if you are loved? This is one of the most important questions you can ask yourself relative to your relationships. No one can feel loved with a “fair-weather” partner or friend. In other words, a person who disconnects and un-commits the minute things get hard or inconvenient or painful. But there is serious danger in our love being defined by the opposite extreme. A shocking amount of people either consciously or subconsciously believe that they know someone loves them if that person is willing to stay committed to them no matter what. This essentially means, if they remain connected and committed through suffering; even if they, themselves are the one causing that suffering. This type of thinking opens the door for rationalized subconscious abuse. The definition of an unsafe relationship is a relationship with someone who cannot take you as part of themselves and therefore cannot take your best interests as part of their best interests. This is a state of disconnection. In a state of disconnection, someone cannot see you, feel you, hear you and understand you to even know what your best interests really are. They become un-attuned. Most people think that love is to feel intensely positive towards something or someone. This is not the case. This can be a byproduct of love. To love something is to take it as a part of yourself. If you take something as a part of you, you do not perceive yourself to be separate from that thing and so you can perceive it fully and you seriously take its best interests into account. To understand more about this, watch my video titled: How To Create A Safe Relationship. If you take something as a part of you, you can’t hurt that thing without hurting yourself. The reality is that many people had adult caregivers in their early life that did not do this. Instead, they expected their children to be in pain in one way or another for their sake. The child’s boundaries (which includes thoughts, feelings, preferences, aversions, needs, and desires) were not considered. The caregivers did what was best for themselves and the kids had to go along with it. The kids are praised for doing so. They begin to from a link between the self-sacrifice and endurism and love. This may suit the caregivers in the short term, but they are setting up their children for an adulthood where they do this to the people in their life and this is done to them by the people in their life. This pattern becomes very dangerous because they will find themselves on either side of the following pattern in their adult relationships: One person does something to make the other person feel unloved, it doesn’t have to be something extreme, it could even be something small and unconscious, like looking at someone else. It creates insecurity in the other person. They disconnect in order to preserve themselves. But to re-establish security in the relationship, they begin to ‘test’ the love the other person has for them. Because their subconscious way of knowing if someone loves them is if that person remains connected and committed even though they are suffering. So, they subconsciously begin to put the other person in pain. The ways they go about doing this range all the way from overt physical, mental and emotional abuse to beginning to make decisions that are not in the best interests of the other person to no longer recognizing their limits to creating situations that seem totally beyond their control, but that cause the other person distress… Any situation where how the other person acts and what they decide to do when they are in that pain, indicates that person’s level of commitment and connection and desire for them. People who are in the position of being caused pain in this scenario will immediately revert back to their original behavior of proving their love by staying committed and connected no matter what. Their “I’ll suffer to be with you” mentality is now what establishes the security in the relationship. I want you to think about that, the holding pattern inherent in this relationship pattern is that for one or both people in the relationship, the security in the relationship and the knowing of how much your partner or friend loves you is defied by how much they will suffer to be with you or suffer for your best interests. It goes without saying that this is where the recognition of a person’s limits goes right out the window in a relationship. An interesting thing to note is that love is not actually present in this relationship. One person has to go into a state of endurism and to do so, must cease to take his or her own best interests as a part of themselves. They must self sacrifice, which is the opposite of self love. So, one party has to stop loving themselves. To understand more about this pattern, it may help you to watch my video titled: Endurism (The Flip Side of Escapism). The other person has to disconnect from the other to begin to say and do things that put them in pain. When they become ok with the other person being in pain so they can selfishly feel loved by them, they are by definition no longer taking the other person as a part of themselves. So they are not loving them. It becomes a rather ironic twist whereby to have the other person’s love for them proven, they, themselves must cease to love. You may notice that you flip flop between both roles in one relationship and you may also play one role in one relationship and the opposite role in another relationship. So you can understand this pattern better, I will give you an example. A couple struggles with money. The woman in the relationship loses her tolerance for it and makes the comment “Why couldn’t I have just married a millionaire?” This makes the man feel unloved and immediately doubt the security of the