The Mirror Event - Sydney 2018 - Day 1 - Part 1/3


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On 7/5/2018 at 11:08 PM, honeyrabbit said:

I'm just wondering, why doesn't CBT work?

One possibility could be that it encourages resistance because it's treating the suppressed aspect as a negative problem that needs to be changed so your conscious aspect doesn't have to deal with the unhelpful behaviors that are symptomatic of the suppressed aspect, instead of accepting that aspect 

Also, i think because of the 'cognitive' approach, it could be very cerebral and maybe doesn't pay as much attention to the emotional body and the realities of early childhood trauma that is stored there

Finally, it's just another coping mechanism that will run it's course until it stops working as effectively! ?

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On 7/7/2018 at 2:32 AM, Saarah said:

One possibility could be that it encourages resistance because it's treating the suppressed aspect as a negative problem that needs to be changed so your conscious aspect doesn't have to deal with the unhelpful behaviors that are symptomatic of the suppressed aspect, instead of accepting that aspect 

Also, i think because of the 'cognitive' approach, it could be very cerebral and maybe doesn't pay as much attention to the emotional body and the realities of early childhood trauma that is stored there

Finally, it's just another coping mechanism that will run it's course until it stops working as effectively! ?

Oh okay, that makes sense. Thank you for the response.

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Hi I just did the exercise 

Your favourite colour: 

I wrote Purple 

three deep reasons 

- Passionate, Powerful, and Angelic 

Eagle 

Insightful, Free flying able to travel high above problems, Perspective

Rain 

Clearing, emotion, helps me sleep

Can you tell me what this is saying about me? 

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00:10 - My problem is that by becoming more authentic and speaking my truth to people, I’ve been losing so many people. It feels right but it hurts, people take active steps to hurt me, I don’t know how to deal with that, how do I come to a place of feeling safe?

23:54 – I have a couple questions
1) what do you see in me?
2) I have a skin picking compulsion which I don’t know how to heal from
Includes @ 52:32 – 1:02:57 – The three questions game (Relational Psychology)

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I have a picking compulsion too that I used to get in trouble for and yelled at. I always felt my parents hated me, especially my stepdad and yes gas lighting was how I was raised, it was their parenting style. i feel like laughing but it wasn't funny...

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On 7/5/2018 at 6:08 PM, honeyrabbit said:

I'm just wondering, why doesn't CBT work?

I have heard CBT described as a process of questioning the negative thoughts that arise in you to see if they are "true," and then, often, to tell yourself that they are wrong. From what we know now about shadow aspects, the inner child, and early trauma, CBT sounds an awful lot like invalidation, self-abuse and gaslighting the inner child --- CBT, from how it was described to me, is about the exact opposite of what Teal teaches.

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Oh gosh! That second conversation ... I can't describe it differently than just actively cringing with my whole body while I'm watching it. I am literally shaking my whole body just wants to get it out like I'm in a very disgusting liquid or covered with bugs or something. I've never trully trusted myself like this before in relation to my dad being a gaslighter. In general I have trouble trusting in anything that I do and I've been seeing myself as disgusting and never knowing why I felt this way. Because everyone else always says, your dad is so loving to you and such a good dad and a good listener for a man. Reality is he's never ever in m life looked at me and saw something nice. Never ever! Oh gosh that's so disgusting. 

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