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FINANCIAL ANXIETY

Financial anxiety is real, absolutely valid and makes sense to worry about for many women.


See, you can have millions on your savings account but if you have nothing valuable to offer, you  basically live a life of a parasite who only consumes-consumes-consumes.... leaving piles of _____ from another end. Sorry, didn't mean to be so graphic, but look around... it's true.
This is why you would always worry about what you are going to do if money dissappears.

I feel that it's not the amount of money in the bank that makes me feel calm the most but rather knowing which set of skills has supported me the most so far as well as could I realistically do it again and sustain myself/my family.

Women who feel financially secure often are those who know that their professional skills simply pay off in the current economy, even in the worst case scenario.
People  who's skills are being de-valued over time face more difficult challenges as they usually end up between a rock and a hard place, especially if they are not being able to go back to school for the professions that are growing in demand.

Let's also look at HISTORY.

Physical health and wellness has always been in Great Value.


Every man who meets certain health/age standart can always join military and RISK his LIFE. In return he is provided with roof, bed, food, clothes, boots,  work to do and PAYCHECK. In US they even have you covered after you retire and that includes EDUCATION, lower taxes, discounts, priority hiring..... MEDICAL CARE.
Every soldier gets RESPECT FOR LIFE and HONOR for being a HERO.
Unfortunately men also get a cocktail shots of  vaccines into their bodies but that's for later....
The rest of men are always free to flex their muscles doing heavy construction work and re-build themselves from there .
These type of jobs are often well paid, easy to move up in rank as long as you are not illegal immigrant to take advantage of. Ohhh.... and the best part,  they often send a bus/truck to pick you up and  insure you make it to work on time, so you also save on gas!

Now let's look at the most ancient profession that has always been the most efficient way for women to get back on their feet once they swallow their morals and risk lives at the cost of being looked down at, getting pregnant, transmitting disease and sometimes killed  -  ESCORT.

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Hmmm, interesting. I think I am resonating with this a bit. I worked in sales all my life and never offered anything from my heart except kindness. Now I am not feeling the sales thing and haven't a clue what to do as I find myself with no income.

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Oh my. What didn't? I guess we all know what it feels like to come at the world from an innocent and loving place and to have someone say something to you that feels like a physical blow. I am almost 60 so I have lived many lifetimes in this one. What happened to my heart? This very cruel world we live in. I guess I am an empath so I am always aware of suffering in the world. Mine and all the rest. Not sure I can differentiate well. Can't stand to look at violence and suffering.  My first and only love many years ago destroyed any desire I had for a mate type love but I am over that. I see reinforcement everyday that makes me appreciate that I no longer spiritually or otherwise have a desire to have an ego based love mate. Even so, it is not good to have your innocent love destroyed over a few years by someone so messed up that they are verbally abusive. Fortunately, I was always stubborn and my work at the time built confidence enough to know I didn't want to live that way. Lots of bad crap happened back then. But life moved on with just the scars.

But the more recent heart pain came from about 7 years ago. I am still healing because it reinforced for me what a shitty mess this world is.  Several of my kindred spirits (soulmates) died within a couple of years of each other. At the same time my Dad (my hero and another soulmate) got Alzheimers.  I was the one he trusted and picked to look out for him but I ended up in a terrible battle with 3 of my siblings, to keep him out of a nursing home until he was ready. I think when those things happen it reinforces the lack of love and communication in a given family. We are mostly ok now but it was a very long, lonely and difficult trip. I felt panic through most of it.  Then deep and long lasting depression set in along with financial destruction (I had been earning 6 figures).  I am deeply hurt by the lack of loyalty in all of humanity.   And so, like many I find myself on this spiritual journey. I have come to things on my own that I am now finding some reinforcement for online. I have come a long way but I am not in the clear yet. I do look for the little things to smile about. I just can't get to a place of enjoying life yet. I don't believe this life is conducive to sustaining happiness or obviously even life. I guess my disapointment is still such that I don't enjoy being here and I think it is kind of like the first love.  A slow destruction.   I feel incapable of earning a living in any way I have in the past. I haven't found a new way though I am hoping it will be artistically. I won't kill myself, at least I don't feel like I would. I wouldn't do that to my adult son and I don't want to  have to live in another shitty life. I really need spring and it's almost here and I need to get back to where I can commune with nature. Let me tell you though, the wild animals have a really tough existence. They deal with all the elements and every day is survival to eat and to escape being eaten. So as healing as it is in nature, you see more horror and pain. I don't need a lot.  Just a safe place from which to try to bring a moment of love to the people I encounter along the way. I try to do no harm and offer a bit of kindness to others to maybe help them on their hard path.

And then I am tired. I feel so tired and worn out. I only want to put positive energy into the world and I am getting there. I so wish the universe would let me lean comfortably on something for a while. I have been virtually homeless all winter. I have a piece of land I will move onto this spring. I will find a way to resource materials to build another tiny house. It's been a tough winter both in the conditions I have been living in and while I know it's likely more of the journey.  I feel I am aware enough to know that, not enough to know what the fuck I am supposed to be doing. I don't know how to climb out.  I do have a warm space via a friend but it leaves a bit to be desired.  I guess I feel like if I don't find a happy place I don't think I will be able to stay and a part of me wants to stay and find a way to have some happy times. I just really need the universe to give me some "money/manna from heaven". I unfortunately can't live with out it. I physically don't think I can work a job. I can't seem to sell anything anymore so what the hell to do....

Sorry for the long dissertation but that's a big question you ask.