relationship. Instead of really putting his energy toward financial wellbeing, he begins to test her love by subconsciously putting minimal effort towards improving their financial situation and plays video games or goes to the bar when he could be looking for ways to improve their situation instead. Their financial situation stays bad or gets worse. She suffers, but he feels more loved as months go by and years go by and she is still choosing to be in the relationship with him despite their poverty and the suffering it causes her. He feels even more loved when she suffers even more by putting all her time and energy into improving the financial situation for the both of them. And she looks at her willingness to suffer that much with him instead of getting another, more affluent partner as a measure and gesture of her love for him as well. Her willingness to suffer and stay connected and committed anyway becomes their barometer for the security of the relationship and the amount she loves him. If this is a pattern in your relationships, it means your wires are crossed. They are crossed so badly that your definition of love is in fact the exact opposite of actual love. To love something implies an intolerance for its suffering. This is part of why it is so critical to swallow the reality of incompatibility. If you have this relationship pattern, incompatible relationships and the indescribable pain they cause will be the relationships in which you feel the most loved and think you love the other person the most. Your relationships will devolve into feeling shame (like in any incompatible relationship does) but then, you will feel even more loved because they stay with you no matter how ‘bad’ you are and you stay with them no matter how ‘bad’ they are. To understand more about this, watch my video titled: Incompatibility, a harsh reality in relationships. If you recognize this pattern in yourself, don’t judge yourself as bad for it. It’s totally understandable why it exists and that it makes you feel loved or loving. You simply have to recognize that the moral of the story is that it is impossible to create a feel-good relationship with the security in the relationship and the knowing of how much a person loves you being based on how much they will suffer to be with you or suffer for your best interests. And it is impossible to be in a good relationship with yourself when you define your love for someone based on your willingness to suffer to be with them or suffer for their best interests. It isn’t even ultimately loving towards them. What is in another person’s best interests is for them to be with someone who really appreciates and enjoys them and sees them as a source of pleasure, not to be with someone whose truth is “it hurts me to be with you or do this for you.” The security in a relationship and the measure of whether someone loves you, is based on their commitment to your wellbeing. Let this be your way of loving other people and let this be your way of loving yourself.
  8. 14 downloads

    The Problem With What Resonates With You
  9. It's here! The recording of Teal's last Online workshop - Part 1 and Part 2
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    Online Workshop OCT 2019 - 1/2

    Here is the full UPSET exercise - At the most basic level, an upset is really about four things: An intention that is being prevented or opposed An undelivered communication A past wound that is unhealed and was re-activated by whatever happened An unfulfilled expectation An upset can be about one or all of these things. What happened? In this situation, did I have a desire or intention that was being prevented or opposed? If so, how? What did that make me feel? Why specifically did that make me feel so upset? What did it make me feel like I might never be able to have or get? Did I communicate my feelings, thoughts, desires, needs and anything else I needed to communicate in a way that felt authentic and true to what is real about me in this situation? If I did that or even if I didn’t, did I feel like the other person or people involved in the situation actually felt me and saw me and heard me so as to really understand me? Did I feel as if what I needed to communicate and my personal truth was received? If not, what was my perception about how the communication was or wasn’t expressed and was or wasn’t received? What painful experience in my past could this be a reflection of? What experience might have been unresolved that this situation is bringing up into my consciousness again? In that past unresolved situation, what did I need in order to feel resolved? How can I meet those needs to create that feeling of resolution relative to this situation, which is a repeat of the last one, so it can be different this time? In many situations, we are not even aware of what situation or past wound is being reflected in our present life because when situations are non resolvable, we stuff them into our subconscious. For this reason, I have created a process for discovering and resolving these past wounds that are causing recurrent painful patterns and upsets in our adult life. It is called the Completion Process. You can learn this process in my book that is quite literally titled: The Completion Process. In this situation, take a look at the expectations you had and how they were unfulfilled. What did I expect to happen? What did I expect them to think? What did I expect them to feel? What did I expect them to say? What did I expect them to do? What do I expect them to do now to resolve the upset? What did I expect myself to think? What did I expect myself to feel? What did I expect myself to say? What did I expect myself to do? What do I expect myself to do now to resolve the upset?
  11. The vast majority of people find their way to spirituality and self help through pain. This means they are in a state of distress. When people are in pain/distress they want two things, they want to heal (which is actual resolution for the problem itself) and they want immediate relief from the pain. But these two things can often be like two roads diverging in opposing directions. You are familiar with anesthetics, otherwise known as painkillers such as Novocain or Morphine. The benefits of anesthetics go without saying. But there is a downside to them if they are used in the wrong situations or the wrong ways. Pain exists for a reason. Pain is always the indication that something needs to be paid attention to, done or changed so a person can come back into alignment with wellbeing. For example, the pain of touching a hot stove is calling you to remove your hand. If you could not feel the pain, you would leave your hand on the stove and burn it completely. It is this misuse of painkillers that we need to be concerned with relative to spirituality. To understand more about this, you can watch my video titled: Spiritual Bypassing. Physical anesthetics aren’t the only kind of painkiller. There are many painkillers that are behavioral and mental that can prove to be just as powerful as far as coping mechanisms go. What I want you to understand is that a coping mechanism infers no actual healing and no actual change. A coping mechanism is by definition a specific alteration that you make mentally, emotionally or physically so that you can manage or adapt to something that is causing you stress. It implies that you are not getting out of a distressing or painful situation, but rather finding ways to live with it. And for so many people, spirituality is just one giant coping mechanism. Religions have been teaching their congregations to use spirituality (and the different beliefs and practices inherent in it) as a coping mechanism for thousands of years. To learn more about this, watch my video titled: Spirituality, The Great Coping Mechanism. I will never forget the first time I was hired to give a talk at a spiritual event many years ago. It was one of those expos where there are hundreds of booths selling spiritual products and over 30 speakers were hired and scheduled to speak throughout the event. Watching the people wander from room to room to listen to the speakers and watching them with their newly bought products reminded me of watching people in another place I had been… A methadone clinic. It was there that I coined the term “Novocain Spirituality”. Spirituality can take you down either road, the road of expansion, awareness and healing. Or the road of coping, numbing, delusion and substitute addiction. Novocain spirituality is the latter. Novocain spirituality is those spiritual or self help beliefs, techniques, processes and products that do absolutely nothing to create awareness, expansion and change. Instead, it serves as a way to avoid or escape pain. I’m going to tell you something sad. Many people, even teachers don’t know the difference. They can’t tell the difference between a coping mechanism and something that is genuinely healing and beneficial long term. What they experience is pain relief and assume something is being healed. Feeling better because you had an injection of Novocain does not mean the broken bone is mended. And many genuinely healing things can in fact cause more pain in the short term. Many people don’t use these ‘Novocain’ thoughts or techniques in the right way at the right time. A sadder truth still is that many people in the spiritual field don’t care whether the spirituality they are delivering is simply Novocain or not. They don’t care because coping and numbing and delusion and substitute addiction is what they, themselves are doing. They don’t care because it is immediate relief. It is what people are desperate for. Because of this, it is easy to sell and it guarantees to keep on selling. People flock to events and sit in the seats eager to get their “hit” of good feeling stuff. But because it is being used as a coping mechanism, nothing in their life actually changes. So their only hope of feeling good again is to come back for a hit again. These seminars and products fail to actually benefit someone at this point, instead, they become like a ‘fix’. People become addicted to Novocain spirituality for the same reason that people get addicted to painkillers. To understand more about addiction, watch my video titled: Addiction and How To Overcome Addiction. Am I advocating for no Novocain? No. In fact, I will directly tell people to use these thoughts, beliefs, tools and techniques. Many of them are incredibly powerful and beneficial tools. What I am advocating for is for these things to be used consciously in the right times and right