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@Girl In The Woods,

Thank you for your reply.

Intuitively I feel that you are on the right path as " In the King James Version of the Bible the text reads: 7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye. shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: 8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh."

And since the journey has brought you here, then you probably already know that there is more to life than meets the eye.

12 hours ago, Girl In The Woods said:

Let me tell you though, the wild animals have a really tough existence. They deal with all the elements and every day is survival to eat and to escape being eaten. So as healing as it is in nature, you see more horror and pain.

Yes, life can be very cruel but the difference between animals and us is that we have different intellects. We think thoughts and it affects how we feel. Thoughts give us power to manipulate energy and circumstances around us, so we don't have to fall at the mercy with what happens to us and to the things we can't control.

12 hours ago, Girl In The Woods said:

And so, like many I find myself on this spiritual journey. I have come to things on my own that I am now finding some reinforcement for online. I have come a long way but I am not in the clear yet. I do look for the little things to smile about

If you wish to feel alive and heal your heart wounds much faster, re-connect with that which screams life the most to you. Often times for us women, our natural longing for purity, beauty and childishness is where we begin to bloom with life the most.

Ask yourself how do you feel about taking care  of plants, animals and children.

It's no coincidence that the older we get, the more we feel connection to the ground. Starting a small garden, watching it grow, caring for it and then gathering its fruit and seeds gives us a very good sense of accomplishment and something to look forward again. Living with nature's cycles and seasons is familiar to us.

Animals have always been our life companions. Their unconditional love and presence brings us joy to be around them. Animals are a lot like little children, only more self-sufficient, yet still rely on us for care.

12 hours ago, Girl In The Woods said:

 I do have a warm space via a friend

I am glad to hear you have a friend. Realize how much it is and let it sink into you. 

One of the ways women have not gone the wrong way is when they are together.

A woman may not always be capable of supporting herself financially, but when she has a sister or two - they can make it and support each other through anything. 

I usually check on the forum every day. @Girl In The Woods you are welcome to PM me any time.

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10 hours ago, Garnet said:

@Girl In The Woods,

Thank you for your reply.

Intuitively I feel that you are on the right path as " In the King James Version of the Bible the text reads: 7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye. shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: 8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh."

And since the journey has brought you here, then you probably already know that there is more to life than meets the eye.

Yes, life can be very cruel but the difference between animals and us is that we have different intellects. We think thoughts and it affects how we feel. Thoughts give us power to manipulate energy and circumstances around us, so we don't have to fall at the mercy with what happens to us and to the things we can't control.

If you wish to feel alive and heal your heart wounds much faster, re-connect with that which screams life the most to you. Often times for us women, our natural longing for purity, beauty and childishness is where we begin to bloom with life the most.

Ask yourself how do you feel about taking care  of plants, animals and children.

It's no coincidence that the older we get, the more we feel connection to the ground. Starting a small garden, watching it grow, caring for it and then gathering its fruit and seeds gives us a very good sense of accomplishment and something to look forward again. Living with nature's cycles and seasons is familiar to us.

Animals have always been our life companions. Their unconditional love and presence brings us joy to be around them. Animals are a lot like little children, only more self-sufficient, yet still rely on us for care.

I am glad to hear you have a friend. Realize how much it is and let it sink into you. 

One of the ways women have not gone the wrong way is when they are together.

A woman may not always be capable of supporting herself financially, but when she has a sister or two - they can make it and support each other through anything. 

I usually check on the forum every day. @Girl In The Woods you are welcome to PM me any time.

Dear Garnet,

Thank you for your kind wisdom and reinforcement.

I resonate with the desire for purity and childish joy. I love the plants and animals and children, though I feel that I cannot be responsible for other life that relies too heavily on me right now, except to garden.   I have all I can do to take care of me and not doing that so well but  yes open to the parts of life that remain a mystery. Seeking that which might make it worth more.   

I am a little 'tech verbage' challenged. What do you mean by PM you?

Thank you again for the time you have taken. 

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Being the Queen-Mother of my Kindom is a job in itself but that doesn't always mean I can carry the title into any workplace and expect to hold the same level of authority.

In my case, there are literally few places where I can potentially work comfortably without feeling of being constantly stepped on. Even starting my own business requires me to re-evaluate what would be the most beneficial and safe way for me to be seen that is in alignment with my personality, integrity and morals.

Think about this: how many of you had a very petite female boss or manager? Now add an angelic face and see how easy you could take her orders seriously. 

Working in retail has been very successful for me. I dressed business  casual most of the time and that has always been in my favor when it comes to working with people. However, if you would put me in charge over a gas station, I would be surely be on the road to trouble.

Seeing retail market slowly turning into an empty museum stresses me out. Not only because it's been my personal go-to place and back bone I can actually use, but also because how well retail suits women! No, the pay may not always cover all the bills and expenses unless you make it to the top and also depends on the country/state you are in. But at the same time, it is relatively reliable source of income or extra income for many women. You can choose from easy part-time job to more advance full-time position and enjoy "shopping" every day if that's your call while getting paid + you get a discount. 

What's interesting when looking back , as a former store manager I was like a Mother to my girls. Now luckily I only had to manage like 10.... and we were very close: I listened to every problem under the sun... from a sudden menstruation to that infinite   boyfriend problem, then wiped tears and back to work. And if i was short-handed, i could easily use the next door store associate thanks to working for a large multi-store company. 

What other jobs do you know that provide the same or similar level of sisterhood and comfort for women?

 

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