situations. Let me give you an example. Positive focus exercises can be used to pull yourself out of a downward spiral so you can actually focus on those steps that you need to take. They can also be used to bypass things that really need to change in your life. Using the metaphor, the first is Novocain used properly. The second is Novocain used improperly. Almost any spiritual or self-help technique that makes you feel better (some definitely more than others) have the potential to serve as spiritual Novocain. Here is just a tiny list of things that could serve as spiritual Novocain: Positive focus exercises Gratitude exercises Religious or spiritual beliefs Meditation Present moment exercises Thoughts like “Anything that is happening is supposed to happen” “The physical is just an illusion” “It is what it is” “The universe will take care of it” “Darkness is always drawn to light” “We are all one” “All there is, is love” “You create your own reality” “It’s all perfect and in divine plan” etc. You will notice that thoughts that cause you to feel superior or safe or good or justified pose a particular risk. Talking with Spirit Guides and Angels Positive somatic resourcing Crystals Essential oils Positive oracle decks Listening to inspirational speeches Affirmations Prayer Religious rituals or mantras Spiritual ‘medicines’ including shamanic plants and/or their compounds Retreats Workshops, Seminars and expos Yoga Energy Work Notice how several of these things that could serve as spiritual Novocain could just as easily serve to help someone awaken? This is one reason why it’s so hard for people to recognize when they are mis-using a spiritual or self help tool. It is dangerous when we find ourselves in situations that are absolutely changeable, where we do have the power to diminish or eradicate the stressor, to not realize it. In these situations, in accordance with the illusion of powerlessness we perceive in ourselves, we simply immediately indulge in our Novocain style spiritual or self-help coping mechanism instead of actually making necessary changes to our life. When you are looking to get out of distress, you run the risk of selecting a spiritual belief and a spiritual teacher who enables, validates or creates the coping mechanism. When this happens, your ego has hijacked your spiritual practice so as to keep you away from feeling pain no matter the cost. In order to become fully conscious and to make the right choice of spiritual tool to use or to give to other people at a given time, we have to see the shadow side of all of our spiritual tools. If you are interested in letting go of your coping mechanisms, including spiritual Novocain, watch my video titled: How To Let Go of a Coping Mechanism. Take a look at the spiritual or self help thoughts, tools, techniques or practices that make you feel better. Make a list of them. How do they help you deal with distress? These tools may genuinely benefit you. But for the sake of this exercise, play the game of devil’s advocate. From this perspective, look for and argue the points against these things. How could each one be a pain killer like coping mechanism? If each one was a coping mechanism, what potential downsides could there be to that coping mechanism? How does each one not work? By doing this exercise, you can become aware of some of the potential spiritual Novocain in your life. You can open your mind wide enough to see the potential shadow side of every spiritual and self-help belief or tool you have become attached to. By doing this, you are less likely to succumb to the tool so that it uses you, instead of you using it. Awareness after all, is the primary agent for change. I am asking you to develop genuine consciousness by taking each one of the spiritual beliefs and spiritual practices you have and ask yourself with an attitude of curious philosophical exploration: How could this potentially be a detriment to me and to those around me and to the world at large? What could be the negative side of this belief or practice? So often people think they are becoming conscious and awakening, when in fact they are just developing stronger and stronger coping mechanisms. Stronger and stronger coping mechanisms that will backfire one day or that currently harm themselves and the world around them. You can relate to this by imagining that someone thinks they are healing when in fact, they have just managed to hook themselves up to a morphine drip. Be sure that those things that belong to the spiritual and self-help world are things you are using for your expansion, awareness and healing rather than coping, delusion or numbing.
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    Meaning

    An important message for today. Teal did an Ask Teal episode about this here - Meaning
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